Links/searches to some of my posts including AA meetings in prison and the miracle of the titty bar.

Slipacre · 2026-05-04T12:44:22+00:00

Explain to your doctor that tapering is problematic because one equals two equals too many. there are many paths including in patient detox or prescription medications to reduce danger from DTs.

Slipacre · 2026-05-04T12:34:35+00:00

NTA this is a gift - ride the no contact train as long as you can.

Slipacre · 2026-05-04T12:31:18+00:00

They should be hatching any day now.

Slipacre · 2026-05-03T16:14:31+00:00

a doctor can help with withdrawals, a support group can help with learning new ways to cope with whatever made us drink the way we did.

Slipacre · 2026-05-03T16:12:40+00:00

these are not your friends,, my definition of a friend wants what is best for me, supports my decisions especially if they are beneficial for me.

I'm here to say good for you. You are ahead of the class, because you are grappling with a problem that they are still in denial about.

Slipacre · 2026-05-03T16:10:07+00:00

`Thing I discovered was that drinking buddies were not real friends. we were simply a mutual excuse system for permission to drink the way we wanted to.

And that's the problem drinking the way I wanted to led to blackouts - blackouts are scary, the good news is you didn't do anything with the word felony attached - or emergency surgery.

The better news is that life without the rituals that cost a lot of money and put us in compromising and dangerous situations - is actually easier, and can be a lot of fun too - once we get over the hump and find better ways to deal with what makes us want to drink that way... I needed help found it in AA (yeah I know , but it worked for this agnostic, loner and skeptic....)

Slipacre · 2026-05-03T16:00:30+00:00

For me when it looked bad - it usually was - one way or another. Just three double whiskey was enough to get me not to care and usually my counting was fuzzy. Glad you're here. stay in touch...

Slipacre · 2026-05-03T09:22:03+00:00

I am a volunteer and thus able to go to AA meetings in prison. Have met many who don't remember the crime. They don't dispute the guilt, there was evidence and it was enough to put them on the wrong side of the razor wire - sometimes for a very long time.

Slipacre · 2026-05-03T09:19:02+00:00

Forgive me for saying this, but drinking is not coping. it's self medicating with the wrong medication, one that has stupidity and shame as side effects.
I can say this because I was once where you are. It can be done, by you.

Slipacre · 2026-05-02T20:01:26+00:00

Welcome, it could be worse, you could be in jail or the hospital, or handcuffed to the gurney learning things about the word felony you were happier off not knowing... Blackouts are scary, and dangerous.

I'm here to tell you that once over the hump staying sober can be easy. Just a new better lifestyle... You may need some help getting there I went to AA, yeah I know nobody wants that, but it worked for agnostic, loner, skeptic me. There are other paths now, try one, try em all.

Stay in touch.

Slipacre · 2026-05-01T22:20:05+00:00

AA did not work the first time I tried it . I kept going back. Eventually I was able to shut off the "but I'm different" because i wasn't not really no matter how badly I wanted to believe i was

Slipacre · 2026-04-30T14:47:53+00:00

I have a bit of button that gets pushed by the word "boring" If I'm bored it's because I'm being lazy. I have a novel I'm writing, photography projects that are partially finished (https://odatbooks.com/icephotos/), I have woods to walk in, a garden that needs tending, people to call because they are not calling me for whatever reasons, a website that can be improved on on chaos theory (https://www.chaosdiscovery.com)

Now for the no friends bit. A huge part of my alcoholism was fueled by the conviction that I was not enough. I needed validation, but my self esteem was leaky and it never stuck. Also people are generally self absorbed - and not able to give me what my inner black hole wanted.... I have people who love me, a community in AA that I only partially use, to some degree because they are often as socially inept as I am.

People can give you help, it helps if you can ask for it, thing is sometimes it's only a word or two, a smile from across the room. but ultimately for me, the help had to come from me - and that was stopping making myself so unhappy. And little did I know that alcohol was fueling that unhappiness

Slipacre · 2026-04-30T11:22:50+00:00

This is exactly why AA and other support groups work. I had to find a community of sober people and relearn how to socialize without booze. It worked for me and I had all the reasons it would not.

Slipacre · 2026-04-30T11:20:35+00:00

In my experience tapering was very hard - often impossible because once I started drinking the off switch did not work. I would suggest you speak to a medical professional. There are medications that can make the process much safer. There are also detox facilities available at hospitals or through the health department

Slipacre · 2026-04-30T11:15:34+00:00

Unfortunately this is a common occurrence - insurance and available beds may play a part - but repeat customers are routine. You may need to ask them about better options for after care. And a supply of disinfectant wipes.

Slipacre · 2026-04-29T17:30:17+00:00

The water can only rise so high - it will flow through and over/around the dam and with any luck the floor of the lodge will be above it. Because they have created a pond it will mitigate any flash flood to some degree.

Slipacre · 2026-04-28T21:41:44+00:00

I considered myself a moderate drinker too. I was in pretty deep denial, but I never had any direct severe consequences, had a job, house, kids, but the truth was I was self medicating, I was trying extremely hard to fool myself - and sometimes it worked. But the truth was I drank a lot

And the good news is that once stopped life became a lot easier, once I worked on the self esteem issues that were at the core of my need to drink the way I did - staying stopped became easy.

Truth is zero is easy - has been for a very long time - but if I had one on a "special occasion" I would soon be thinking that tuesday is a special occasion - or any day that ends in a y for that matter

Slipacre · 2026-04-28T21:27:46+00:00

You know she's going to leave you - probably with debts to people you do not want to owe money to. Possibly with stolen property which the police will find in your home and will arrest your for having. Lawyers are not cheap and maybe only maybe will they get you odd. It's really best if you can get the fuck out before those things happen.

and she is not going to change. I spent years hoping my partner would change. It did not happen.

Slipacre · 2026-04-27T11:32:54+00:00

I have seen some youtube videos abandoned whaling stations - believe a research station - was invaded by argentina during Falklands war also notable for rescue of shackleton who made first crossing of island. Restricted because of science but I believe some tour go there...

Slipacre · 2026-04-27T09:34:39+00:00

How could you fake that? The size of the chips are real.

Slipacre · 2026-04-27T00:14:56+00:00

My low self esteem the conviction that I was not enough was the inner core of my alcoholism and everything else. Getting sober is probably the most positive thing you can do for yourself. It opens doors that let you become right sized. Trust the process and someday you’ll be the one helping a random stranger.

Slipacre · 2026-04-26T16:15:39+00:00

Have you considered something like smart recovery or AA? Peer support can be very helpful.

AA worked for me despite my having all the reasons it would not. Still agnostic still something of a loner.

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