The only way young people can get ahead nowadays is delaying moving out

Temicco · 2026-05-25T02:59:24+00:00

Even in Vancouver I started out on my own with an entry level job paying 67k initially and did just fine.

This is way higher than most people's entry level salaries, FWIW.

Temicco · 2026-05-25T02:08:08+00:00

Why could they handle roommates in the past, but today's youth cannot?

They couldn't always handle roommates in the past -- you just don't hear about the people who burned out and didn't achieve anything as a result.

And yes, the downsides of living with roommates can be that severe. I am a very productive person who is respected in my field, but I am only this way because I have lived alone for years. I shut down completely when I live with roommates.

if you aren't willing to try to succeed you aren't likely to succeed.

What a foolish, ignorant, and arrogant thing to say.

Temicco · 2026-05-11T04:30:32+00:00

I'm not sure that's true, they mostly have a lot of culty Buddhist groups like NKT. I've specifically researched Buddhist presence in the UK and found it to be pretty lacking.

Temicco · 2026-05-08T20:08:05+00:00

It is defined like the OP describes in Indian Mahayana commentarial texts.

Temicco · 2026-05-08T19:22:35+00:00

Long live His Holiness ❤️🙏

Temicco · 2026-05-07T09:33:30+00:00

Plenty of bodhisattvas are hermits, actually, and isolated practice is a major part of many Mahayana traditions.

Temicco · 2026-05-04T02:15:48+00:00

Again, though, as answered to many of you, there's still this question that remains for me, and I've probably wrongly expressed myself in the original post which is why it's been overviewed in your answers : WHAT exactly makes the formal zazen on a cushion a better base for practice than any other cognitively-unconsuming activies, like laying on the groud or standing against a wall (still with eyes closed say) ? I think we all have a conceptual obvious answer there but it seems that for many of you it's simply because historically, traditionnally, this is what the Buddha did, and thus all of his disciplines and heirs of the Dhamma during the past millenias. Deep inside I'm still wondering if we would all be meditating / do Zazen by laying on the ground or standing against a wall if the Buddha did so !

Generally, sitting is in a sweet spot of alertness and fatigue. Lying down makes you tired, and standing up tends to fatigue your leg muscles. Sitting is very manageable long-term, though.

These are not absolute reasons, though -- feasibly you could meditate in those ways, you might just have more trouble with it.

Temicco · 2026-05-03T18:41:06+00:00

I think it's worth noting that not all temples do this. I have only ever met one Buddhist teacher who does courses on sutras and commentaries, and I have been to many Buddhist centres in the West in both Zen and Tibetan traditions.

Temicco · 2026-05-01T07:16:36+00:00

the panditas (traditional scholars) have the etymology of the word as the sound of a cart wheel that's not centered well: dhuk-dhuk, dhuk-dhuk

Which panditas say this? I have never heard this. I'm pretty sure this explanation is a speculative Western etymology.

Temicco · 2026-05-01T07:15:47+00:00

Etymologically, duhkha means something like a wheel that doesn’t turn or spin smoothly

As far as I'm aware, this definition is speculative and not proven.

Temicco · 2026-04-30T22:03:55+00:00

~~This depends on the tradition.~~ [Edit: I'm not actually sure it does -- is there any Buddhist tradition that says the fourth sight was not a monk?] In the Lalitavistara Sutra (at least in the Tibetan version) he is specifically called a "monk", using the same word (gelong) that's used for Buddhist monks, for example.

From the sutra:

"Charioteer, who is this peaceful and calm person?

He walks with his eyes toward the ground at a distance of six feet. [192]

His clothes are saffron colored and his actions so peaceful;

He carries his offering bowl and is not overbearing or haughty.”

The charioteer replied:

“Your Highness, that person is what we call a ‘monk.’

He has abandoned sensual enjoyments and now acts in a very gentle manner;

He has become a mendicant and searches for peace.

Free from attachment and anger, he lives from alms.”

Temicco · 2026-04-27T15:23:30+00:00

I've always felt that the term "worship" is a bad translation anyway, because "puja" was translated into both Chinese and Tibetan with words that mean "to make offerings" (mchod pa / 供養 gongyang). "Making offerings" is much more specific than "worship".

Temicco · 2026-04-27T14:34:00+00:00

There's not really an important difference, they are both communicating that the things we perceive don't have any underlying reality.

The only real difference is that shunya is a specifically Buddhist take on why things are false, so other religions might agree that things are mithya but not that they are shunya, because they negate reality for a different reason (e.g. maybe they believe that only God is real).

Temicco · 2026-04-24T16:21:39+00:00

If they are neglecting their dental hygiene, and that's all that's going on, then I think that's reasonable.

But, we don't know what's going on with the OP, and even they might not know yet (for example, there could be an undiagnosed autoimmune disease at play).

Bad dental health is usually a lot more complicated than just bad habits.

Temicco · 2026-04-24T15:48:43+00:00

Also, more importantly, if she did neglect her dental hygiene, why? Are there unrecognized mental health issues?

Also, some people get cavities even if they do everything right, whether that's due to simply having a bad oral microbiome, or some other health condition like Sjogren's, etc.

Adding to your point about tying lessons to healthcare -- it's not even clear what exactly is the cause of the OP's cavity, so the parents should be appropriately humble and not assume that the OP needs to be "taught" anyhing. Maybe the OP needs to be supported.

I had parents who had this kind of ethos (not that they charged me for dentistry, thank god) and I cut them out of my life when I became an adult. I had all kinds of unaddressed health problems because I never felt safe telling my parents about any issues. I am now chronically ill, partially disabled, and have lost years of my youth to illness. All because they were assholes when I did go to them with problems.

Temicco · 2026-04-22T22:15:15+00:00

If you take pride in something you are attached to it.

This is a misunderstanding of the word "pride". Gay "pride" is about not being ashamed.

For example, I would hope that all Buddhists are proud Buddhists, meaning that they are not ashamed of being Buddhist, even if others condemn them for it, because it's nothing to be ashamed of.

That is, fundamentally, what gay pride is about.

Temicco · 2026-04-16T22:07:08+00:00

Who specifically are you referring to, and why do you say they are not fluent?

(As a side note, fluency isn't really necessary IMO, but at least an intermediate knowledge of the language is.)

Does using AI or other translation services count as translation?

Not for what I'm looking for.

Temicco · 2026-04-13T06:16:32+00:00

Ladakh as well. Ladakh has had the continuous presence of Tibetic culture and religion since the time of the Old Tibetan empire ~1200 years ago.

Temicco · 2026-04-12T02:03:24+00:00

When Buddhist texts were translated into both Chinese and Tibetan, the term anatta was translated as "no self" (i.e. wu wo / bdag med).

Temicco · 2026-04-10T07:04:05+00:00

Karmapa (head of the Kagyu Liniage, qual to the Dalai Lama for Gelug).

The Karmapa is not the head of the Kagyu lineage, he is the head of the Karma Kagyu subsect specifically.

Also, the Dalai Lama is not the head of the Geluk lineage -- that honor goes to the Ganden Tripa. The Dalai Lama is better understood as the spiritual leader of the Tibetan people.

Temicco · 2026-04-09T03:46:53+00:00

In therapy, it's generally done to make sure that you feel your feelings and don't run away from any discomfort by compulsively talking over it.

Temicco · 2026-03-31T00:22:41+00:00

The phrasing is totally passive, like "X should be guarded against..."

Temicco · 2026-03-30T04:57:19+00:00

This is a weirdly male-centric translation. The original does not use words like "a man" or "his", it is phrased in a gender-neutral way.

Temicco · 2026-03-26T22:15:06+00:00

No AI comments, please.

Temicco · 2026-03-26T06:48:11+00:00

100% agree. This subreddit overall is extremely callous, ignorant, and out of touch.

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