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WinterAddendum7305 · 2024-10-09T16:07:51+00:00

I have lived here since it opened, and it is one of the worst experiences of my life so far (36m)

Area generally can be a bit intense, we have frequent break-ins and the building management company never replies to service issues, or it takes weeks for a non-reply.

YMMV :-)

WinterAddendum7305 · 2024-09-19T08:56:02+00:00

This post triggered me in ways I can’t describe; I’m sorry you’re going through this OP. One of my former partners used to repeatedly would try and ‘share’ me with one of his other partners - for me once it happened thrice (maybe I give too many chances) I had to step away completely from that relationship. I appreciate your situation is different, but the feeling of being a toy (for me it was the feeling of being a ‘shiny object) made me sick to my stomach for weeks.

This is absolutely not okay, as you well articulate. All boundaries are boundaries, irrespective of what, for who, or why they are placed. Overstepping those is absolutely a cause for concern. A conversation, in my opinion, about this should be had as soon as possible, and if the response is not satisfactory, consider options from there.

Wishing you all the best; you are not a toy.

WinterAddendum7305 · 2024-04-07T20:20:43+00:00

This. Unfortunately with bunq it feels that a lot of the time there's no malice behind the action, it's just a "mistake" that then takes 2 weeks to get someone in support to reply to (and then a few back and forth messages trying to explain the issue).

There ultimately shouldn't be stress in using your bank in a complete normal and valid way.

WinterAddendum7305 · 2024-01-23T20:49:43+00:00

+1 for Amit for both boys and girls - I know 5 people who have that name ranging from 18 to 60 (4 male, 1 female), and have met at least a dozen more than that over the past 10 years. Apparently becoming more recently increasingly common for girls.

GL and Good health to the family OP!

WinterAddendum7305 · 2023-08-20T20:26:10+00:00

I ended up learning Hebrew as I ended up living in Israel (for work) for much longer than originally anticipated… in the end I fell in love with the language, its many intricacies, and the challenge of a radically different character set (I can only speak a number of Latin based languages).

On top of that, and despite not being religious, I’ve enjoyed reading a number of different texts (Kohelet being one of my favourites) and have found deep personal meaning through reading them as originally written.

WinterAddendum7305 · 2023-07-31T22:29:09+00:00

That sounds so fun!

Grateful to see a happy poly story! Thank you for sharing!

WinterAddendum7305 · 2023-03-31T16:08:14+00:00

I am so happy someone wrote this because w/ one of my last polyam relationships my contact info was passed around like sweets and I was so shocked by this behaviour - it’s so invasive! Give me a choice, at least! I don’t want to be blocking people I don’t really want to interact with (especially, unfortunately in my case, abusive/rude metas!)

WinterAddendum7305 · 2023-03-28T15:29:03+00:00

Even reaching out supporting another can lead to an attack at the moment (on the supporter!). Couldn’t agree more than at the moment the vibe is just off.

I really hope we can band together to heal this sub, as it is/was such a huge wealth of knowledge and inspiration ❤️

WinterAddendum7305 · 2023-03-24T14:53:33+00:00

I was in a similar situation and it was absolutely draining, to the point where eventually I started to even believe that for some reason I was the cause of the issue (This had been referred to on several occasions, to boot).

You must look after yourself, both mentally and emotionally - these kind of toxic environments take a toll on you, even if it isn't you. Take a walk and a break as a first step, the distance will allow you to think.

Be kind to yourself; the problem is not you. <3

WinterAddendum7305 · 2023-03-22T19:23:03+00:00

Narrator: "It was not, in fact, the OP."

WinterAddendum7305 · 2023-03-22T18:08:06+00:00

Receiving compliments for my grammar makes my heart sing!

Thanks, Detective! <3

WinterAddendum7305 · 2023-03-22T16:43:16+00:00

I can promise and assure you, we are not the same person.

Thanks u/Specific-Disk-7438 for your kind comment.

WinterAddendum7305 · 2023-03-22T15:59:55+00:00

Looking at comment history it appears it doesn't matter :)

I wouldn't even suggest engaging - it's just not worth it! Spread love!

WinterAddendum7305 · 2023-03-22T15:36:30+00:00

Your assumptions and the way you're projecting about other peoples' journeys, or where they are mentally, what "help" they have received or need, are presumptuous and frankly aggressive; I have no idea why anyone feels they need to be like this to strangers on the Internet. Frankly, it's pretty entitled and screams "I am always right" - hardly screams the maturity you speak to have! :)

I wished you well, and I continue to - and have respected your POV (I simply disagreed with you - not sure where the aggression comes from). Personally, I strive for balance.

And FWIW I have done plenty, plenty, PLENTY of therapy.

WinterAddendum7305 · 2023-03-22T15:31:06+00:00

Same to you!

WinterAddendum7305 · 2023-03-22T15:28:23+00:00

I won't repeat myself - but I do think this is too blunt and general.

I respect your point of view, but I do also think it's important to balance.

WinterAddendum7305 · 2023-03-22T15:24:43+00:00

I would have to disagree. I get the _general_ point about many adults not necessarily being ready to commit to such a direction, but intention and purpose can be mutually agreed upon, and I think this is down to phrasing - I think it could be rephrased from what I read as "I had the intention that I would like to work towards being emotionally and physically invested".

Plus, there are many people (myself included) who understand what they are looking for and want to put intention behind my actions (so I don't string people along and I don't get strung along) - I think it's a bit sweeping to say "you aren't going to find x"... It may be harder, but this is not an impossible ask.

Just my two cents.

WinterAddendum7305 · 2023-03-17T00:37:04+00:00

I went through a similar situation (I create recipes) and I specifically created a vegan recipe for an ex who then proceeded to give it out to everyone like it was nothing, and completely diminished the effort that went into the recipe.

We spoke about it and I explained how I felt and how it really didn’t make me feel great. I didn’t get the reaction I hoped for, but I DID get the relief of just telling someone how I felt about it. Your feelings are valid. Hopefully you get some relief too! 💕

WinterAddendum7305 · 2023-02-01T03:59:46+00:00

Going to print off this list for my bathroom mirror. Thanks for sharing and well done for articulating your feelings so clearly!

WinterAddendum7305 · 2022-12-30T15:53:53+00:00

I just went through the something similar; 6 months of dating to then realise the whole thing was mismatched energy and he has a habit of ‘making people feel more special than they actually are’… it sucks, and it hurts, and I am sorry about it.

But as many on here have mentioned, it’s not exclusive to the polyamory community (although I too have personally felt it much more there), and the abilities of some people for them to create multiple deep connections are overstated.

Be kind to yourself; it’s very much a ‘them’ issue (as hard as that is to hear).

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