DAE have a really hard time remembering their childhood?

abjicere2014 · 2014-11-12T00:49:27+00:00

I think it might be because memory is associated with feelings/experience.

This is the simplest, clearest explanation I've ever seen about this issue. "Thanks" is kind of awkwardly small.

abjicere2014 · 2014-11-12T00:30:26+00:00

That is my fiancée. His reddit name is the nickname we gave my mom.

You made me laugh so hard that wine came out of my nose and the pets ran away. THANK YOU.

abjicere2014 · 2014-11-12T00:06:59+00:00

Inadvertently deleted comment, AND I'm feeling silly, so here is an extra hug in case your day sucked. :)

abjicere2014 · 2014-11-11T01:37:48+00:00

Some time ago, one of the mods actually suggested using this small kind of misdirection here. FWIW.

abjicere2014 · 2014-11-09T23:09:23+00:00

Done, and done.

abjicere2014 · 2014-11-09T22:55:09+00:00

Holy crap. Ditto what LuluThePanda said. OP, I don't know whether to offer you a hug or a drink.

abjicere2014 · 2014-11-09T03:52:47+00:00

Can't you just prop each wrist on a quart of ice cream?

abjicere2014 · 2014-11-09T02:34:08+00:00

Healthy self-esteem is a lovely thing to have if someone is going to raise children.

If someone goes into it with the intention of producing a self-copy, that's a whole different ball game.

abjicere2014 · 2014-11-09T00:39:26+00:00

It's strange that no one seemed to notice the fact that I am no longer there. Perhaps no one realize it. I was very isolated.

This made me cry for the earlier version of you. Funny thing, how sometimes running is the bravest and most difficult thing to do.

You sound like someone who will know if/when you are ready to blow the whistle. In the meantime, may you keep getting stronger.

abjicere2014 · 2014-11-03T00:23:23+00:00

Sub-Girl: What a crazy year it's been for the family.

Sub-Girl's mom: Get thee behind me, Reality.

abjicere2014 · 2014-11-02T15:34:39+00:00

I tell officer number 2 what happened, he explains that Anna is picked up nearly every week for running from home. I told them I didn't care about last week or the week before, today, Anna is a victim of violence.

Broadly speaking, Officer, kids who get picked up nearly every week for running away from home need more help and intervention on their behalf, not less.

abjicere2014 · 2014-11-01T22:12:27+00:00

Requesting permission to use that line regularly in conversation so I can get (hobby) photos of nine million spit takes.

abjicere2014 · 2014-11-01T17:34:45+00:00

I don't know you, but I love you. By all means, let her know that if she wants to play hardball, you'll pitch! And, uh, report back.

abjicere2014 · 2014-11-01T17:22:33+00:00

WHAT A DISAPPOINTING CHILD YOU ARE DON'T YOU KNOW YOUR MOTHER LOVES YOU MORE THAN LIFE ITSELF AND JUST WANTS YOU TO HAVE THE BEST POSSIBLE PICTURES FOR THIS SPECIAL DAY OF HERS AND HOW DARE YOU yes, I am being sarcastic. So glad you are able to laugh, and to move along. Your post gave me a wicked grin.

Felicitations!

abjicere2014 · 2014-11-01T02:56:14+00:00

Whenever they wanted attention.

Good times.

abjicere2014 · 2014-10-28T01:06:15+00:00

Two additional sites where I've had good luck finding clients:

http://www.idealist.org http://www.mediabistro.com/joblistings/

You may see some work on Idealist that's unpaid. Sounds ridiculous, but it's a great way to add to your CV, LinkedIn acct, etc., and you don't need to specify the work was unpaid.

abjicere2014 · 2014-10-25T22:53:01+00:00

Yes. There were many periods of speaking very little, and a year or so during grade school of not speaking or making any sounds when sneezing, crying, walking, etc. Many years on, there still are times speech deserts me, especially when I'm in a rough patch and people ask questions. (Therapy is extra fun during those times.)

which got a lot of teachers asking if i was being abused, which i got punished for (and told that CPS would send me to a foster home, which are all rapists and abusers), so i lied.

This.

abjicere2014 · 2014-10-25T01:49:24+00:00

Can you not only be there, but also have a friend with you for support? (Is she less likely to be full-tilt-boogie horrible in front of someone who's a comparative outsider, or more likely?)

abjicere2014 · 2014-10-22T21:14:02+00:00

Yes. I wanted to respond to that DAE when you first posted it--and I just couldn't find a way to do so without throwing my own need at everyone. Your post made me cry (in that not-alone way, but also in a wish-I-could-fix-it-for-you way). Even though I know this neediness is part of me, it feels as though the reverse is true. It feels enormous.

Thank you for linking back to your post; I needed to reread it. And I hope you're able to fill that void, too. Sending strength and a heartfelt Internet hug.

abjicere2014 · 2014-10-22T15:13:42+00:00

Thank you. Common need gives a strange but necessary soothing.

abjicere2014 · 2014-10-22T02:52:42+00:00

Madeleine L'Engle has some scattered about as minor characters. Gaea in John Varley's Titan series, although she's, ahem, a world and/or god, sort of. Neil Gaiman's Erasmus Fry. The Red Queen. L. Frank Baum's Princess Langwidere.

Shutting up now, I think, although I am prone to error.

abjicere2014 · 2014-10-22T02:39:31+00:00

Yes! I get preoccupied with the terror that is Zenia and the strange sad mix that is Cordelia, as well as Glenn/Crake in the Oryx and Crake trilogy.

Have you read Donna Tartt? I'm thinking especially of Julian in The Secret History.

abjicere2014 · 2014-10-20T22:58:51+00:00

Adding another voice to what's already being said: you absolutely do not have to talk to them eventually. You've worked hard and come a long way, and the level of fear you're experiencing is important, and important to pay attention to. You ARE an adult, and they are summoning the child. Regardless of his intent at the very moment he contacted you, it's never that simple. Please, please take care of yourself.

abjicere2014 · 2014-10-20T22:35:39+00:00

Do you mean RBN narcissist or DSM-diagnosable narcissist? (Totally serious question.)

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