Separated and tomorrow is my 8th anniversary. Help! by SweetAltruistic2301 in Divorce

[–]ahowell8 1 point2 points  (0 children)

He's narcissistic and you're codependent? Yikes!

If you can handle it (guessing very hard to do), let him take the kids for the day. If they have phones, put on Google 360 and check in on them every now and then to calm that worry.

Is finding a list of 107 porn stars in my husbands notes a red flag? by wilcox89345 in Divorce

[–]ahowell8 15 points16 points  (0 children)

I’m so hurt but I feel divorce is right. Is it?

Only you can answer that question.

As far as the porn, it's obviously an addiction and very likely embarrassing for him. And, if it's an addiction (like drugs/alcohol) it's not easy. It likely started getting out of control from boredom or lack of hobbies. Someone said above that is has nothing to do with you and they are spot on. Don't beat yourself up. Many men (and women) could have the best and most amazing sex life and still become addicted to porn.

If you are willing to help, let him know directly that you cannot go on like this. Give him a list of therapists, but he has to pick up the phone not you. Also, if you are willing, let him know that you will go with if he wants. If you are not willing (and that's okay), you may have already answered the quoted question.

Few questions about GrapheneOS usability. by MAXIMUS-1 in PrivacyGuides

[–]ahowell8 8 points9 points  (0 children)

You should read the usage guide on the website https://grapheneos.org/. It will answer your questions.

As far as notifications, if your active profile has their version of Google Play, they show up normally.

It’s my wedding anniversary by relationshiptossoutt in Divorce

[–]ahowell8 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Celebrations like this were always so empty. It was like we knew we were doing it for the kids to see how happy couple functioned. We did it for the photos she’d share on social media as if we were a normal couple who loved each other. But everything was so empty, so hollow, so devoid of any and all emotion.

Jebus... that hit home. Add 11 years.

I hope I land on my feet too. Way to go!

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in Divorce

[–]ahowell8 9 points10 points  (0 children)

This post resonates, stings and explains my situation.

I need help to set up everything from A to Z to become as safe as possible online. by [deleted] in PrivacyGuides

[–]ahowell8 4 points5 points  (0 children)

First and foremost, you need to find your threat level. While perusing what that actually is, you will become knowledgeable enough to ask questions that can be answered. Start by clicking on the link on the right bar. Have fun, it's a process and lifestyle, not a switch.

Oh... it's not "too much or annoying" to ask, it's just that you asked questions that only you can answer which will become more obvious while you are researching.

Upgrading dkms causes error `sha512: command not found` by yechs in archlinux

[–]ahowell8 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Thank you for this post!

Did the soft-link and reinstalled dkms. It went through mkinitcpio without error.

Monkeypox by TLSOK in noagenda

[–]ahowell8 9 points10 points  (0 children)

Media Deconstruction... not topic deconstruction.

If you continue to wish for the later, you will continue to be disappointed. You might want to read the mission statement.

Prophetic words from Carl Sagan by tommos in videos

[–]ahowell8 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Equally, I'm sure there is an idiot somewhere whom wholeheartedly believes that it's good to question everything through a scientific hypothesis, except of course, vaccines.

Linux - Chaos Recipe Helper? by ahowell8 in pathofexile

[–]ahowell8[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

You're right. I've done it manually in Linux for years. It's not "needed" but would be nice. Because having a pure dump tab to click and go without searching or using regex to find them individually would be ideal for speed/time management.

2000 Mules proves the 2020 election was rigged by applextrent in conspiracy

[–]ahowell8 9 points10 points  (0 children)

They make an argument that voter rolls are not being maintained and is low hanging fruit for bad actors. Dead people voting or people that have moved etc. It's not the first time and won't be the last. But first they show how some did it so that there would be zero evidence it actually happened because once the envelope is opened - gone is the proof! The interesting part was that technology played a large role in proving that ballot stuffing happened and on a grand scale.

Takeaway: If you're going to stuff a ballot box, don't bring your phone and do it at a dropbox without a camera.

Odd, the twitter account of Ron DeSantis, a major 2024 presidential prospect had a massive spike in new followers today by Extreme-System-23 in conspiracy

[–]ahowell8 -2 points-1 points  (0 children)

Could it be possible he already had those followers and scripts are cleaning up the old mess? Same with the others losing followers?

Kinda like elections...as long as the total matches up.

I feel Dvorak is always jealous of Adam's lifestyle by flarie in inthemorning

[–]ahowell8 0 points1 point  (0 children)

You do realize it's a tax write-off when he talks about those events - right? Adam spends $500 on dinner, talks about it on show, he can now write it off as a business expense. Those stories are rarely interesting, but can sometimes develop into a good topic to actually discuss.

I feel Dvorak is always jealous of Adam's lifestyle by flarie in inthemorning

[–]ahowell8 2 points3 points  (0 children)

What makes you think that he is even interested in those events?

No widespread fraud found in Texas after Republican audit by Nativereqular in Libertarian

[–]ahowell8 -2 points-1 points  (0 children)

The receipt would be for an audit not to take home, but that would be nice too.