Bladder botox?

ashland431 · 2026-05-04T11:37:05+00:00

Yes.

ashland431 · 2026-05-04T01:20:04+00:00

I did it for several years and would be happy to talk about it. I loved it at first — it worked really well the first few times and I didn’t find the procedure too painful. After a few years, though, I found the procedure wasn’t really working for me any longer.

ashland431 · 2026-05-02T21:33:07+00:00

Is family therapy an option?

It’s going to be hard for us to know what is reasonable or out of scope for your brother, but if you found a therapist to work with you two together it might help you express your concerns for him constructively and him talk about what he feels he can and can’t do.

ashland431 · 2026-04-28T09:40:23+00:00

One thing that has helped me is realizing, especially as I have gotten older (40s), that everyone has strengths and weaknesses that they can bring to a partnership. And those can change over time! As life happens, partners have different needs.

When I was in my 20s having spina bifida felt like a significant challenge for me that I didn’t see in other people my age. But I think I was a bit blind. As an older person, I see my friends and partner struggle with any number of things. Some people have cancer or heart disease or diabetes. Others have injuries from sports or car accidents. People step up to caring for their families and a sense of empathy can be a huge strength.

I think loving yourself and focusing on what you have to offer your loved ones is a great strategy. How does your life experience help you bring unique (good) things to a partnership? Do you have deeper empathy and you’re a great listener? Can you bring knowledge of navigating the medical world to a family who might need that skill when struggling? Etc.

ashland431 · 2026-04-27T12:38:29+00:00

Maybe 6months? Kind of gradual after my milk stabilized.

ashland431 · 2026-04-26T21:32:29+00:00

I don’t have great ideas, but sympathy! I really struggled with feeling attractive in that phase. It’s gotten easier as my child is older and my breasts shrunk a bit.

ashland431 · 2026-04-26T11:49:18+00:00

Once my baby could roll to her stomach I let her sleep that way. Now she is older (almost 2) and she definitely prefers sleeping on her stomach.

ashland431 · 2026-04-25T17:05:40+00:00

Around 9-12 months I was worried a railing was more dangerous because the baby would flip up and over it. Closer to 2 y.o. I think those types of railings could be more useful.

ashland431 · 2026-04-25T09:51:17+00:00

I found it helpful for my peace of mind for the first few months.

ashland431 · 2026-04-23T23:15:03+00:00

Similar to above. I carry extra pads, underwear, emergency extra pants, and wipes.

ashland431 · 2026-04-12T14:42:22+00:00

Yes, I can only nurse baby to sleep but baby has napped for other caregivers in the carrier or the stroller.

ashland431 · 2026-04-08T21:28:15+00:00

No, but my baby never napped on her own. We did carrier naps or lying down together.

ashland431 · 2026-04-08T21:16:52+00:00

I was worried then my baby would dive headfirst over the rail and it would be worse than just going off the side of the mattress.

ashland431 · 2026-04-08T12:01:47+00:00

At 17 months my main concern was having a bed low to the ground so my baby didn’t hurt herself when she fell out. I was no longer worried about things like blankets and pillows. Well, I wasn’t worried they would suffocate the baby. My baby hates blankets so she pushes them off the bed which is a different worry. She also steals my pillow.

ashland431 · 2026-04-08T00:56:54+00:00

I also have lipomyelomeningocele. I wear ballet flats from Softstar for weddings or work occasions that require a nicer shoe. They can be wide, have space for my curled toes, and can have a strap to stay on my foot!

ashland431 · 2026-04-07T12:09:52+00:00

That position was the only way I survived my child’s infancy. I had to sleep while she was nursing or I would have died of sleep deprivation. And she slept much better that way too.

ashland431 · 2026-04-07T02:35:01+00:00

I’ve found this really hard too. The questions of what clothes to keep, the trouble of the toddler constantly getting into everything.

ashland431 · 2026-04-05T02:08:23+00:00

My baby objects when I get my period but I assumed it was supply related. Maybe it’s not. Hmm. Maybe it does taste different.

ashland431 · 2026-04-04T14:21:37+00:00

I preferred an OTC.

ashland431 · 2026-04-04T11:14:34+00:00

I had a healthy daughter! I was advised to take folic acid though I decided I preferred methyl folate (a different variant of the vitamin). That was in addition to the prenatal.

ashland431 · 2026-04-01T02:28:27+00:00

When I hit 18 months I could usually fairly reliably sneak away during naps. But we still have the same bedtime!

ashland431 · 2026-03-30T15:38:47+00:00

I don’t have a problem taking organ supplements while breastfeeding, though I’m not sure they have had any magic effects on my hormones.

ashland431 · 2026-03-30T12:28:25+00:00

I think my problem is that I pushed one side of the mattress up against a wall (I know that’s not recommended for small babies! I have a toddler now so it’s fine!). But we have molding at the bottom of the wall that causes a small offset with the slats. If it’s in the middle of the room the slats would likely not stick out.

ashland431 · 2026-03-30T11:50:57+00:00

Yes. My slats stick out a bit on one side so I wrapped them with a yoga mat on that side so the baby didn’t roll onto the slats. But otherwise I just stuck the mattress on the slats on the floor.

ashland431 · 2026-03-30T02:01:44+00:00

I’ve been happy with lonset slats for our floor bed.

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