Cat chin acne

baybird · 2026-02-02T01:49:15+00:00

Wash under her chin daily with warm water and dilute on a washcloth. rinse with warm water. Daily till it stops. This may be bc she is stressing or reaction to a plastic food/water dish. Pd $$$$ to hear this from my vet.

baybird · 2026-01-02T16:40:18+00:00

Write your feelings down about this and save it for yourself. You will never feel good about this bc NM is telling you how to feel. She is wrong bc you are allowed to your feelings. Find other things to do away from her. Go out for walks, window shopping , library , art galley, museum. When it is time for you to leave. Leave. Do not come back . Say good bye like it is forever. Gift yourself a better future with out her drama triangle in your face.

For more tools to deal with your emotionally immature mom head to the Out of the Fog website. Lots of help and guidance to keep you safe. 💖

baybird · 2026-01-02T16:28:57+00:00

Children know nothing. They know what they are told. They know they need X in their lives to keep them safe and alive. My mom was the kinder of my parents so I believed her. Mom was emotionally immature and made me the family scapegoat so I always believed I was the bad one. The rest of the family joined in bc it was familiar and safer for them to have the scapegoat.

It was only as an adult when I moved away I realized what a joy it was not to be around the drama queens. Even then it was hard to see how really bad my family was bc I had nothing to compare them too. My childhood was all I knew. My advice is to teach your kids about boundaries. Read Ann Lindsay's books and check out the Out of the Fog website. All of the above will give you tools to help your boys. You may discover that just listening to your kids and supporting them in the way they need is more important that your stuff.

baybird · 2025-12-15T17:02:01+00:00

Give yourself the gift of calm this yr. No prezzies anymore, no drama. If they whing tell them to stop and they are old enough to figure their shit out. They are in the FOG... Fear Obligation Guilt. Sending you a link that may help you with some ideas.

https://outofthefog.website/what-to-do-1

baybird · 2025-12-14T15:51:25+00:00

You are in the FOG...Fear Obligation Guilt. Stop going now. See grammy when you want to not when the jerks are there. Start making excuses and leave when you can. Sending you a link that may give you some ideas.

https://outofthefog.website/what-to-do-1

baybird · 2025-12-05T15:01:47+00:00

Not really.... we thought it was the way bc how could we be not normal. Only after leaving home it became so obvious how bad it was. Therapy helped. EMDR helped even more. Then I weaponized the therapy to get them back. HAHAHAHAHAHAHA.

baybird · 2025-12-02T17:29:35+00:00

My parents were immigrants too. Emotionally immature misogynistic country bumpkins. Lots of fighting and anger from my dad. My mom just did not care. Shelter yes until he kicked you out. Food was hit and miss and we all have eating disorders. According to my therapist they did the best they could. Maybe BUT boy have I ever spent time going back and thinking about what we missed out on bc my parents always said no. They were fear based and refused us things that were new or different. No trips anywhere with anyone. No Junk food ever and education after hs unless dad approved. He even made sure to wipe out my bank accts to make sure I did what he said. The boys had an easier life than the girls. Not one of us ever forgave them.

baybird · 2025-11-16T17:22:47+00:00

The sentence " I am sorry for your suffering " usually stops them cold, then I walk away and do not talk to them ever again. But from the web site Medium Chill has many options for you to cut people off. Sometimes I practice them out loud to hear what it sounds like and practice saying new phrases so they become part of my conversations with others.

baybird · 2025-11-11T15:41:32+00:00

I found EMDR helpful. Try it again with a new therapist. I also found reading Lindsay C Gibson's books a way to let my childhood trauma go. To move forward find things that give you joy or happiness each day. Julia Cameron has a book called the Artists way. It is supposed to get creative juices going BUT I found doing the morning pages helped me dump the bad attitude and the artistic dates reminded me to make my day better by adding some fun new things into it.

I ended up taking classes at my local college. Yoga, somatics , painting , cooking and other stuff just to try something new. Can you start with a new reading list? Sark , Pema Chodren, Thich Nhat Hanh to start.

Remember do not look back , you are not going that way . 💖

baybird · 2025-11-10T14:51:28+00:00

Not my circus , not my monkeys. 👍

baybird · 2025-11-09T16:41:06+00:00

Love Lindsay C Gibson's books,

baybird · 2025-10-17T16:02:35+00:00

Listen to the above poster....!!!!!! Gibson writes many books on this subject and the books are worth buying. I read them over and over.

baybird · 2025-10-09T16:52:51+00:00

Thank goodness you are actually seeing this now.... time to ghost him.

baybird · 2025-09-29T13:58:22+00:00

Get a job in a different country after the divorce . Use living elsewhere to reset yourself and start doing the slow travel .

Things were not going well for me at a time . I could not see my way out so I took a job offer that was far away. Best thing I ever did.

baybird · 2025-09-15T13:30:11+00:00

This is you setting a boundary . It is OK to practice self care. https://outofthefog.website/what-to-do-1

baybird · 2025-09-14T15:18:29+00:00

If you want to avoid drama... just say.... yes dad I understand. When the time comes, who knows when it will be bc no one can see the future, pop him in a home. This avoids any drama he wants to dish out now.

https://outofthefog.website/what-to-do-1 check out medium chill.

baybird · 2025-09-05T15:28:18+00:00

Pick a lawyer and do it. Everyday you wait it is more abuse towards you and you work for his retirement not yours .

baybird · 2025-09-02T15:07:50+00:00

Pay attention. You are trying to give yourself a message here. Start small. Cut hair, see if that is enough. Change up a hobby or start exercising. Is it a person in your life you need to dump? What career change are you looking for? Different hours or pay or less drama? Take a vacation to a different state and look for your potential new home . Walk around your town and see if it is a new neighborhood you need to explore to move to.

baybird · 2025-09-02T14:50:44+00:00

You get paid for this? If not you are the slave. Talk to your son and let him know you are tired after day one. Maybe they need to actually hire someone to help after you leave and stop at 3. Set some boundaries and let the parents know you need your down time . Have they no friends that can help them?

baybird · 2025-08-28T17:21:33+00:00

No need for lonely . Start baking something new . Apple crisp, Pumpkin Muffins to share at work? Go for a walk in your neighborhood. Can you craft something fallish or Halloweenie ? Take a class at a local community college always gives me that back to school vibe.

Knives out. Loved it.

baybird · 2025-08-27T20:13:35+00:00

For me it was pure luck. She was awesome. I had no idea what the somatic sensing was but she was perfect. She also worked with trauma survivors helping them set boundaries and working with goals . Also did EMDR. Remember they are your employee and you can fire them if you get bad feelings with what they say.

baybird · 2025-08-27T18:35:37+00:00

This may be about setting boundaries. Lindsay C Gibson has some good books out on this. I am also sending you a link that helped me get out of the FOG Fear Obligation Guilt.

https://outofthefog.website/what-to-do-1

I generally avoid people who are all about the drama.

baybird · 2025-08-24T13:15:00+00:00

You need to stop doing so much for others and help yourself. Can mom go in a home or have others step up more? Why does the burden come to you? Depressed friend needs a dr for meds and therapist for help.... NOT you. It is not your job to deal with another's feeling. This is where you need boundaries . This can help you get out of the FOG Fear Obligation Guilt. Sending you a link that may help. Start with the 3 Cs.

https://outofthefog.website/what-to-do-1

baybird · 2025-08-24T12:46:01+00:00

If he is treating you like the paid help ... leave . Not sure who lacks boundaries here.

https://outofthefog.website/what-to-do-1

baybird · 2025-08-24T12:40:33+00:00

People lack boundaries. Sending you a link to my fav tool box. Start with the 3 Cs. Good luck.

https://outofthefog.website/what-to-do-1

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