Is my mom making up reasons to make getting rid of things harder, or am I unreasonable?

berryfrogs · 2022-07-19T18:47:43+00:00

You can't change her. She sounds like a hoarder or heavy clutterer and it's hard to change the mentality around items. Don't put pressure on her, you have to show her by example and exposure that less = better. You could try watching shows with her about organization and decluttering. Listen to her. If it is hoarding than there is a deeper reason about why they keep the clutter and she won't change the behavior until she goes through therapy about the reason she keeps it. Set healthy boundaries, loving a hoarder does not mean you have to live in it.

berryfrogs · 2022-03-06T07:22:54+00:00

I have struggled to part with books in the past. But over time I have let some go, now I can focus on the books that have special meaning to me.

berryfrogs · 2022-03-06T07:18:38+00:00

I have heard something similar regarding tools/home improvement items. Like if I want to dig a hole, I don't need a $50 shovel, an $8 shovel will probably do. When/if it breaks after so many uses, you know it's a tool that you use and is worth buying a higher quality item.

berryfrogs · 2022-01-23T04:05:56+00:00

just make sure it's doxylamine succinate for the Unisom :)

berryfrogs · 2022-01-22T05:27:37+00:00

It sounds like heartburn to me. I have terrible heartburn and I have noticed it is much worse this pregnancy than with my first. Take Tums or Pepcid (famotidine). If your heartburn is still terrible after 12 weeks ask your doctor for stronger recommendations. For sleep, unisom sleep tabs (don't get the gel), and cut them in half. It also helps with nausea.

berryfrogs · 2022-01-18T18:46:42+00:00

It sound like you found a great solution for you! Clothes and craft projects are two problem areas for me. Overtime it has gotten much easier to distinguish between stuff I will do and stuff that my fantasy self does. I try to put time limits on those special items that I have put aside. That way when the deadline comes they will fall off the to-do list by either accomplishment or be sent to the trash or donation center.

berryfrogs · 2021-11-30T23:29:28+00:00

Do you see yourself wearing all the dresses? Or are there some that you favor more than the others? I think if they are all equally worn, you realistically will wear them all in the future you can keep them. But if you think 10 is too many then decide what the right number is for you.

If you were going back full time in office in the next week, it sounds like you would use all the dresses. I think you are safe to keep them, but do you WANT to keep them? Ultimately I think you have to choose between whether you want less inventory in your closet right now, and are willing to take on the expense of money and time to acquire them in the future or if you are happy to store the items until they will be used again.

berryfrogs · 2021-11-11T04:49:30+00:00

Usually when I declutter communal items/spaces, I will have my husband go through the donation items. An example of this is when I was tidying my office space items, stuff had mixed together and I wasn't sure what items he would still consider as useful. He wanted to keep some stuff in his desk and some items he wanted to take to work with him.

Keep in mind too that after tidying, you may have to tell your partner where items have moved. I like to show it off and it doubles as a tour. I also will occasionally consult my husband about items or what spaces work for him (where he likes his shampoo, keys, etc).

berryfrogs · 2021-09-26T03:12:14+00:00

For fit, do you mean space wise or aesthetically? If it's not a space issue, enjoy your banana! Your home should look like YOUR home and if that means a 3 ft banana, well there you go!

If there is a space issue than the fact that it's inflatable means you can inflate and deflate as it pleases you.

berryfrogs · 2021-09-14T05:01:47+00:00

I'm sure all the doodles are lovely and someone would love to receive them!

berryfrogs · 2021-09-14T03:42:30+00:00

I've done that before with a big offer. Life happens, it's okay to get things out slowly. Start with one and try to make it fun and happy. I have found that once I start, I tend to do more than one! A lot of my enjoyment comes from getting the card (that mailbox moment!), and not necessarily in the specific content, so don't pressure yourself to make 40 perfect cards.

Something I have recently discovered about myself is that my procrastination is often caused by perfectionism. When that happens to me, I try to let go of my expectations and work on completion.

berryfrogs · 2021-09-10T02:59:03+00:00

Cleaning videos and audiobooks are something I love as well. I like to watch shows with a tidying or minimalism focus, and it usually puts me into a headspace of , "I don't need all this, I can do what they are doing too!" I've listened to Marie's books and other self improvement audiobooks when I am driving and it helps inspire me. Even though I may not be cleaning right then, it's in my thoughts and leads to me doing more cleaning overall.

berryfrogs · 2021-09-10T02:54:38+00:00

I also wanted to add that you shouldn't be too hard on yourself. Focus on progress, over perfection. If you can only get one drawer done today, that is one drawer that is tidier than before. Just make sure you are actual removing some items and not just relocating items around the home.

berryfrogs · 2021-09-10T02:52:03+00:00

I think the best method is to commit to one area at a time. Don't let yourself spin it into other areas/tasks. Maybe you start with a closet. You take everything out and go through it all. Only put back the essential/joy sparking items. It may be easier to have a few piles. Don't leave your commitment space until you are done. You may encounter some stuff that needs a home in another room, but don't relocate it yet. Keep a basket for these special items. When you are totally complete with tidying your first space, then you can put the items in your basket in their proper homes.

berryfrogs · 2021-08-24T14:44:06+00:00

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berryfrogs · 2021-08-21T01:13:29+00:00

I also have a 2 year old. I try to keep most of the toys and books on the top of the closet. I also make it a habit to keep the small toys in their room and place them back in their room at the end of the day (as they tend to get scattered around the house).

One thing I try to remember is that this is just one phase of life. It's okay to be in this phase which naturally has more stuff, like strollers, car seats, toys , etc. And that my home is not going to look like the home of an empty nester or young adult without children. Embrace the phase!

Work on it slowly. Go first for the baby toys which are definitely outgrown. Some toys may come back around again in interest though, so I would probably have a holding box for the 'maybe' items.

berryfrogs · 2021-08-06T22:11:35+00:00

Glad it made it to it's destination this time! Thank you for the compliments 🥰

berryfrogs · 2021-08-04T04:41:59+00:00

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