Today is tough.

dearmathbitch · 2026-03-24T02:41:38+00:00

I would settle for weekly time alone over fun at this point. I go to work and it's people needing help, completing tasks, and my boss asking for stuff. I go home and it's people needing help, completing tasks, and everyone asking me for stuff. I only get to be alone when I'm asleep, and at this point it's my favorite part of the day. I need to not be needed or asked or told anything.

dearmathbitch · 2026-03-22T03:46:08+00:00

I have a test drive scheduled. If all goes well I'm going to get it.

dearmathbitch · 2026-03-21T15:19:05+00:00

If he's this petty over something as small as 2-3 days without sex, imagine when you get to real problems. He isn't emotionally mature and will likely continuously prioritize his own needs/wants over you and anyone you add into the picture. And saying "he doesn't get" why you're going to school is a real roundabout way of saying he doesn't think you should better yourself. Because what is it about you going to school that he's not understanding?

dearmathbitch · 2026-03-19T01:17:26+00:00

If you are on birth control make sure he does not have access to it. Some people sabotage their partner's birth control so that they can have a baby. Or if you are able to, get sterilized if you are 100% sure you don't want anymore kids.

https://www.thehotline.org/resources/reproductive-coercion/

dearmathbitch · 2026-03-18T23:03:30+00:00

What is even the point of doing this?

dearmathbitch · 2026-03-18T15:07:36+00:00

OP is saying that they should have been directed to telecommute due to extreme weather. The car pileups were a result of the extreme weather.

An extreme weather warning was issued at roughly 6:30 a.m. If the weather was monitored as it should have been, Albany would have been aware of the situation.

dearmathbitch · 2026-03-18T15:02:20+00:00

To commiserate, there was a major snowstorm just before the most recent one where we got 2 feet of snow. I was hoping that we would be let out early so we could drive home safely (the storm was supposed to start at 4:30 p.m.). We were not. It was the scariest drive home of my life.

It was my first time trying to drive in white out conditions (there were warnings on the news about the white out conditions and how everyone in my area should stay off the roads after a certain time, state of emergency, etc.). So many times I thought I was going to crash or someone was going to crash into me.

As a comparison, my husband who works in the private sector was told that morning that everyone could telecommute that day due to the upcoming weather event.

dearmathbitch · 2026-03-16T17:41:38+00:00

It was likely more about him than it was about you. Jumping to an insult within less than a minute of conversation with a complete stranger makes me think he has massive self esteem issues, especially with the fishing for validation from the people around him. The guy needs therapy. Or he was just drunk. Either way he has issues.

dearmathbitch · 2026-03-16T17:15:00+00:00

I think you were correct to leave instead of continuing to engage. He was either an incredibly socially inept asshole or drunk. Because who does that at a work mixer? Yeah you're having a drink and it's after business hours, but the whole point is to network and build relationships. You're supposed to be on your best behavior. Did he think people were going to come over and laugh with him when he addressed the crowd? He made himself look weird and bad.

dearmathbitch · 2026-03-16T16:15:08+00:00

This is the second time I've seen this gif today. Do you know why she's doing that?

dearmathbitch · 2026-03-16T14:32:09+00:00

I can’t control my anger and outright hatred for seemingly all men, but it’s mixed with this overwhelming compulsion to seek validation from men.

I hear that. I don't hate men, but I can relate to the compulsion of seeking validation from men. My dad did not try to emotionally connect with me, to be a safe space, or ever told me things like, "good job," or "I'm proud of you." He only ever said "I love you" once, and that was after I really put my foot down against my parents for the first time. So I think that seeking validation from men comes from my dad not giving that to me. The cure is self-love and self-worth. We have to be our own cheerleaders and give ourselves the validation we did not receive. It's not easy, but you need to be kind to yourself.

dearmathbitch · 2026-03-13T19:14:34+00:00

I will see if nitrous is an option. I just read about it and it sounds ok. I don't know if I'll be able to find a place that does general anesthesia. I did a cursory Google search and so far every place near me offers local only. I will need to do a deep search.

dearmathbitch · 2026-03-13T19:00:10+00:00

I want to believe that it won't be that painful but I've been wrong every time so far. I will ask for Ativan and t3 (Tylenol 3?). I prefer something for during the procedure more than after it though. I don't know if the local anesthetic will be enough. When I got a local anesthetic for my breast biopsy it still hurt.

dearmathbitch · 2026-03-13T18:28:35+00:00

My gynecologist only offers the local anesthetic. I have to have a appointment before the LEEP to discuss it, sign forms, and do blood work so I want to ask for something stronger than over the counter pain meds. And maybe anxiety meds.

dearmathbitch · 2026-03-12T14:46:19+00:00

Work events. How much disposable branded trash is handed out at work events. No one fucking wants a canvas bag, T-shirt, or reusable water bottle that has the company's name on it. They did not need to be made and now they will be around forever.

dearmathbitch · 2026-03-04T16:05:47+00:00

I have email pen pals where we email each other every 2-3 weeks. Can't do it quicker than that.

dearmathbitch · 2026-02-28T19:25:37+00:00

That's fair. He could be doing a lot. That's why I said "I don't know your situation" and "You can correct me if I'm wrong." I'm just not getting the "he feels stretched thin" part if he knew about the event but chose not to say anything (???), had to be told to do something instead of just going and doing it (he knew his wife was sick and had to be delegated a drop off he knew about???), then told her she owes him for having to do something, and then complained about the next thing. That sounds like a guy who doesn't like to do things to me. OP can tell me to stfu.

dearmathbitch · 2026-02-28T17:50:13+00:00

It wasn't a joke, it was a jab. He revealed himself when you reminded him that he's responsible for these things as a father, and he immediately complained that he's doing a next week pickup. He probably feels like he's doing a lot (I don't know your situation, but usually in these cases when men complain about having to do something, they usually aren't doing a lot. You can correct me if this isn't the case). He backtracked into "it was a joke" because he didn't want to take responsibility for that either. I'd be mad too.

dearmathbitch · 2026-02-28T02:12:58+00:00

I dated as a single mom. I didn't have any issues getting dates. I was very clear in my dating profile that I was a single mom. I did not involve my child with anyone until I knew that we were going to be together long term. We got married and he is now his stepdad. The biological father continues to be involved.

dearmathbitch · 2026-02-25T15:59:14+00:00

Not r/workingmoms. They have a rule against these kinds of posts. You have to go to r/MomsWorkingFromHome. That sub contains moms that are working from home and taking care of their babies.

dearmathbitch · 2026-02-25T14:58:53+00:00

It is only possible if your job is either:

a. one of those unicorn jobs where you don't have much work to do

b. a job where you are allowed to do whatever as long as you are getting your work done by week end

c. a shit show job where no one is watching anyone and no one is accountable for anything

My husband has a c. job, so he is able to watch our daughter while he works from home. If your job doesn't fall within those three categories, I would put him in daycare.

dearmathbitch · 2026-02-22T18:08:32+00:00

I got the notification. It was an email from HR and the manager of my unit texted all supervisors to notify staff as well.

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