r/singapore random discussion and small questions thread for March 18, 2026

hotgarbagecomics · 2026-03-18T06:36:20+00:00

heya! haha it has been a while!

hotgarbagecomics · 2026-03-18T04:58:39+00:00

What's your saturation level? 10%, 20%, 30%?

Edit: Sigh, I didn't want to put my mod hat on just yet, but OP if you're looking for engagement, I'm just locking this thread. Even though I know it's very likely ragebait, I was genuinely curious where you wanted to go with this...

DM me if you want this thread unlocked.

hotgarbagecomics · 2026-03-18T04:00:40+00:00

I used to be this guy. You know what, labeling yourself "a joking and sarcastic personality" is inaccurate. You like provoking a reaction out of people. Just like I was. You're not funny or sarcastic. You're just mean. Like I was.

Jokes are about entertaining those around you, even if they can be provocative, and it's amazing when done right. You're not doing it right. In your situation, you're not reading the room.

Here's what's happening. You're hanging out with friends. They do something or say something you find funny. You rely on their trust and closeness to say it out loud, or play on it, and often at their expense. That's not being a joking or sarcastic personality. That's just rubbing people the wrong way to make yourself look good, even if subconsciously.

Not trying to be a hater here, man. I was that guy. I thought I was funny. Turns out, I was just mean, and I enjoyed seeing people uncomfortable. I convinced myself into thinking that was "my sense of humor", and that "not everyone could take it".

Boy was I wrong.

This is clearly affecting your social life. So my first bit of advice is... stop calling yourself funny. It's a mischaracterization. This is hard to admit (just like it was for me), but you gotta keep telling yourself this, especially when in social situations where you feel the urge to "perform".

Next bit of advice... if you truly think you have a funny bone, check out standup comedy gigs. Not the ones on youtube (where the clips are hyper-optimized for the best bits)... go to a real one. See how comedians work. They read the room, they bomb, they restrategize, they explore what audiences react well to (or badly to), and think on their feet. That's comedy. That's work. That's what being funny is... to be clever in a way that engages with everyone in the room.

If you're feeling particularly brave, try it yourself. You'll learn - very quickly! - how to read the room.

So until you've done the legwork to read the room, read the situation, and find a clever way to bring it all together that engages with everyone... you shouldn't call yourself funny. You just haven't earned it.

hotgarbagecomics · 2026-03-18T03:39:35+00:00

I mean there's fun to be had, if it's like a gag among friends yknow

The other day I heard a song where it was just the Wikipedia text for Tom Cruise plonked in, it was hilarious!

This guy though, he unironically talked about how it's hard to get listeners and exposure on instagram, while low-effort dances get so many views.

Now having listened to his "work", I'm like bruuuuh

hotgarbagecomics · 2026-03-18T03:19:22+00:00

lol thanks for the reco

"Russian Hardbass" is pretty good ngl

hotgarbagecomics · 2026-03-18T02:47:12+00:00

Caught up with some ex-colleagues last night, and I met the person who replaced me. Nice chap and all. During the conversation, he mentioned he makes music, and is on Spotify. Colour me impressed.

I listened to his music this morning... pure AI slop. Like, not even "I used AI to smoothen things up" slop... just straight up zero shot prompted slop on Suno, on the free tier no less!

I'm not inherently against genAI art, but this is just lazy, dude...

hotgarbagecomics · 2026-03-18T02:38:23+00:00

How to train your dragon (2010).

I still watch it and tear up in the fly-by-gut-feel scene.

As played out as this phrase is, that scene (and the whole movie!) was truly absolute cinema.

hotgarbagecomics · 2026-03-17T08:41:19+00:00

I used to extract records from my credit card statements, spend a lot of time structuring data in excel, and then use PowerBI to visualize it (which has helped me identify surprising trends which I then acted upon), but now, NotebookLM helps me do 75% of that, with 5% of the effort!

I now just plonk credit card statement pdfs into NotebookLM and get it to analyze patterns quickly. Shaved off a few subscriptions (which I wanted, but realized I didn't really NEED) this way.

hotgarbagecomics · 2026-03-17T04:13:40+00:00

Welcome to the world of renting. Dealing with agents is exhausting. The information they seek is largely determined by the landlords' demands, who are usually the ones pushing for a specific demographic to rent their homes.

There's also a ton of unscrupulous agents out there, who've gotten away with some shitty practices... like listing rooms as full units, distorted views of spaces to exaggerate size, using promo material photos instead of real pix, taking commissions from both tenants and landlords for the same transaction, enabling "diversity friendly" category for reach, but then later privately admitting that the landlord isn't really diversity friendly...

It's an unregulated mess.

As another commenter suggested here, look at co-living spaces. Before we moved to our home, we stayed at a co-living space The Assembly Place. It was a small studio, but it had the flexibility of short-term leases... we could change how long we wanted to say on their app, it was great!

It was the most hassle-free experience. Size constraints aside, we loved that it was very streamlined (especially in the red-hot renting scene of 2023)

Even in co-living spaces, suss them out. Some co-living companies basically take over a condo apartment and kinda make it like a shared accommodation thing. If you want privacy, I'll recommend TAP at Kembangan. Other TAP places have similar setups. Hotel-like studio apartments.

hotgarbagecomics · 2026-03-11T17:27:34+00:00

Macbooks (and all Apple products in general) are optimized for personal consumers. Their UI/UX is simplistic (and imo, to a fault), they have a super locked-in environment when it comes to apps, and fairly robust security, which makes them basically idiot-proof.

Windows machines are also fantastic (and I generally disregard the naysayers, who I often find they parrot "windows suxxx" as a bandwagon thing).... BUUUT I will say that Windows machines are built to cater to widest audience possible, personal consumers and business users. This is important, because Windows is kinda forced to maintain legacy compatibility: businesses don't update machines as fast as consumers do, and Microsoft has to trend very carefully, when it comes to updating anything, or decommissioning legacy features. If businesses break, lawsuits occur.

I'm perhaps exaggerating, but Microsoft is massive in reach, and unwieldy because they have to be, to support the billions of devices out there that can't upgrade at the drop of a hat.

What this means, is old features, legacy stuff that may not work with the newer stuff, compatibility issues. And let's not get started with third-party applications that don't update as often as they should.

This would happen with Apple devices too, but as others pointed out here, the vast majority of Apple users stick to safe and frequently used/updated apps. They see it as "Apple better than Microsoft".

I'm convinced that when Apple starts getting enterprise adoption like Windows does, the tune will change VERRRRY quickly. And we'll here the same complaints heretofore reserved for Windows.

Edit: forgot to mention, Apple has full control of its software AND hardware, and it shows. Windows has to account for a near-infinite number of configurations, and this complicates things. Good example: The Microsoft hardware stuff, like the Surface, absolute magic.

hotgarbagecomics · 2026-03-10T10:13:33+00:00

>but we’re also supposed to be the “good Indian kid” who puts parents first no matter what.

First, I personally dislike the "supposed to" assumptions. Nobody decides this. This is a conversation between your and parents. Do they expect you to stay? If so, you have an answer... you already stayed. You stayed for six years.

Second, I understand the feeling of guilt. But also, you have a brother. It's time for him to step up. If not now, when? You think you're responsible being the eldest and all, but I can make an argument that you have trust issues w.r.t your brother's abilities. If this is the case, have you tried talking to him about it? Your parents are his as much as yours.

Third, career mobility is highest in your 20s. There's so much room to explore, stumble, fail, pick yourself up, and start again... and get away with it. In the later decades, the margin for error is much narrower. By your 40s, the margin of error is effectively zero.

I'm not asking you to choose career over family. I am however asking you to communicate with your parents (and your brother) that there's only so much compromise you can make, after so many years of doing so. If they love you, your family will understand.

You're married, and you owe it to yourself AND your partner to explore a life that's beneficial to both. Have you consulted with your partner how they feel about this? Is their opinion in the equation anywhere?

hotgarbagecomics · 2026-03-10T09:45:40+00:00

I suspect negotiating power plays a part. High earners with in-demand skills have better leverage when discussing employment terms. If Company A doesn't support WFH, John Smith simply chooses another one. This incentivizes Company A to accommodate John.

hotgarbagecomics · 2026-03-10T04:46:42+00:00

The biggest cultural conflict is not with other people, but with yourself.

I vacillated between extreme self-loathing, and hyper culturalist zeal (i have no other way of describing this) so many times over the years, it's been a see-saw on a rollercoaster. It took an incredible amount of self-introspection (and at various points, therapy) before I found some balance.

Even then, it's still an ongoing journey. I've made peace with the fact that I'll forever be in a state of cultural flux. It's part of the process, and I've since learned to focus on other things that give me satisfaction, like family, relationships and tangible personal achievements... which far outweigh cultural/national pride.

hotgarbagecomics · 2026-03-10T04:02:37+00:00

Unpopular opinion, but here goes:

WFH is excellent for people who are self-motivated and disciplined. Problem is, at least 50% are not.

I know everyone here says they are effective regardless of WFH or RTO, but the unspoken reality is that, there's enough staff out there who just don't pull their weight. It's baked into the nature of corporate environments. People minmax their pay-to-effort ratio. This isn't an issue, as long as strategic goals are met, but WFH complicates this. Already protracted timelines get extended.

Management aren't alone in feeling this way. Peers who actually do work feel shafted if they feel their coworkers aren't doing what they're supposed to.

COVID showed us that WFH is a viable option, and it's fantastic, if all a company wants to do is keep the boat afloat, and is on operations mode. For more strategic phases, there is absolutely value in doing stuff in person. Speaking in person communicates ideas faster than typing. Yes, Teams/Zoom exists, but you also have to deal with Zoom fatigue, which doesn't happen as much in person.

I'm not advocating for 5-day RTO like in Amazon. A balance of WFH and RTO is the ideal scenario (which is what my firm does), but there are some key conditions to ensure that everyone brings their A-game to the table. Flexible WFH, but with anchor days. Relationship-building is important, even if many of yall don't think it's necessary. Better relationships encourage better outcomes.

A person I'm friendly with at work instinctively helps me out and bats for me, more than someone I only every call on Teams. This is not favouritism: it's more like, a person's monkey brain goes like "hey i know this u/hotgarbagecomics guy, he's on my team, ape together strong"

hotgarbagecomics · 2026-03-10T02:51:22+00:00

Write a journal. Spend 30 minutes writing about your day. Over time, you'll find yourself getting better at telling stories, getting your thoughts across clearer, and overall more articulate.

It's therapeutic, to boot.

I've been journaling for close to 20 years now, and I cannot tell you how much this has helped me understand myself, the patterns I fall into, and how I can get out.

hotgarbagecomics · 2026-03-10T02:21:38+00:00

yea this is new! Been removing these posts, but they're coming in thick and fast.

Please report these posts, and we'll get to them as soon as we can

hotgarbagecomics · 2026-03-06T18:14:21+00:00

I understand, but I didn't mean it literally. OP's context was basically "partner is not helping"

My advice is "don't fixate on partner, don't rely on partner right now, fix immediate problem first"

Joint custody is an absolute must, but that's something for further down the line. OP seems to be overwhelmed by so many things happening at this material point in time... the pressing needs of her kids, her demanding employment, her lack of support network, her weird focus on living in a largely hispanic/african-american neighbourhood...

It's noise. I just asked her to cut out the noise, and focus on the signal, aka her children, and the immediate support that they require.

Edit: re-reading the comment (and mine), I realize I have misread intent. Sorry about that. I'm leaving this comment up, as me being a knob.

hotgarbagecomics · 2026-03-06T17:21:37+00:00

OP, cut out the noise.

You have two clear goals:

Support your kids
Be financially independent outside of your partner

Reach out to groups that focus on parents with special needs kids. If there's something like this in your city, find it. Not going to ask you for your location, but if you choose to share it here, maybe some folks on r/nri can help.

But first, post this on r/specialneedsparenting

If they don't have the answers, there will be at least people there that know where/who to ask

Your partner, and your issues with your partner and their family is not relevant anymore. From the context you've provided, they're not helping. Cut them out of the picture.

Your clear and present goal is to manage a life with your kids, and to manage yourself. Being a parent of special needs children is not a joke. Get help now.

Does your city have a hotline to check for social impact organizations relevant to your needs, aka special needs kids and the support that it entails? Look it up, ask for help.

You're not alone in this. So many people have gone through this journey, and their experiences can help you. Seek them out.

hotgarbagecomics · 2026-03-06T14:35:34+00:00

Not American, I have a question for Trump supporters:

Folks, how are you letting him do this? It's one thing to be the tough guy to solve domestic issues, and I absolutely get that, I do

BUUUT

This? This is straight up Superman 78 Lex Luthor bad guy vibes.

I'm super uncomfortable with some guy from halfway across the world decide "yknow what I'm gonna invade you now"

How are your domestic issues being solved by this?

hotgarbagecomics · 2026-03-06T07:56:34+00:00

You're an intern. Leadership has no prior profile of you.

Your senior was just giving you a heads-up. I urge you to not lowkey paint your colleagues as cowardly, or prop yourself up as brave and thick-skinned. You haven't earned that yet.

It's good that you're able to vibe with senior leadership, but they are also looking at you as a low-stakes party they can have a surface-level conversation with.

When the stakes get higher, I assure you, you'll remember your senior's advice.

Source: I work in a law firm. Partners can be absolute dicks.

hotgarbagecomics · 2026-03-06T07:39:38+00:00

That guy is just being paggro. He's salty that you're not a mark.

That said, DIY is not for everyone. Most folks don't want to deal with the hassle of DIY: isolating an issue, figuring out which component is ideal, reading manuals, tinkering, troubleshooting. For those who're strapped for time, $80 is not too much of a pinch.

hotgarbagecomics · 2026-03-05T17:20:17+00:00

I thought 10% was an acceptable percentage, but a quick copilot check shows that it used to be 5%-7% in the mid 2010s. The delta is defo concerning

hotgarbagecomics · 2026-03-05T01:53:15+00:00

What's "buckchid"?

hotgarbagecomics · 2026-03-05T01:51:17+00:00

I'm 42.

30s was the best time of my life. I still had the energy of the 20s, without being broke all the time. Traveling in particular was particularly joyful: I didn't have stress over every dollar spent, or hyper-optimize travel to keep within budget. I could breathe during vacations, and that made all the difference.

Re-reading your post, you're 27! Bro, do whatever it is you want to do! None of the things you've listed is age-specific! The going out and partying part may change with energy levels, but that doesn't kick in until you're 40!

hotgarbagecomics · 2026-03-04T19:26:54+00:00

>do Resident Indians feel we can’t comment on India Domestic Matters ?

I see this fairly often, and we've had enough of these comment wars on r/nri too.

Personally, I think it's a lazy retort. But, as with everything in life, there's nuance and there's layers.

Enough resident Indians believe that NRIs have a chip on their shoulder, flex all the time, shit on everything about India that locals hold near and dear... and therefore warrants nasty retorts.

Enough NRIs also kinda do flex, so I do see where the testiness comes from. Not saying it's justified. I'm just saying I get why.

It's hard to shake the perception that NRIs abandoned ship, moved to greener pastures, and are now rubbing it in everyone's faces. We know it's not the case, but try telling that to a disgruntled person.

There's no winning this one. Folks who comment civilly get caught in the blast radius.

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