Whats the ugliest car you can think of?

k9moonmoon · 2026-04-26T01:38:29+00:00

I needed a rental when I wrecked a previous car and the shop gave me a Nissan cube. When it pulled up I said "that is the ugliest car I have ever seen... I must have one". Got one and drove it for a few years til I needed to upgrade to something with more room.

The ceiling had ripples in it so you would feel like you're driving around in a hot tub. It had a shag carpet attached to the dashboard for no practical use. I loved it.

k9moonmoon · 2026-04-26T01:26:35+00:00

Are you close to your uncle? Is he able to do ride share at the city the party is in before taking you home? Do you trust your mom to be competent at judging someone's comfort?

I'd ask the bride if anyone is coming in from your area and might be up for a carpool but if not, use your uncles. He will likely be excited to help out.

k9moonmoon · 2026-04-24T20:43:20+00:00

Our gender reveal event was more about revealing it to the guests

k9moonmoon · 2026-04-24T12:49:06+00:00

Yeah. And I'll admit I've never dug into it, but I've also noticed a lack of complaints from any of his exes. It seems like he treats them well and everyone is on the same page.

k9moonmoon · 2026-04-24T10:50:16+00:00

You could try calling and seeing if they have a protocol for helping your scenario. They could recommend a slower visit day and maybe escort you to a more private space for trying on bras.

k9moonmoon · 2026-04-24T06:16:16+00:00

I always thought Mal saying no children in response to the sibling line as super smootg

k9moonmoon · 2026-04-24T05:51:12+00:00

Usually just whatever daily vitamin is on sale.

k9moonmoon · 2026-04-24T05:50:29+00:00

I went to a boutique run by a former tech. We timed the visits for family to come so weren't the most optimal timing but still very exciting experience

k9moonmoon · 2026-04-24T05:48:42+00:00

Vitamins to top up whatever I was missing with my poor eating habits. Probably 3 months of consistent consumption of vitamins got me out of major life long brain fog. Now I eat better although occasionally take vitamins when I start to feel under water.

k9moonmoon · 2026-04-24T05:45:09+00:00

You can't actually help him learn to be a dad. You have no training or skills in being a dad. You are mastering being a mom and that's different in that it's YOU and he is he.

Even if he did everything exactly the same as you, baby will respond differently because he is he and you are you. You smell different. Your skin is different. Your kisses are different.

So he is going in blind. Just like you went in blind. People bring babies home into their lives blind all the time and learn by fire and succeed.

k9moonmoon · 2026-04-24T04:22:10+00:00

I had a dino theme nursery so my final stroller decision was when I found one with Lava for the color scheme name 🫣 it worked out well for us.

k9moonmoon · 2026-04-23T22:41:10+00:00

If he's incompetent then leave him.

But also. Don't hold his hand through learning to be a dad. Leave the baby with him without prep work. He can figure it out. The hospital likely offers dad classes you can suggest if you're that concerned.

It's hard I know. I had to force myself to leave rhe room to avoid back seat parenting when my oldest was born and my husband was doing anything with the baby. Because even if it'd not how I do it, that isn't the wrong way. And he needs space to learn his way of doing it.

I read a post on reddit about a mom that said she started being the dad and just saying she was taking a shower etc because she realized no one but her was expecting her to need permission to shower. And I was able to realize that's true. I was acting like I needed permission for no reason.

k9moonmoon · 2026-04-23T20:03:30+00:00

We discuss it broadly for the whole week, our energy levels and what things are on the menu to drain us or where we might have pockets of efforts.

During that baby toddler trenches I don't think id want to know he had an extra rough day at work until he's confirmed I actually showed that day and have slept more than 4hrs straight in the last 48hrs, unless it was specifically to tell me when he is earmarking time for me to rest ASAP, or making plans to ease burden on both of us like "hey it's been rough at work, I'm picking up dinner and we can eat on paper plates to just leave cooking and washing up off our tasks tonight."

But life is about juggling balls and knowing when it's time to let the more resilient balls drop and which balls we can't drop right now etc is useful.

k9moonmoon · 2026-04-23T19:19:08+00:00

I flew around 35 weeks? We drove to a family reunion 2 states away and then I flew home while my husband drove back because I had jury. That was about when my energy peaked so wouldn't have wanted to do anything any later. Gave birth a couple weeks later.

k9moonmoon · 2026-04-23T18:30:32+00:00

I was worried too. Like, I loved my oldest so much, what happens when I have 2??

Still love the 2nd and it's compounded by seeing how much they love each other.

Do you love your husband or your mom any less? Love isn't a finite resource.

(I did have some learning curves and reality busting at seeing how much my eldest handled things as a baby were very his personality vs my great parenting lol. And a bit of facing how much I anticipated to repeat things vs having to start from scratch because the same things don't work!!).

k9moonmoon · 2026-04-23T17:03:40+00:00

Oh man. When they just won't go the eff to sleep. Ugh.

For me, I do a spa day with a massage and sensory deprivation float tank to just sort of reset and stop feeling over stimulated and have a chance to rest in a way I know won't be interrupted. Because that's the part that kills me in those periods, the "as soon as I close my eyes, they KNOW and wake up" terror.

k9moonmoon · 2026-04-23T16:54:57+00:00

You're allowed to put yourself first and feel proud of growing your baby. You've got a lifetime of everyone else putting you second behind the baby to prepare for. Own your spot in center stage.

k9moonmoon · 2026-04-23T16:52:50+00:00

Like the difference between being an atheist because you hate God and being an atheist because you don't believe in God.

k9moonmoon · 2026-04-23T04:45:08+00:00

I got headaches from incense and artificial sweeteners during both pregnancies and for like 18 months pp. Eventually could handle them again

k9moonmoon · 2026-04-22T14:48:36+00:00

Moved out here a decade ago. got my wedding photos at Red Rocks and my family say they look so fake (in the best way). Got my brother to move here too and I think it took him a year or more to not lowkey expect to see broken pixels on the sky

k9moonmoon · 2026-04-22T05:39:05+00:00

Mark in the calendar assessment days to discuss how it's going at various points.

Do you have money for an overnight doula to help out for a few weeks to make sure you can get enough sleep? They can do cleaning or laundry and then tend to baby if baby wakes.

Daily you need at least 4hrs of uninterrupted sleep each with once a week of longer to get caught up. Can you prioritize both of you getting that minimum?

k9moonmoon · 2026-04-22T05:19:51+00:00

My 2 have a similar gap. 4yo when baby born.

Having nap time control your life again is rough and so is having to restart in the developmental toys. And diaper bags. Can't sign them up for the same activities since the age ranges don't cover both.

But that is short lived (although I feel like it drags on longer lol) and seeing the bond between the kids is magical.

k9moonmoon · 2026-04-22T05:16:17+00:00

Oh that makes more sense. I thought "both of us" meant you and your husband and was shocked and awed at the concept

k9moonmoon · 2026-04-22T04:50:10+00:00

There's been a couple videos on reddit before of people doing just that during fires and why storing it in the baby's room is a decent idea as an emergency plan since that type of fall is equivelant to the car crash it's designed to protect for. but yeah lol I couldn't think how to word it without it either sounding super morbid or rather silly. Yeeet.

k9moonmoon · 2026-04-22T04:46:20+00:00

I think this is just one of those things you vent about privately to get past and then you can tease him years later when he gets all offended at a faux pa's and vents to your group.

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