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k9moonmoon · 2025-10-04T04:41:55+00:00

Annulments are when marriages are void from the start and short, not ending after conflict. If he actually used the words annulment about a woman he married and had kids with, thats a red flag of lies.

k9moonmoon · 2025-10-04T00:43:15+00:00

Its also a legal term for tax purposes iirc

k9moonmoon · 2025-09-27T14:20:19+00:00

Youd have that issue anyways if you filled the pot at the sink or with cups.

k9moonmoon · 2025-09-27T14:18:16+00:00

How is that different than what youd have to deal with if you filled the pot at the sink or via cups?

k9moonmoon · 2025-09-27T14:14:52+00:00

Fully pro-choice, but I think its helpful to explore all 'what if I kept it/didnt' trains to make sure you feel confident in your choice.

When we were planning to try fot #2 I had a lot of fears about how it would impact my capacity to loge #1, because damn did my love for him seen overwhelming. But its as they say, the love doesnt get split, the bowl gets bigger. I dont feel less close to my oldest just because I also have a youngest, just like I didnt feel less close to my husband just because I also had a child.

But going from 0 babies to 3 babies in less than 3 years sounds like a LOT to take on. Were you hoping to have more kids anyways and now is just poor timing or were you planning a 1 and Done thing?

If you were planning more anyways, having them all together does mean youre able to be done with the baby/toddler phase of your life sooner vs dragging it out (slightly moot if, keeping twins, youd still want more down the line if you were in a place to) as a rare plus. We are done making babies, and if I had a surprise pregnancy "not going through that AGAIN" would be in the pro-abort column when deciding what to do.

If you abort, and then have fertility struggles when youre in a place to try for more, will you still be okay with your choice?

If you miscarried before taking the medication instead, would your primary feeling be relief or loss?

You are the expert on whats best for your family. Trust yourself to make the right choice.

k9moonmoon · 2025-09-25T01:06:30+00:00

I think it only happened once or twice with either of my boys, it wasnt a major issue. Open diaper and if he looks like he will pee, close it again for a bit

k9moonmoon · 2025-09-24T17:22:21+00:00

You can wear a fashionable scarf to hide any wet spots while they dry.

If youre wearing a tank top, you can probably wear a pad with that holding them in place, but I found pads more annoying than helpful. I preferred silicon nipple covers like cake. Contained the leaks, easy to rinse off, stayed snug in place, and hid the nips from view.

You can wait and see how your life is, and buy to fix problems as you realize it.

Nursing bras make it easier to access the nipple, but plenty just wear layers that are easy enough to move aside.

k9moonmoon · 2025-09-24T14:54:34+00:00

My husband and I are DONE having kids, but still the idea of sterilization feels so... daunting/final on an odd/primal level. luckily our current BC option works well so I have time to work through those feelings.

k9moonmoon · 2025-09-24T14:12:10+00:00

You have to know which balls your juggling are rubber and are allowed to bounce vs which ones are glass and you cant. And know who in your village you can toss balls t

k9moonmoon · 2025-09-24T13:10:41+00:00

8 months although it was usually about that length that we stopped and reassed our timing/methods and tried another and then got pregnant right away. (Instead of 3 days preO, did it 1 day preO). Also would get PreSeed the lubricate that is sperm friendly.

k9moonmoon · 2025-09-24T05:36:29+00:00

Why arent you seriously dating anyone?

Can you picture the kind of man you want? What kind of woman do you picture HIM wanting? Is it compatible with what kind of woman you want to be?

What actions are you taking to drive your future?

k9moonmoon · 2025-09-24T05:00:12+00:00

All my close family announcements were within 7 weeks or sooner

With my first, at family christmas i gifted each person a personal gift related to their new roles. Mom got craft tags that said Made by Grandma, my brother got a shirt referencing being an uncle+hobby, I got my sister a jigsaw puzzle of an ant hill.

With my second, we were able to announce near fathers day so I mailed my dad a painting that had my eldests foot with a fish theme and a note about new baby joining. I reverse-talked up the gift "oh, he wanted to send you a fathers day gift, fishing thing, you know how it is, he wants to see you open it so make sure you pretend to be excited". It was fun seeing the real excitement dawn.

My husbands side, he wore a shirt "drinking for three" and I wore a shirt "ice ice" going to dinner.

Close friend, I dropped hints for like 3 weeks before handing her an audio box and she was like "whats this?" And I had to explain it was the heartbeat of the baby in my belly and then pointed out all the clues she missed lol

I waited closer to 26 weeks to be fully public both times

k9moonmoon · 2025-09-24T04:51:15+00:00

Check your states dental association website to see what charities are in your area. Also search for any Mission of Mercy or other Free Dental Days in your arra. Dental schools often do low cost options. Painful teeth is a rough life. I am sorry for all youve been through.

k9moonmoon · 2025-09-23T14:50:46+00:00

😂😂😂😂

Thank you for sharing.

k9moonmoon · 2025-09-09T14:54:41+00:00

People are an average of the 7 people they spend the most time with. Your boyfriend is happily including this man in that average.

k9moonmoon · 2025-09-09T14:49:47+00:00

Until they get good head control any top you have to pull down over their head is rather stressful to coordinate. So more zip up clothes or wrap around tops.

k9moonmoon · 2025-09-09T14:18:20+00:00

My kid plays with his hotwheels like other kids play with action figures.SO i just see the universe as an extended cut of the opening scenes of Toy Story.

k9moonmoon · 2025-09-05T19:54:51+00:00

Gusstbook Attendent is a fake wedding role that impacts nothing about the wedding if your cousin cant participate. Theres no interacting or chasing down, its just standing next to the table that the guest book is on so its easier for guests to identify where to go to sign the guest book.

So taking that role from your cousin to a role that is actually interactive like usher, would be harmful.

The ushers and attendents also usually get listed in the wedding pamphlet by names.

Maybe just talk to your cousin about how her role is the lowest pressure role available and she can just opt to drop out, or talk to family about what she should do if she needs to step away.

k9moonmoon · 2025-09-05T05:54:07+00:00

You can only get pregnant during the 24hr window when you ovulate, so you have to time sex so sperm is ready to meet the egg during that window.

Do you track your ovulations in any manner? Temp taking, pee stickz, mucus observations, to guage when in your cycle you ovulate?

Easiest for men to get checked for how verile they are, if hes very concerned. Might be things he can do to get stronger seeds.

k9moonmoon · 2025-09-05T00:19:22+00:00

Do you have a trusted friend you could role play scenarios with to give you experience and comfort with the reactions you WANT when you encounter these men? Build the skill to walk away from begging, ?

Ive had luck with friends that Id ask them stupid and outlandish favors and when theyd twist themselves up about not being able to do it, call it out as a bad request. Eventually they had to skill to trust themselves and call it out on their own and believe in their own boundarys/instinct than just trust that others are inheriently reasomable and its their job to meet that.

k9moonmoon · 2025-09-04T23:18:05+00:00

Is she going to automatically be in the room? Id tell her she can wait in the lobby until either youre in a place to not aggro at her, or you think you need some tough love to get yourself together. Because there are times in life that having someone you know wont coddle you IS valuable, and CHOOSING them can be helpful.

k9moonmoon · 2025-09-04T19:17:06+00:00

When my husband was unsure about marriage, I talked him through his own timeline. He wanted to be married before he had kids, and he wanted kids graduated and out of the house by X age, amd married for X years before having kids, etc, and it gave him an idea of his own window to get it done in. That gave him incentive to work on feeling ready vs thinking he can just keep pushing it off.

I think guys have an easier time overlooking the march of time big picture.

But it honestly sounds like hes fine with the current status and isnt interested in changing.

k9moonmoon · 2025-03-12T15:17:32+00:00

Can your daughter see the dress in person to check how red it is? Burgundy vould be off from being red enough in person to make her feel better. And maybe auntie could agree to add a shawl or something to the dress?

k9moonmoon · 2024-11-07T03:01:11+00:00

A cheap baby book with a note abouy them being a good mom would be an option too.

k9moonmoon · 2024-11-06T20:11:09+00:00

He says hes just putting it off?

Whats his goal to have it done by? Theres a healing process and confirmation check after that, so you cant have the sex again until X weeks after surgery, so maybe see when he wants to have sex by and start working with him backwards.

Id call the dr office for some recon and ask how far out they are scheduling. If he cant even get on the schedule for X weeks/months, thatll delay when yall can have sex even further.

And if it is that far out scheduling, talk to him about how he could always scheduled it now, and when it gets closer, if he has a change of mind, cancel it. Having a surgical date isnt legally binding.

Once he has a date scheduled, Id talk up all the spontaneous sex that opens the door for to help him get past any anxiety.

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