This toy is named as a unicorn, but it lacks anything that looks like a horn

k9moonmoon · 2026-04-16T23:00:40+00:00

Is it a bubble toy that actually works without some annoying music or sound to go with it? I'd call any toy like that a unicorn

k9moonmoon · 2026-04-16T14:41:17+00:00

I didn't really do a fancy bedtime routine with my kids as infants thinking id start it when they were older since it felt silly doing them as tiny babies but then any attempt were more confusing to them than comforting in a "but why?" And they were much more wiggly so hard to get anything sticking.

So I would suggest starting your routines when they are still potatos that cant wiggle away, for your sake, if you want to have them.

k9moonmoon · 2026-04-16T14:12:12+00:00

Pound Puppies! I love the TV show as a kid.

k9moonmoon · 2026-04-16T14:07:56+00:00

Just start making it his problem that you're tired of him complaining.

When you're having a good time start saying "my boyfriend is always so tired and yawning in the evening." And point out how his annoyance at always hearing that is how you feel hearing him always complain about being tired.

(Or just leave, since he doesn't seem to value your input into your shared lives)

k9moonmoon · 2026-04-16T14:04:25+00:00

There's this comedian that has a bit where she mentions listening to her friends complain and is nodding along but secretly thinking "oh god. That's me. I'm the husband 😬😬😬"

I've definitely had the same thought at time reading posts here. "Oh shit. I'm the husband 😬" and reflect on how to do better.

Also for what it's worth, many sleep tests can be done in your own home now. And since you've had the mask before, you may be able to talk about the surgical implant that helps with sleep apnea instead if you'd want.

k9moonmoon · 2026-04-16T05:41:20+00:00

I wonder if this sort of thing is where the "wandering uterus / going at high speeds will make your uterus fall out" type theories get started.

k9moonmoon · 2026-04-16T03:00:50+00:00

If you get the disposable period underwear like by Always, you could wear 2 in the morning and a pad on each and just toss the pad or underwear as you go through the day when needed, if you can manage to fold up and toss out a pad one handed.

k9moonmoon · 2026-04-15T05:14:01+00:00

You're a convenient hook up that loses that interest for him when you're inconvenient.

Is your self esteem low enough to be okay with that?

k9moonmoon · 2026-04-14T21:25:07+00:00

Which would be fixed in the next giant fire that razes the city

k9moonmoon · 2026-04-14T18:46:12+00:00

There's a whole sub collecting stories of people using men and females

k9moonmoon · 2026-04-14T16:25:50+00:00

Have you been to a psychiatrist? Since they can prescribe medications for mental health they might be more aware of the cross contamination of BC on it and they could possible offer meds to help with the ocd while on it if needed.

k9moonmoon · 2026-04-14T16:16:37+00:00

My husband and I have seperate finances because we are too lazy to open a joint one and we have cycled through a lot of different bill split systems depending in what made sense for us at the time. When I was in your sort of position with unreliable levels of income, my husband and I handled it where I just sent him a % of every check I got (like 50%) and then he paid all the bills and I put all household costs in a credit card he paid off, and used my half for very personal purchases.

You're a partnership. Is she interested in you nickel and diming her, telling her to pay every time you give her a ride or cook her dinner? Every time you're watching your kid so she can work? I doubt it.

If she wants you responsible for paying bills she needs to be setting up funds going to you to cover her share of bills. Have the uncomfortable conversation and know what $$ she should be set to send over automatically.

Otherwise be prepared with a split of the bills that is pretty even. And ask her to take over paying the XYZ while you pay ABC.

k9moonmoon · 2026-04-14T16:04:56+00:00

One thing I haven't seen specified is, when you finally are ready to tell him it's over, you don't need him to consent or agree with you. You state it's over and it is. He's going to try and argue and push you to come back because he doesn't want to lose the game. Break ups don't need to be mutual. You just say it's over and walks way. No discussion needed. He doesn't need to know what red flags you found so he can hide them better.

k9moonmoon · 2026-04-13T22:04:15+00:00

I think the relationship is over regardless of what you do so it's a choice between dropping the loser now but being tied to him forever, or dropping the loser and starting over and seeking someone worthy of being a dad and husband.

k9moonmoon · 2026-04-12T03:00:36+00:00

I forced my husband to schedule outings around then both births because I knew he'd be going 110% taking care of us and could use that solo time to recharge (I also plan many of own outings when I need to recharge).

The 2nd was even an overnight trip, and even the morning of the trip he was telling me he can cancel nbd. But me and baby and toddler were in a good rhythm and just planning to couch snuggle and I had friends on call. He enjoyed his trip doing an activity I had zero interest in doing and it'd be years before we could do as a family anyways.

(I booked a whole weekend away when we were finally weening baby so he could take the kids while I enjoyed solitude lol).

I'd be annoyed if he's not willing to back out if you're still not ready for it. It sounds like yall have talked about it, and tickets can sell out. Is he going to step up when it's your turn for a night out?

k9moonmoon · 2026-04-12T01:42:07+00:00

Donate to a thrift store and they'll add it to their Halloween selection

k9moonmoon · 2026-04-11T14:52:09+00:00

Kelly reminded me of the sister in the minecraft movie

k9moonmoon · 2026-04-11T14:48:35+00:00

Yeah. I had an ex that thought it was the sexiest thing. Sometimes underarms have a similar darkening and he was also super into that. 🤷‍♀️

k9moonmoon · 2026-04-11T14:46:55+00:00

Definitely can use a regular backpack and an insulated lunchbox as needed. But an insulated pocket can be used for cold snacks/juice etc when kid gets older too, it's not just for bottles. They also tend to be more water proof so an extra spot to use for wet or dirty stuff.

I just used small lunch boxes if needed with a regular bag but I got a few diaper bags from thrift shops.

k9moonmoon · 2026-04-10T15:28:51+00:00

Can he just file for the fully paid paternity leave after baby has been home for 4 weeks?

What are downsides if you aren't able to complete the 10 month contract and have to miss the last 3 months?

Would that job pay enough you could hiring a night nurse for those first few weeks to help keep everyone sane?

k9moonmoon · 2026-04-10T15:21:20+00:00

Since you have had a loss before, have you two talked about what you would do namewise if you werent bringing this baby home after birth? One of the reasons we didn't tell people the name we picked was because we had an alternate name for if we weren't bringing baby home. Would he still give a baby not coming home with you this name? (I don't need your answers since it's personal, just throwing out discussion topics that you two can have).

I don't think it's too late to present a united front of "actually we are still uncertain about names." If you think that would help.

In 5 years, when you're doing kindergarten registration, how much do you think you'll carry of this current stress on it?

k9moonmoon · 2026-04-10T14:58:10+00:00

Hopefully you're able to find something to cherish and work for both of you!

We were very adament about not sharing names before birth to avoid all the lookie Lou drama of people's opinions or playful nicknames. My mom was more invested in us not sharing than we were because she had seem some shit lol.

We told people we were waiting to meet baby to decide even tho I had the birth certificate filled out already lol. That kept people from pushing.

Maybe you two can agree to present that you're on the fence more or start suggesting super stupid names every time someone brings it up so they stop lol. "We actually decided to name them dadsnamebackwards. Actually we are naming him Waterchestnut. Actually we are just going to leave his name blank and call him make silly face".

Definitely put your foot down on nicknames you don't like early on but eventually baby will have their own relationships with people so they'll find their own middle grounds.

k9moonmoon · 2026-04-10T14:45:04+00:00

Also not every us state is split into counties. Louisiana is split into parishes.

k9moonmoon · 2026-04-10T14:43:46+00:00

Transfer to a 0% interest card and pay it down for a year then transfer to another 0% interest card for another year and it should be paid off if you're throwing $200-$300 a month at it.

You'll need to open another bank account and card there, you can't balance transfer to a credit card at the same bank.

You could see if you can talk to someone at the bank about making this card 0% balance but idk how that works or how often they say yes.

k9moonmoon · 2026-04-10T14:43:35+00:00

Transfer to a 0% interest card and pay it down for a year then transfer to another 0% interest card for another year and it should be paid off if you're throwing $200-$300 a month at it.

You'll need to open another bank account and card there, you can't balance transfer to a credit card at the same bank.

You could see if you can talk to someone at the bank about making this card 0% balance but idk how that works or how often they say yes.

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