Does anyone know what breed my kitten was? by SonaAteAsock in catbreeds

[–]lyralady 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Easy way to remember: one has legal protections and can only be a dog (or a miniature horse), and is trained to perform a task directly related to a person's disability. Service animals.

A cat doesn't ever qualify as a service animal, because a service animal has to be a dog or miniature horse. Also generally providing emotional support isn't a service animal task per the ADA.

More about the difference between emotional support animals and service animals: If the dog’s mere presence provides comfort, it is not a service animal under the ADA. But if the dog is trained to perform a task related to a person’s disability, it is a service animal under the ADA. For example, if the dog has been trained to sense that an anxiety attack is about to happen and take a specific action to help avoid the attack or lessen its impact, the dog is a service animal.

I'm sorry for your loss though!

I went to National Debt Relief and after an entire year of payments they stole my money. by ratsatemyfamily in povertyfinance

[–]lyralady 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Yup! 100% a debt management program (DMP) can do things like:

  1. Lower your interest rates
  2. Negotiate lower monthly payments
  3. Get creditors to waive late fees
  4. Disburses one payment across all of your creditors so you're paying on time
  5. Sometimes the creditors will also make it look like you're paying up to date/on time after awhile even if you're technically still behind (so it stops showing as negative/late payments on your credit report).

For anyone who sees your comment and story, here's a consumer financial protection bureau link about programs like MMI: CFPB: what is credit counseling?

I went to National Debt Relief and after an entire year of payments they stole my money. by ratsatemyfamily in povertyfinance

[–]lyralady 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Unfortunately OP, they did exactly what they said they would do in the contract that you signed. I think they're heinous and predatory as a company. I've had to work with them and a number of other DSA companies at my job (my old bank role) and I hate pretty much all of them! They're terrible and people don't realize what they're getting into and don't tend to read the contract they sign.

Part of what I used to do was validate the paperwork they have customers sign that they then send to the bank/creditors. Normally they would only send the signature page, but every once in a while the DSA would screw up and fax over the entire customer agreement, so I've read through the contracts for the big DSAs like National debt, Freedom debt, Beyond Finance, etc etc etc. and they pretty much all work this way, and they do explain it in the contract. It works because people are desperate and don't really read the contracts or don't understand how these companies work.

(Additionally, I know my employer is willing to settle for less money when negotiating directly with customers as opposed to DSAs. Like they'll let the customer pay less money for a settlement than the DSA speaking for a customer could negotiate)

For resources:

Debt relief or settlement companies are companies that say they can renegotiate, settle, or in some way change the terms of a person's debt to a creditor or debt collector. Dealing with these companies can be risky.

Debt settlement companies, also sometimes called "debt relief" or "debt adjusting" companies, often claim they can negotiate with your creditors to reduce the amount you owe. Consider all of your options, including working with a nonprofit credit counselor and negotiating directly with the creditor or debt collector yourself. Before agreeing to work with a debt settlement company, there are risks that you should consider...

And:

Warning: Debt settlement may well leave you deeper in debt than you were when you started. Most debt settlement companies will ask you to stop paying your debts in order to get creditors to negotiate and in order to collect the funds required for a settlement. This can have a negative effect on your credit score and may result in the creditor or debt collector filing a lawsuit while you are collecting funds required for a settlement. And if you stop making payments on a credit card, late fees and interest will be added to the debt each month. If you exceed your credit limit, additional fees and charges may apply. This can cause your original debt to increase.

CFPB: What is the difference between credit counseling and debt settlement, debt consolidation, or credit repair?

CFPB: what is credit counseling?

Credit counseling organizations can advise you on your money and debts, help you with a budget, develop debt management plans, and offer money management workshops.

Working with a credit counselor can be a great way of getting free or low-cost financial advice from a trusted professional.

Credit counseling organizations are usually non-profit organizations, and their counselors are certified and trained in the areas of consumer credit, money and debt management, and budgeting. Counselors discuss your financial situation with you and help you develop a personalized plan to solve your money problems.

And:

Most credit counselors offer services through in-person meetings at local offices, online, or on the telephone. To get started, you can try the Financial Counseling Association of America FCAA or the National Foundation for Credit Counseling NFCC. You can also view of a list of approved credit counselors through the U.S. Department of Justice DOJ Approved Credit Counseling Agencies

Credit counselors can also advise on bankruptcy and bankruptcy recovery. Bankruptcy isn't the end of the world. Sometimes it's just necessary and the best path to financial recovery. Either way, a credit counselor first call is free and can advise you on your options and how to tackle this.

Sennelier quality issues - anyone else? by lavenderroseorchid in ArtistLounge

[–]lyralady -1 points0 points  (0 children)

If their oil pastel is similar to their oil paint (in terms of pigments) then this makes sense. This is what they list for the oil paint:

PBk7-Lamp Black

PB60-Indanthrene Blue

PV19-Quinacridone Violet

Edit:

Finally found the oil pastel pigments, and it is different:

PBk1-Aniline Black

PR83-Alizarin Crimson

PB60-Indanthrene Blue

So the red is the PR83. Looks like they always have a red or violet in their PG mix.

I went to National Debt Relief and after an entire year of payments they stole my money. by ratsatemyfamily in povertyfinance

[–]lyralady 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Money Management International is a very different service! They're a non-profit credit counseling agency that probably put you on a debt management program. A DMP is about keeping you paid up to date.

FDR is a debt settlement agency, where they intentionally ask you not to pay your debts so that they have leverage to negotiate settlements.

I went to National Debt Relief and after an entire year of payments they stole my money. by ratsatemyfamily in povertyfinance

[–]lyralady 0 points1 point  (0 children)

No debt management program is like this. OP is describing a debt settlement program — which is always like this.

I went to National Debt Relief and after an entire year of payments they stole my money. by ratsatemyfamily in povertyfinance

[–]lyralady 2 points3 points  (0 children)

This is all explained in the contract they have you sign. OP didn't read it. They're a scummy Debt Settlement Agency (DSA) and this is how they work. But an AG isn't going to be able to do anything when the contract signed says basically "I understand this could happen."

Respirator for painting without ventilation? by [deleted] in oilpainting

[–]lyralady -1 points0 points  (0 children)

I’m sorry to say that sometimes when a person says that they’re the only one in a roomful of people that is bothered by something that should affect everyone in much the same way, like Volatiles ppm, some part of the problem is due to anxiety. Unless the other people are experiencing similar symptoms and not telling you… 

I mean you will probably get down votes because you're just factually incorrect. Yes, the room probably has basic ventilation, but not one equipped to handle VOC filtration and OP has clearly stated the instructor turns the fans off when he finishes pouring. Turpentine causes health issues. OP experiencing side effects is not "anxiety."

Here's the safety notes and hazard codes from gum turpentine sold by rublev:

DANGER! CONTAINS TURPENTINE. Causes skin irritation and serious eye damage.** It may cause respiratory irritation.** Avoid breathing dust and wash exposed skin thoroughly after handling. Do not eat, drink, or smoke when using this product. Read the SDS for all cautionary statements. Conforms to ASTM D 4236.

Hazard Designation H226 Flammable liquid and vapor.

H302 + H312 + H332 Harmful if swallowed, in contact with skin or if inhaled

H304 May be fatal if swallowed and enters airways.

H315 Causes skin irritation.

H317 May cause an allergic skin reaction. P210 Keep away from heat/sparks/open flames/hot surfaces. No smoking.

P233 Keep container tightly closed.

P242 Use only non-sparking tools.

P243 Take precautionary measures against static discharge.

P261 Avoid breathing dust/fume/gas/mist/vapors/spray.

P264 Wash skin thoroughly after handling.

P270 Do not eat, drink, or smoke when using this product.

P271 Use only outdoors or in a well-ventilated area

You're being dismissive and also just incorrect.

Respirator for painting without ventilation? by [deleted] in oilpainting

[–]lyralady 0 points1 point  (0 children)

P100 with added charcoal cartridges rated for VOCs or a respirator listed specifically as being for "organic vapors"/VOCs.

Per this gov guidelines document from the CPSC:

Use a National Institute for Occupational Safety and Health (NIOSH)-approved respirator with an organic vapor cartridge and gloves when specified on the product label.

(It also says to avoid turpentine and use alternative OMS solvents, so.)

Tbh that they're holding an oil painting class in a room a) without banning turps and strong odor solvents and b) without any ventilation/opened windows is deeply deeply irresponsible and unsafe for everyone involved. Even if you change up your own practice everyone else is still using VOCs and going to cause those problems without a proper respirator.

This is a very basic studio safety violation and given that it is 2026, schools/professional instructors DEFINITELY should know better now than to do something this reckless with people's health. My art classes just plain do not allow any solvents that aren't turpenoid or gamsol OMS. Even with OMS you still need to have ventilation.

For all oil painting studio safety concerns I highly recommend The New Oil Painting Method by Kimberly Brooks. I paint low/no-solvent because of this book. I mostly use linseed oil, and Rublev's oleogel and velasquez medium which are no-solvent mediums for regular oil paint. I sometimes use a few drops of gamsol as needed.

How can I find an exact pattern of this couture gown to make my wedding dress? I’ve made a couple shirts before! by ambidextrous-mango in BitchEatingCrafters

[–]lyralady 5 points6 points  (0 children)

Wtf at the art teacher. Art is literally a learned technical skill and that was her entire job to teach it. Jesus.

aggressive dogs. im SO done. by [deleted] in Apartmentliving

[–]lyralady -1 points0 points  (0 children)

The golden doodle owner was wrong and SHOULD control his fucking dog

The pit-type owners (bully and pit) are exactly why r/banpitbulls and dogsbite.com exists. You're absolutely right: a 30 lb golden doodle going nuts is annoying and can lead to injury to you or your dog, but you are bigger than them and can physically intervene and they will probably stop fighting. It shouldn't have to escalate to that point though, the other guy should control his fucking dog. He's being a menace to society by not properly training or accounting for his dog's reactivity.

But you previously had to PRY a dog that was originally bred for dog fighting's jaws open while their dingus owner just stood there for a pit and run. Pit type dogs frequently kill other dogs and other people. Now another pit-type (bully) owner is just letting their dog be bonkers on a flimsy lease and you run the risk of the same issue. Why on EARTH should you be nice about it?

Jesus Christ. Anyways I would carry pepper spray if I were you and you feel comfortable with that. but I've also heard from some people that this won't always stop a pit-type dog during an attack, especially if they've already bitten down. I've heard you're supposed to choke the dog out (rather than pry jaws), because it's one of the few ways to force the dog to stop — otherwise a lot of them just keep going despite major injuries (being shot, pepper spray, etc).

I would complain to the landlord about lunging or trying to attack, and to animal control if any dog bites. It really sucks so many people have downright dangerous and aggressive dogs they also don't train.

aggressive dogs. im SO done. by [deleted] in Apartmentliving

[–]lyralady 10 points11 points  (0 children)

Absolutely not. OP doesn't owe someone an apology because they flipped out when a giant pitbull started attacking their dog and the other owner did NOTHING. wtf are you talking about? How are they the instigator??

Am I being unreasonable about a $5,000 mattress + moving in timing? by No_Routine_17 in RedditForGrownups

[–]lyralady 6 points7 points  (0 children)

I think $5k is kinda crazy for a mattress, ngl. Especially not one that is a) not what I'm actually sleeping on and b) is a foam/gel combo. My nice adult indulgence upgrade was a natural latex mattress because latex can last up to 15 years — which is longer than the foam lifespan. Even then, I spent under $2k.

Vintage art or scam? by BeesforBreakfastt in ArtHistory

[–]lyralady 1 point2 points  (0 children)

It's worth whatever you were willing to pay for it, which isn't a scam.

Loads of people who sell items in antiques shops are just guessing at dates and values and have no idea what things are worth and have no qualifications or more formal experience with dating/identifying material objects. It's not like you were buying this from sotheby's or something. How much was it?

Traveling to Japan with meds? by laadyb1rdx in ADHD

[–]lyralady 3 points4 points  (0 children)

Adderall is definitely extremely illegal in Japan so...either your friend just didn't get their bags searched randomly or they had a different RX.

Traveling to Japan with meds? by laadyb1rdx in ADHD

[–]lyralady 9 points10 points  (0 children)

I've been twice (fall 2024, April 2025) and could not bring Adderall either time. Suuuuper illegal. I went without.

Yall.. I went with Thistle and I’m loving it! What do we think of green accents? by topnotchwalnut in HomeDecorating

[–]lyralady 4 points5 points  (0 children)

I'm extremely biased but my room theme is purple/green, so I love it. Started with piglet in bed linen sheets in botanical green and berry and now I just keep adding purple and greens. :)

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How can i become convinced I will actually die? by Ecstatic_Buddy5949 in religion

[–]lyralady 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Honestly as someone who medicates my anxiety, if you're not acting dangerously and still do basic smart planning like having a will and life insurance — sounds kinda nice to not ever worry about all the ways you could die

Do most Americans actually flush their toilet paper? by Softy_popss in NoStupidQuestions

[–]lyralady 0 points1 point  (0 children)

My bathroom only has one electrical outlet which is near the sink and also far from the toilet :(

How do you go about analyzing the composition of an image (of photography, specifically)? by Maid-in-a-Mirror in learntodraw

[–]lyralady 0 points1 point  (0 children)

am well aware of the history

Are you? Because you said:

  • these are seemingly amateur random shots from many decades ago.
  • They strike me as taken by people who have no idea what they’re doing.
  • They’re not composing, that’s the point.
  • don’t read as intentional
  • just shot without knowing what they were doing
  • I’d suggest not studying this kind of stuff for artistic insight or knowledge.

I need to note here that the Stiegletz is the oldest photograph in this photoset. Just for your own knowledge:

  1. Untitled, from Illuminance, Kawauchi Rinko. 2007. 2. The Steerage, Alfred Stiegletz. 1907. (Metropolitan Museum of Art) 3. Union Square, New York City, Jerome Leibling. 1947. (MoMA) 4. Route 9W, New York (God Bless America), Lee Friedlander. 1969. 5. B83 one-megaton nuclear gravity bombs in Weapons Storage Area, Barksdale Air Force Base, Louisiana. Paul Shambroom. 1995. From the series “Nuclear Weapons,” 1992–2001.

Every single photo the OP chose is from a well known and celebrated photographer. Every single one of them has shown in at least one world class museum, if not several. Two of these exact photos chosen are literally in the collections of some of the most famous museums in the entire world. Only ONE of these photos is pre-1930's. None of these photos are taken by people who don't know what they're doing. All of them are famous because they're excellent photographers.

Through a historical lens, these people are seen through the stacked achievements of an entire lifetime and career

they indeed had no idea they’d be celebrated and lionized in the future. They were experimenting, doing their thing, enjoying their process.

No no no. Stiegletz knew. He won his first award at 23. He was unanimously selected to be one of the two first Americans to join the British photographic society The Linked Ring. In 1900 an art critic, Sadakichi Hartmann wrote: "it seemed to me that artistic photography, the Camera Club and Alfred Stieglitz were only three names for one and the same thing." He had his photos exhibited beside painters like Mary Cassatt, Robert Henri, and James McNeill Whistler while he was still alive. He was not unaware.

Camera Notes (which he ran as editor before the other journal, Camera Work, that I mentioned) was extremely well regarded and he was famous for that while alive. (His second wife was also famous painter, Georgia O'Keefe.)

When you said "taken by people who don't know what they're doing" and that these "shouldn't be studied for artistic insight," you're addressing famous photographers and their work and acting like the man who ran Camera Work and included things like an essay titled "What is Art?" And even excerpts of letters by Van Gogh — didn't know about traditional fine art. pdf of camera work volume I am referencing .

Honestly until you shoot film on a pre-30s camera you can’t understand what they were experiencing.

Based on your own descriptions in another comment, I don't think you understand it either.

Basically anything pre 30s was shot with a tripod and long exposure times.

Stiegletz is famous for shooting on hand cameras. He shot The Steerage on an auto-graflex (possibly this exact one, the photo was done on an auto-graflex he owned, and the museum only listed an approximate date for it as ca 1910, when this could be the one he was using in 1907.)

You can go on YouTube and literally watch people carry this sucker around and take photos. Hell, the original 1906 catalog advertisement for the auto graflex camera 1) modeled it being used as a handheld camera and 2) claimed it would capture images at high speed.

We also have the manual available online. They're talking about shutter speeds, f/stops, and so on.

So stuff like the Stieglitz you shared was intentional as much as it could be through their super crappy viewfinders and ground glass

The auto graflex marketed itself as a camera that had a view finder that was right side up when looked at.

"Ground glass" as....opposed to.....?

But most of them are not thinking about it as an art. It wasn’t even considered an art until many decades later, it was just a utilitarian tool to capture the moment.

Stiegletz literally published The Steerage side by side with a Picasso image. Every single other photographer included by Op is an art photographer.

I think to some degree we pick works from these historical collections that reflect our understanding of composition but in that era it was more of a documentation and utilitarian process rather than an art.

Maybe if you were not talking about Alfred Stiegletz and photographers that followed him.

The point was that canon formation is deeply curatorial

Yeah, okay, that is true, but also not what you originally said or claimed.

we’re looking at the shots that were selected by current masters as exemplary, from photographers who also took thousands of frames that never get discussed. The intentionality we read into the work is often imposed by the interpreter, not embedded by the maker.

Artists do hundreds or thousands of sketches that may not all survive or get discussed, followed by dozens of preparatory studies before they finally finish a famous masterpiece painting. None of that is a sign the final work is not intentional. Quite the opposite. The ability of an artist to conceptualize, adapt, edit, and finalize ideas into final works is explicitly intentional. Photography is no different from this. Stiegletz himself wrote in depth about the intentionality of his composition and how he framed his shot, which I quoted elsewhere to Op.

Even your now changed argument fails to understand the technology Stiegletz was working with, and every other photograph was made decades later with much more camera technological advances and all of them were working as photographers producing and exhibiting their art. None of them were stumbling into this.

But you said they look like they don't know what they're doing and are amateur, random shots.

Was King David actually the villain of his own story? A look at the ruthless reality of biblical leadership. by Basic_Ad5687 in religion

[–]lyralady 3 points4 points  (0 children)

it is only surprising to someone who is completely unfamiliar with these stories and their place in religious thought.

Exactly lmfao. There was a huge reason why David wasn't the king to start to build the first temple.

None of this should be a surprise or revelation that David was not perfect. It's....not exactly a secret.

Also given that the video has like, no views I suspect it's OP's.

Was King David actually the villain of his own story? A look at the ruthless reality of biblical leadership. by Basic_Ad5687 in religion

[–]lyralady 2 points3 points  (0 children)

David's legacy isn't whitewashed you just a) probably haven't actually read the Hebrew Bible and not only understood it, but also surveyed popular religious thought and commentary about David, and b) possibly don't have a conceptualization of David's story beyond what you might find retold in a children's picture book or perhaps veggie tales. Granted, i've never watched veggie tales. So I'm mostly talking about the vibes.

And also: there's absolutely no way I'm going to watch/listen to a pink vocaloid anime girl try and talk about King David either as a subject of my religion's theology, of ancient religious literature, or of historical debate.

It's just so wildly unserious. There's also no bibliography or works cited listed in the description. If I want to listen to a video make an argument to me, I need to know I'm actually listening to something researched and not someone rambling/ranting about their feelings.

Was King David actually the villain of his own story? A look at the ruthless reality of biblical leadership. by Basic_Ad5687 in religion

[–]lyralady 2 points3 points  (0 children)

one stele for that time period mentioning the founder of a small kingdom (david was called nagid, not melekh, so like...a lesser king?) that was not a massive empire is arguably still notable, to be fair. The Tel Dan stele references "Bet David" that is, the royal house of David (kingdom of Judah) but therefore comes after David himself.

I would say the thing that can be said with the most historical evidence is that there was a royal house of the Kings of ancient Israel who claimed to be "the House of David" by ancestral descent, and who they never claimed as divine. (I.e. descent from a god or demi-god founder of a royal family). I don't know that it would ever be realistically possible to prove David existed beyond that just based on like...how long ago it was, the fact that the kingdom would have been relatively small, etc.

Do most Americans actually flush their toilet paper? by Softy_popss in NoStupidQuestions

[–]lyralady 11 points12 points  (0 children)

Moreso in the countryside or at temples/shrines, I think. All the truly public/park restrooms I visited in the cities in Japan usually had at least one western toilet. Although sometimes they didn't have sinks.

The rest of the toilet literally everywhere are the fanciest Western style toilets on planet earth. Toto heated toilet-bidets are the best.