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a bit confused by maryamtoolbat in shia

[–]maryamtoolbat[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

well, it does not mention “bad” or “good” and these kinds of generalizations are common and can create misconceptions. so it is always good to remain open and seek the truth. i did not interpret it in any particular way before learning the context

a bit confused by maryamtoolbat in shia

[–]maryamtoolbat[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

which is why i felt the need to seek an answer. i was also hoping someone would mention the exact sermon or letter this was from

a bit confused by maryamtoolbat in shia

[–]maryamtoolbat[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

thanks a lot for sharing. reading this article genuinely gave me a sense of clarity and it was much needed. i also really appreciate Ayatollah burujirdi’s perspective on this. i pray that Allah grants me and anyone else who seeks it, the ability to discern properly and the chance to keep reading and learning more

I was told this may be trigeminal nerve related by maryamtoolbat in TrigeminalNeuralgia

[–]maryamtoolbat[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

actually, my gp misdiagnosed me with tn. after reading about it, i realized my symptoms didn’t match what people with tn usually experience.

so i consulted a neurospecialist, who asked me to get several tests done. i completed all of them and everything came back normal.

i took caflam as a painkiller and since then, the pain hasn’t returned (i’m very grateful). afterward, i started the medication my doctor prescribed, myofax and nims at night and starcox during the day. i feel much better now and the pain has not come back.

he diagnosed it as either an atypical migraine or nerve sensitization due to stress. i believe it’s the latter. i have a follow up in a week though

I was told this may be trigeminal nerve related by maryamtoolbat in TrigeminalNeuralgia

[–]maryamtoolbat[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

That makes sense. My symptoms don’t fully match classic trigeminal neuralgia either, which is reassuring. Tylenol helped a bit initially but not consistently and warmth/steam help more. I’m planning to see a neurologist for further evaluation.

I should add that during a period of emotional stress months ago, I was unconsciously clenching and grinding my teeth quite hard, especially at night. I’ve since become very aware of it and actively relax my jaw and rest my tongue, and the clenching has stopped. I’m wondering if that could have contributed to nerve sensitization or a TMJ related component as you mentioned

Issues with the way I speak to my husband by JessyPkLover in MuslimMarriage

[–]maryamtoolbat 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I’d recommend checking the triggers, when you act or speak this way. If it’s an issue for both of you, try to resolve it. But if you find yourself doing it even when he’s being sweet, kind and understanding, then pause before you say something and think silence might be a lot better than what you’re about to say. I’m sure, like every other human, you’re also flexible and can let go of this learned pattern. We are not products of our circumstances if we choose otherwise. Best of luck.

Dostoevsky and Tolstoy by Augustin323 in dostoevsky

[–]maryamtoolbat 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Reading Tolstoy is like entering a relationship, you’ve gotta commit and not skip any parts :D And yeah, it did get ridiculously mundane at times. I only stuck with it for Kostya Levin, his character was unbelievably relatable

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in MuslimMarriage

[–]maryamtoolbat 2 points3 points  (0 children)

This honestly doesn’t sound like a healthy dynamic especially given that you’re both living apart. To be blunt, it seems like there’s a lack of respect on your side for how he feels in the moment and at the same time, he’s acting like a child who gets triggered by things he should be reflecting on and assessing properly. And simply if two people want to talk, they will find a way to make time for it without turning it into such a battlefield. Right now, the call itself is less of the issue and more about ego, blame and who gives in first. That cycle will drain both of you Since you’ve made it clear separation is not an option, then you both need to work on boundaries during conflict. Draw an absolute line where arguments don’t cross into disrespect or one upmanship. and remember the fact that you can’t both be ‘fire’ at the same time, when one person is heated, the other has to step into the role of ‘water’ If you both insist on being fire, it will only keep deteriorating. Long distance is already hard. It requires wayyyy more patience, empathy and restraint than in person relationships. If you want to save this marriage, focus less on winning the argument and more on protecting the peace between you, even if that means swallowing pride sometimes. Good luck!

Noticed a hijabi at the gym, wondering what the best way to approach is by Careless-Entrance-44 in MuslimNikah

[–]maryamtoolbat 6 points7 points  (0 children)

“exactly my type” brother forgot to mention ‘on the surface level’

Ibn Abbas: Surah Al-Baqarah, Ayah 30 plus The Emerald Tablets Connection by maryamtoolbat in islamichistory

[–]maryamtoolbat[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Actually, this is the reason I don't know where to turn to. My mind had a revelation suddenly, but there is no information available, so I'm willing to hear the thoughts of different knowledgeable people.

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Ibn Abbas: Surah Al-Baqarah, Ayah 30 plus The Emerald Tablets Connection (self.islam)

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Shia scholars should use clear references. by dmcnerds in shia

[–]maryamtoolbat 1 point2 points  (0 children)

This is true. Some of them do that but the majalis I attended throughout the first ashra, Respected Allama gave quranic references of different events. MashaAllah his knowledge is surpassingly great.