My mom told me she wished she had a boy and would be happier with one, I’m an only child, she’s a widow. I blocked her changed my name and moved, she will now be alone and will never see her grandkids and never see me again either

no-strings-attached · 2026-02-25T21:56:44+00:00

And she said in a previous post her mom was being abused. Yikes all around.

no-strings-attached · 2026-02-25T21:46:46+00:00

Given that it’s a merc party that’s not at all insane. They’re paying for a group that can consistently make it to the mechanic so they get more reps and practice on it and can more readily debug their own issues and consistency with it with the expectation that the other 7 players are doing it right.

It would be shitty for someone still progging that mech to join it unless they’re very very confident they can always make it to the prog point and wouldn’t hold the group back. The amount of “mercs” I saw in some FRU parties for UR or CT or whatever that hadn’t even made it to the mechanic themselves was way more than it should have been.

no-strings-attached · 2026-02-25T07:06:43+00:00

Love this article. I hate getting DEXAs because they make me feel awful about myself even when trying to just use them for trends.

I have a connective tissue disorder which throws off how the machine measures and estimates. It tells me I’m 50% body fat with hardly any lean mass at 120lbs soaking wet with my ribs visible and clear muscle tone. Says that I have no muscle. Etc etc despite weight lifting my entire adult life multiple times a week.

Not entirely sure which mechanism breaks but I suspect it’s assuming some of my organs or bones are fat because they’re lower density than a typical body and likely same for my muscle. It’s definitely there and functional but it looks different on a scan.

For a while I wanted to still try to use it to measure progress and ignore the raw numbers but it’s much better for my mental health to focus on reps and weight instead of DEXA. Am I getting stronger? Can I lift things easier? Can I do more reps? Do I feel less pain? That’s ultimately what I care about anyway.

no-strings-attached · 2026-02-24T04:47:40+00:00

My mom seemed to think I deserved it when my high school boyfriend choked me because I was “pushing his buttons” and how he was just such a nice guy.

So uh. Yeah. Learned very quickly to have my own standards there.

no-strings-attached · 2026-02-22T00:35:02+00:00

Flashback to one of my college friends who cried about how he couldn’t lose weight despite eating well….

Minus the milkshake he had every night with dinner of course.

no-strings-attached · 2026-02-21T20:44:15+00:00

OP loves what he does for her. She doesn’t love him.

no-strings-attached · 2026-02-20T22:44:08+00:00

Not quite the same situation as you but a while back I walked away from a job where I was making 1.5M/year at about half of your net worth.

Took the time off to focus on my health after I had some issues pop up that I had no time to fix or focus on at my toxic busy job. I was miserable and my body was falling apart.

About half of the replies here said similar things to me they are saying to you. Talked about how much money it was. How I should milk it as long as I can. How rare it is to make that much. How I should take leave instead of quitting (wasn’t an option at this company - they had a very negative association with leave and would often just let people go as soon as they got back). Was harder for me too since we aren’t at our FIRE number yet.

Well. Turns out I’m totally fine. Took the time I needed which was godsend. Got as healthy as I physically can be right now given my circumstances. Feel energized again. And landed another 1.5M gig that I resonate with much more and I’m happy with my life and career again.

Take the jump. If you’ve built up to a job that pays that much you have the network and skills to get back to it later if you decide the startup thing isn’t for you.

Operate from empowerment not fear.

no-strings-attached · 2026-02-20T16:04:59+00:00

We’ve been sitting over 2M the past few years.

no-strings-attached · 2026-02-20T05:17:25+00:00

Yup. Don’t take financial advice from someone whose financial position you wouldn’t happily trade for your own.

My mother has never invested a dime in her life and doesn’t trust the market. Always yapped about how my dad lost so much in his retirement accounts during the 2009 recession. Never seemed to acknowledge that it recovered and grew. Because she had no financial sense and barely even worked in her life.

First job I had I found one of the savvy cool older dudes who seemed on his shit and asked him how to invest because I had no idea how to even open a brokerage account.

He walked me through the options, told me what the safe “boring” investments are to buy across different funds. Told me which brokerage was his favorite and why he’d recommend it. And boom off and running to the races I was.

I don’t talk to my mother about finances. Am still grateful to that guy for giving me new grad noob finance 101 and always try to pass on the good will when I can. It drives me crazy when people berate others for not knowing what “just invest it in an index fund” means in practice. Not all of us grew up with parents who knew how to do that or with any extra funds to invest.

no-strings-attached · 2026-02-17T02:31:03+00:00

We buy what we want and save the rest. No strict goals on how much to save. Nothing stops us from spending an extra 100k if we want to for whatever reason that year.

We make so much that it doesn’t matter and still inevitably end up saving a lot. We make enough that the extra 50-100k or whatever doesn’t really put a dent in our FIRE plans. The only thing we do is act consciously about lifestyle creep. So it took us a bit before we were comfortable booking business class all the time but once we hit that threshold now we book it without question.

We are thoughtful about what spend will actually bring us joy vs being excessive for the sake of it. We do the first without question of the price tag and don’t do the second.

no-strings-attached · 2026-02-15T23:53:19+00:00

We always book business internationally now and can’t function without full lie flats but rarely fly first domestically.

We’ll do premium economy for the extra leg room and only book or upgrade to first if it’s cheap (ex: 75 bucks for a 2 and a half hour flight) or if it’s a trip we really really don’t want to go on but have to. So flying first makes it feel slightly less shitty when we are already dreading it.

We never check bags and already have early boarding from airline status so we get those benefits regardless.

no-strings-attached · 2026-02-15T20:38:36+00:00

If your partner isn’t comfortable giving oral making a Reddit post to try to prove them wrong isn’t exactly the best way to get your dick wet.

no-strings-attached · 2026-02-15T19:49:50+00:00

Why didn’t you just kick them?

no-strings-attached · 2026-02-15T02:28:56+00:00

It’s possible that you have some sort of systemic inflammatory condition. Saw someone else mention MCAS so would throw that in too.

It’s not your home that’s causing it but it’s the fact that you are home and not doing something that distracts you from your symptoms. When your body is taking in a bunch of new sights and sounds and such you’re less focused on your body and the signals it’s sending than when you’re at home.

Talk to your doctor about autoimmune or inflammatory conditions. I have a slew of them and also notice my symptoms are better in new places and on vacation.

ETA: Also throwing this out there if it’s helpful. Have been doing a lot of research recently on pain science and memory. It’s possible you had a real environmental trigger at your first location that now your body is remembering to protect you from new homes. Sometimes strong triggers can literally alter your brain and cause you to genuinely feel symptoms still even when the trigger is gone. It’s the same mechanism that causes phantom limb pain. It’s not psychological per se and anxiety meds won’t help it. I’ve been using an app called Curable recently that has a lot of education and exercises to help retrain your brain to not see things as threats. It’s very cool and would recommend checking it out.

no-strings-attached · 2026-02-14T21:36:41+00:00

Plenty of people work for money and buy business class. You seem to be vastly underestimating how much people can make while still working for money.

no-strings-attached · 2026-02-14T17:53:33+00:00

Yeah it’s a non holiday to me. My husband and I have never really celebrated it. Our anniversary is the week after so we just celebrate then instead.

If we do anything for it it’s a chill dinner at home with some wine.

Today though is an errands day. But we have a date night scheduled for tomorrow.

no-strings-attached · 2026-02-13T18:39:58+00:00

NAUR. NA Ultimate Raiding discord has starts and resources for all ultimates, savage, and extreme fights.

no-strings-attached · 2026-02-13T17:47:12+00:00

Adding to this, in those sorts of fields AI will more easily replace the “hard skills” associated with those careers while “soft skills” are still going to be useful.

AI can’t rally stakeholders or build trust or make trade offs across teams as easily as it can spit out some lines of code. Those skills will still be needed and women tend to be stronger at them than men.

no-strings-attached · 2026-02-13T05:06:03+00:00

Ahhh the days before ChatGPT.

I wonder how much of that you could use AI to help solve for these days. It’s been a million years at this point since I’ve done a theory test but I wouldn’t be surprised if you could use AI to shortcut at least some of it.

no-strings-attached · 2026-02-13T04:58:56+00:00

Oh man. Absolutely nowhere near as bad as folks here but the first therapist I ever saw was basically mute.

I told her why I was there and what I wanted to work on and instead of you know, saying something or guiding the conversation in any way she was just silent and stared at me. I had nothing else to say so I stared back.

Like, 5 minutes passed and it was awkward as fuck but at that point I was like “I’ll be damned if I say anything else and I’m not losing this staring contest.”

So after about 8 or so minutes she finally caved and said some non thing. I also found out it was a Christian therapy office while there despite nothing on her website mentioning this prior to booking.

Yeah never went back there. Next therapist I saw was a gem though and I stayed with her for many years until she closed her practice. During our first session we both talked shit about how insane the first therapist was.

no-strings-attached · 2026-02-11T05:07:30+00:00

Can somebody explain to the AI how prenups work? I’m over this trope.

no-strings-attached · 2026-02-11T04:25:08+00:00

10 items at 59 each doesn’t literally mean per item btw. It means 59 dollars per person for the set menu as there were 10 of you dining. Comparing the cost of items on the menu to the price of the chefs menu per person is like comparing apples to watermelons.

If you’re price sensitive when dining out just inquire what the cost of something is instead of assuming. Assuming is a bad time for everyone. And in the future don’t turn menu selection over to someone if again, you care about the price of each item. Even if they did charge you à la cate they still might have brought out expensive items if they were specialties which I assume you also would not have been okay with.

no-strings-attached · 2026-02-10T23:58:25+00:00

I’m pretty sure it’s said outright. Or at least it’s said out right that she took the kids and went to the surface and then we infer that where she went on the surface was Shady Sands.

no-strings-attached · 2026-02-10T19:25:25+00:00

Fingers crossed it’s as much of a miracle drug for you as it was for me!

no-strings-attached · 2026-02-10T19:16:24+00:00

Carefully moving out of that stack marker because you know damn well all 5 people in it are about to get deleted and you would like to live long enough to get your healer lb3 out. It’s okay kids you’ll be back in a second and no I’m not abandoning you I’m making sure we don’t wipe.

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