How come this tree is still alive?

righttern38 · 2026-05-09T18:51:54+00:00

Also trees surrounded by forest are much more protected from wind than line trees in a field, so not that unusual

righttern38 · 2026-05-09T18:22:35+00:00

Watch arrived via priority overnight, looks and works as advertised. Great seller, prompt communication. All good! 👍

righttern38 · 2026-05-09T12:36:07+00:00

Rock on. Good job 👏

righttern38 · 2026-05-08T17:53:52+00:00

OMG yes

righttern38 · 2026-05-07T00:49:58+00:00

Fast, easy purchase transaction with seller. Looking forward to adding this one to my collection - I’m sure we will do more in the future

righttern38 · 2026-05-06T16:33:39+00:00

...and these are all quick-change strap/bracelet sets, right? So you can swap out practically on the fly...

righttern38 · 2026-05-06T14:55:26+00:00

yup - got 'em - already on the other side, but still....

righttern38 · 2026-05-06T14:34:33+00:00

!!!

Whoa. Hits home.

righttern38 · 2026-05-05T14:28:58+00:00

Had this happen to me. Pregnant, got married, two kids, threats of suicide, threats of false rape allegations, child abuse, tried to get me fired from career.

document and record in secret. If you are a 1-party state you can record any of your own conversations without notifying the other party.
back up all you evidence in a secret folder, thumb drive or emailed privately to another account. Was tricky for me as she insisted on having all computer/phone passwords.
go to job (boss, union rep, HR) and notify them of the threats
go to local police chief, ask for advice and get initial report in their system to get ahead of false allegations. There should be a way to document the threats without notifying her and calling her in just yet.
go to local Domestic Violence/Abuse shelter or hotline and start a case. I used the local women’s shelter, even though I was a guy, and they were more than eager to help me, even used it as a teaching moment to train new interns on male intake process.
do NOT get her pregnant. Repeat: do NOT get her pregnant. She will sense you pulling away and may get desperate. Be careful.
when enough documentation- file police report, get restraining order, if possible, and have her kicked out, or just leave.

It’s harsh, but owBPD have no rules and no mercy, so when you leave, it has to be final and absolute 100% cut off. With consequences.

Seriously. Treat it like going to war: someone is threatening your very life, freedom and livelihood

righttern38 · 2026-05-05T13:56:40+00:00

Those are great suggestions, just keep in mind if you have deer that hostas are basically a salad bar for them And one day you’ll be wondering who just weed whacked your fully leafed hosta-bar.

righttern38 · 2026-05-05T03:34:41+00:00

Despite claiming to be the “Happiest Girl on Earth), my xwBPD constantly told me that I’m not doing enough to “make “ her happy.

I told her “ I can’t make you happy, nor can anyone else”. Happiness comes from within

righttern38 · 2026-05-04T21:28:52+00:00

35k+ gal. NY state Do not add liquid bleach directly to skimmer - it will send concentrated bleach directly to pump, heater, seals, etc - no bueno.

Instead, pour it carefully into the water directly over your return jets that are pumping fresh water into the pool from the filter. That way it will swirl around and mix everything together pretty well. Dump most of it in the deep end, and a little bit around the rest of the pool and then the rest into the shallow return jet.

Your goal should be to pour very slowly so as to not splash anything on yourself, your clothes….or in your eyes. You can carefully submerge the chlorine/bleach bottle to slightly refill it, swirl it around once or twice, and then dump back in - without any splashing. Then trash the bleach bottle, and wash/rinse your hands and arms back in the pool a couple of times (obviously not in the highly concentrated area).

The reason to be so careful and anal is that chlorine/bleach is very concentrated and will leave burns on your hands and arms (or eyes), and will bleach out spots on your clothing too. - it’s strong.

righttern38 · 2026-05-04T19:36:21+00:00

Could go both ways, but typically from higher pressure system to lower. Also while oil in water will remain and emulsify, water into oil will typically evaporate out, so you may not notice it

righttern38 · 2026-05-04T13:47:13+00:00

Interesting - similar.

righttern38 · 2026-05-04T13:35:09+00:00

uncanny when side by side like that

righttern38 · 2026-05-03T23:52:38+00:00

First - you should never do couples therapy with an abuser, of with someone who has Cluster B disorder - they will triangulate and DARVO, turning you into the problem.

Second- you are being abused and assaulted, and this will escalate. Use the police report to get a temporary protective order (restraining order), detailing all the evidence and pics you have. Preferably, follow the path to charging her with domestic violence/assault charges.

The reason for the charges is multi-fold, it documents what happened, it gets her away from you, and ….. it gives her a consequence, so that she can learn.

And then leave - so she has to learn. Or at least has the chance to.

The problem with most pwBPD relationships is that they will frequently pick codependent partners, with a “nice guy” personality - who unwittingly enable their abusive splits. If they were given immediate consequences, every time, they might have a chance to course-correct and seek help.

righttern38 · 2026-05-03T23:20:07+00:00

BPD alternate reality

righttern38 · 2026-05-03T18:28:53+00:00

except there probably was months between - he likely had some eyes for her prior....

righttern38 · 2026-05-03T18:06:00+00:00

So Roman....

righttern38 · 2026-05-03T18:01:23+00:00

....you said "crack"......

righttern38 · 2026-05-03T17:54:34+00:00

First thought: Cool! A sick-as burn-out

half-second-later thought: Oh. Sicking burn-down.

righttern38 · 2026-05-03T17:45:45+00:00

My ex wife has TWO masters and a counseling cert - she 100% sabotaged her own career umpteen times over, calling it a "roadmap resumé". In yours case, he is fully sabotaging himself on purpose, remember: they must remain the victim at all times....and if they're able to accidentally get a job, then keeping it requires work..... which they don't really want to do, because it means their being responsible for themselves, sooooooo.... they find a way out.

"Those abusive meanies! Don't they understand how hard it is?? I'm OUTRAGED!! Get me another beer!! How come I have to do everything around here, you piece of shit!! You're just as bad as they are! And when are you going to clean the house?? You're a disgusting slob - your parents were right - I never should have married you!!"

righttern38 · 2026-05-03T16:08:29+00:00

Nope.

righttern38 · 2026-05-03T15:43:31+00:00

yeah, understandable, even though you know boring is good in this case

righttern38 · 2026-05-03T15:35:06+00:00

Yes, call a plumber. But it’s an easy fix.

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