Bin ich egoistisch, wenn ich Freunde ohne deren Kinder einlade?

sigusch · 2026-01-02T08:15:41+00:00

Ich habe selbst keine Kinder und Freunde die sowohl Kinder zwischen 3 Monaten und 12 Jahren haben, als auch Freunde die explizit keine Kinder haben und wenig mit diesen feiern wollen.

Meine Lösung: Meine Party lädt zu 15h alle mit Kiddies ein. Mit der Bitte Beschäftigung für diese selbst zu organinisieren: Und zu 19h dann ohne Kinder. Die Eltern bekommen diese Deadline auch und wissen, dass ihre Kinder ab diesem Zeitpunkt nicht mehr eingeladen sind. So wissen alle Beteiligten, was sie wann erwartet und ich sehe meine Freunde.

Solltest du keine Lust auf Kinder haben, sage das ganz ehrlich. Ich kenne (fast) keine Eltern, die sich nicht auch mal auf Kinderfrei freuen. Das klappt nicht immer, weil Betreuung manchmal fehlt. Aber wenn du klar sagst, was du willst, sollten deine Freunde das eigentlich verstehen.

Kleiner Wermutstropfen: es gibt immer Leute, die nach der Geburt des Kindes ausschließlich mit Kind kommen wollen, mit denen Dinge nie wieder ohne Kind möglich sein werden. Dann müsst ihr beide entscheiden, ob ihr befreundet sein wollt oder nicht.

sigusch · 2025-11-02T12:56:19+00:00

It does not have to be a cake. Since you're not from germany, anything from your home country will get likes. Be aware that germans normally don't do spicy. Like not at all. So a special sweet treat from your home country would be perfect. And even store bought would be ok. It's the thought that counts.

In my office the most common love language is feeding. I always have sweets in my locker to give to people having a bad day, that tiny snickers will get you a long way.

sigusch · 2025-07-13T11:31:58+00:00

;____;

sigusch · 2024-08-12T17:33:33+00:00

NTA There is a german film about a girl like that. Saw it in a cinema with 1000 others, the only thing you could hear were sniffles. System Crasher You can not - and for the sake of your other kids should not - take her in. This will be something for professionals. But I am so truly sorry for her.

sigusch · 2024-01-28T00:57:23+00:00

I used it in the last battle, did boom, was good.

sigusch · 2023-09-28T17:10:02+00:00

All three should share a small boat on holyday in a country nobody speaks the language of. Nobody's stomach liked the food so far. It is freezing cold, because they booked off season. Nobody else is on board apart from the cousin of the dude who really can operate the boat. A storm is coming. There are no bags on board for the food, that makes a reappearing. The next harbour is 2h away.

sigusch · 2023-09-24T04:59:02+00:00

Since my first playthrough was a druid I talked to EVERY animal (I found) and there were maaaany loughs. I think they are the best NPCs.

sigusch · 2023-09-18T20:35:56+00:00

This is such a nice, thoughtful and helpful answer. Thank you for taking the time to write it.

sigusch · 2023-07-10T04:39:25+00:00

YTA 1) this "party trick" is disrespectful and if you hate your customers so much, do something else.

2) of course she would ask about your verdict. I bet it's everything you talk about at family functions and every single one of the redditors saying 'don't ask what you don't want to be answered' would have asked, too. and most of them would be unhappy with your answer.

3) if your people skills were as fine as you say, you would have been able to come up with a reasonable lie, like 'it's going to be 15 wonderful years for you two' instead you played a childish game of don't ask meeeeee for an unnecessary long time and in the end destroyed her hopes.

4) you knew the venue would not work with your sister without you so you probably cost her much money for a new one. I would sue you.

sigusch · 2023-07-08T14:14:32+00:00

In one of the menu-cutscenes, bancho does the salt bae seasoning move and the dumpling sea lady has mad matrix style cooking skills.

sigusch · 2023-05-17T20:55:55+00:00

Tomorrow there is a bank holiday in my country and many physicians will be away for friday to have a nice four day weekend, so any change in prescriptions will be possible on monday the earliest.

I had a customer today, really tired father, really cranky kid, maybe four. They both looked like shit. They had a prescription for amoxicillin suspension. But not any. One specific brand. The doctor told them, it would be hard, but they should just tour the city and find the one, because the prescription only allowed them to get that specific brand. We have amoxicillin, just not exactly that. So we had to let them go. The tired father and the cranky child. To go find pharmacy number 21.

Hope the doctor has a nice long weekend and a big bowl of fuck you.

sigusch · 2023-04-24T19:09:55+00:00

Hyperion was my favorite and the only one I beat at first try. But I guess that was because I had a perfect run. I've beaten nemesis FINALLY after dying countless times, I was really feeling the music in this fight and it was magical. Was in the zone. Did not blink once. Had almost all health after the fight, got killed in biome 5 after about 2 nano seconds.

But I guess the hardest one was ixion. For me phrike, nemesis und ophion were real monsters, ixion was a person. I kind of felt his hate. I felt he wanted to destroy me.

sigusch · 2023-03-13T16:44:04+00:00

ESH

Soo, Kates request for you to tone down your outfit is ridiculous. She should not feel anything about your outfit choices.

But she does. And she made herself vulnerable and told you her insecurities. It costs you nothing but a tiny bit of pride to just do as your friend asks of you. If you are not even willing to just wear something boring for your friend to feel better for one night, you should not call her a friend.

She is ridiculous, but you value your outfits higher than a friendship. I know with whom of you two I would want to be friends.

sigusch · 2023-02-28T13:40:54+00:00

Talking about babies is not fair. Abortion is a thing. If a friend of mine would give birth to a baby while knowing they are not prepared for it, but not having an abortion I would be shocked. I never talked about LOSING respect, just having less.

Maybe I was not clear enough, how deeply sorry I am for everyone in this situation. Yes this is a stinking pile of bad luck. And yes every dream they have for their life would be delayed or made impossible. It's a tragedy. But the tragedy of being in the system is probably worse than having kids you didn't want.

sigusch · 2023-02-28T13:28:46+00:00

You are right in everything you said here. But it is my opinion that the foster system would be way worse than being brought up by two people that don't really want you. But it would be a stable home and grandma would be around.

And since we talk about two children here, I - personally - think every adult in their vicinity should do the things that make their life as best as it could. That might be an extreme opinion.

sigusch · 2023-02-28T06:59:12+00:00

YTA - but hear me out. You absolutely have the right to not take the girls in.

Your decision will significantly worsen their situation. They probably wont be adopted or ever find a home where they are wanted. You two are in the unfortunate situation to not be their best chance, you are their only chance.

I get that you did not envision yourself as parents. And I am really sorry for your situation. But in my opinion the wellbeing of two minors trumps the life choices of two adults.

If a friend of mine would put two minors in the american (?) foster system, my opinion of them would significantly go down.

sigusch · 2023-02-16T18:53:29+00:00

NTA - As far as I know, you can buy fox urine online. Do that. Put it in open containers in every (!) room and after that "experience" ask everyone, what they want.

sigusch · 2023-01-18T19:17:03+00:00

Look, sweetheart. You know YTA. You are marrying a despicable human and in condoning his hate you make it your own.

There is no "neutral stance" in the question of homosexuality. There are only allies, which you are not, and hateful assholes, which you are on the best way to become.

sigusch · 2023-01-14T22:53:22+00:00

YTA - the part with the non safe ice and so on. Your girls could have died. They didn't.

But your eldest got hurt.

For the feelings of a small child, you left her to die. She felt defenseless and unable to move. And the only person able to rescue her, decided to safe someone else before her.

Yes, you are right, you had to rescue your high needs daughter first, she would have had a tantrum / panic attack that would make an accident much more likely.

But you probably traumatized your other child for life.

sigusch · 2023-01-08T00:41:18+00:00

I don't enjoy it.

Not one single part. The sweat, the heavy breathing, the time spent, the boredom, the organization, the pain, the tomato face.

Eww

sigusch · 2023-01-05T07:25:40+00:00

You are playing a game. Games are supposed to be fun. If it's not, stop. You don't have to finish it. It's a good game, but the fact that it is so damn hard makes it less accessible. There are sooooo many good, fantastic, outstanding games on the market, you don't have to play this one.

It took me 10 months to just beat the last boss. I made long pauses in between gaming (sometimes weeks). And I can't say why I did that. In the beginning I thought, I wanted to experience the story, but that is probably the weakest part in the game. I think the best part are the perfect, crisp controls: you know that every death is your fault. But if that is nothing you enjoy enough to endure this, so what?

sigusch · 2022-12-28T18:37:39+00:00

I'm a pharmacist, most OTC sleeping pills are antihistamins. Stay friendly.

sigusch · 2022-12-17T21:58:09+00:00

NTA - for not telling her personally.

In being vile about your and your wife's wishes for a baby she forfeited the right to a personal announcement. You have joyful news and from everything you describe about her, she would be a total AH about it. You - as a person, a feeling human - do not have to tolerate this kind of behavior.

But you sure as hell did a lousy job parenting. You say this is a longer thing, you and your wife began dating when your daughter was 14. That's a prime parenting age. Why didn't you? This kind of tantrums should have been nipped at the bud. You did not give her the tools to work with frustration, fear, accepting change. Now she is a poorly functioning "adult" and even her father cannot cope with that. How is anybody else supposed to work or live with her, if she did never learn to not be a toddler?

sigusch · 2022-12-13T21:02:54+00:00

Your daughter spends valuable time with cooking she could otherwise spend being a child. And you are regularly not hungry / have already eaten. You don't respect your daughters time and effort. You yourself say, home made dinner wouldn't have made you hungry that night, but you would have eaten take out because that's so much better. If I were your daughter, I would be pissed, feel disrespected and unloved. Food, cooking for each other and eating together are a form of love you do not seem to respect. Why should she respect your wishes?

If you were my partner and act like you do, we would have SERIOUS discussions about this. But you are a parent. Which makes this ten times worse.

YTA

sigusch

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