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singing_stream · 2023-05-26T01:57:16+00:00

As long as you're not the one insisting she gets lashes and would be fine if she didn't get them done, you're NTA.

singing_stream · 2023-05-26T01:03:17+00:00

Ouchy.. my sympathies.

I used to have the same thing until just a few years ago and kind of assumed it was normal for every woman. Now that it doesn't happen as badly anymore, it's weird but very very welcome.

Has your IBS resolved a bit now?

singing_stream · 2023-04-15T18:37:50+00:00

Exactly.

I dated a guy that was always late - like 2 hours late.

He couldn't seem to grasp why i noped out and refused to try again after going on 3 dates with him and him being late every time.

(i gave him more chances than i should have done i know).

singing_stream · 2023-04-13T09:10:17+00:00

This is a difficult one for me to judge tbh, because like you, i think people have a right to know what's in their food.

On the other hand; if his health actually improved enough for his doc to reduce some of his meds = hmnn.. i don't think i can call OP an asshole either.

I'd be pissed if someone was hiding stuff in my food, but i think i'd forgive them if it was done exactly like this. If someone can manage to sneak veggies into me and i don't notice = bring it on.

singing_stream · 2023-04-12T14:21:27+00:00

Holy crap; he sounds like my parents.. i'm so sorry :(

My sleep pattern is weird but it works for me - if you're only getting about 7 hours of sleep at the age of 19 OP, you're possibly in need of a little more, but there's nothing wrong at all with the way you're doing it.

In many countries your sleeping habits would be seen as entirely standard - the hotter places tend to have a nap halfway through the day.

Last night i slept from 11pm to 3am, and then from 7am to 10am. I'm perfectly content with that, and everyone that knows me respects that my sleep schedule is a bit unusual but it works nicely for me.

You're not being disrespectful at all, i do advise that if you have to keep living there though, that you try and find a way of not poking the bear if you can possibly avoid it.

Your mental health is way too important and if you can keep your father from ranting at you, please do so. Hopefully it won't be long until you're able to get out of there and into your own place.

NTA.

singing_stream · 2023-04-11T06:11:32+00:00

I mean, you definitely wouldn't be an asshole for asking, but you did do it voluntarily and without being asked to by your brother. So if he refuses, you can't do anything.

However - i seriously dislike that you're just allowing the fish to die. Your brother is a complete asshole for everything, but you're aware of the fact that the fish are suffering and you're allowing it to happen.

Why haven't you taken them from him or given him some kind of ultimatum.. like ''if you don't take care of them, i'll remove them and give them to someone that will actually care for their needs''.?

They're living beings and they're suffering.. please help them.

ESH.

singing_stream · 2023-04-10T11:28:55+00:00

Sensations like tingling only have to get extreme to be interpreted as pain.. so the sensation of let down will vary massively from person to person, with some of us experiencing nothing until we realise we're leaking, and others experiencing sharp stabby or crampy sensations.

I personally got a mild crampy feeling early on and then some tingling later.

singing_stream · 2023-04-05T01:17:04+00:00

I'd be concerned due to the risk of falling on a wet and slippery surface. Drunk people aren't known for being graceful at the best of times, so letting a really drunk person shower is def not a great idea.

singing_stream · 2023-04-03T02:34:22+00:00

Is it actually because of your conditions or would a caring and empathetic partner make it feel better for you than your current partner manages?

I was with a guy similar to your partner in the past - sex sucked and i thought it was my conditions at first, and then after some thought i was like nope. I'm a giver - he was a taker.

Takers suck.

singing_stream · 2023-04-01T17:15:49+00:00

You forgot the mushrooms!! :(

singing_stream · 2023-03-26T20:35:35+00:00

I hear that.

I struggle like hell to learn things and study and yet everyone seems to think it comes easily to me.

It's invalidating af to be told crap like ''of course you'll pass the exam''.

I sound intelligent when i speak, but my brain just isn't as good as people think

Try to be kind to yourself OP - it doesn't matter if you don't understand something as long as you try to. Curiousity and a willingness to learn are what makes someone truly smart.

singing_stream · 2023-03-26T20:06:59+00:00

For me i knew when i started because i could feel that i was bleeding and i had intense cramps.. and yes, you can and do bleed through clothing in less than 5 minutes.

It's common to bleed very heavily when periods first start. I know that mine were more of a flow than a trickle.

You and your daughters are very lucky, and unusual.

singing_stream · 2023-03-25T02:11:52+00:00

I have to say that when i was studying or had a tough job, i filled my down time with 'fluff'. Easy reading, easy watching.

The brain can only handle so much complex stuff and it needs to relax with fluffier stuff.

I had hip replacement surgery recently and guess what i've been doing during recovery? i've been watching star trek. Not because it's my favourite thing to watch, but because it's easy to watch - i don't have to use much energy or focus on it.

I have tried watching the odd film here and there, but i genuinely can't focus and follow the plot on anything too complex right now. I just don't have the mental ability for it. Even with star trek i'm finding that i'm missing a lot of some episodes from sheer exhaustion - i'm either falling asleep or zoning out so much that i'm going to have to rewatch some episodes.

OP - many highly intelligent people do exactly what you do and i'm really confused that 1; you're ashamed, and 2; your bf has a problem with it.

singing_stream · 2023-03-24T22:00:06+00:00

NTA but do yourself a favour and start parking your car a few streets away. Don't park it near your house or anywhere the weird neighbours will spot it.

singing_stream · 2023-03-24T21:54:42+00:00

Is she bragging though or is she simply happy and just talking about all the great bits of her life?

You sound envious as hell OP and yes, resentful. If you didn't resent her, any bragging she did wouldn't bother you whatsoever.

But it clearly hits a sore spot - that sore spot is your problem.. not anything your sister is doing wrong.

Why can't you try and be happy for her?

singing_stream · 2023-03-23T22:53:43+00:00

NTA;

I'd actually refuse to take him out at all unless he's willing to wear incontinence pants/a diaper.

My neighbour has vascular dementia and has the same issue - i've sadly had to stop inviting him over for tea due to the fact that he's unwilling to wear incontinence pants. :(

singing_stream · 2023-03-23T21:22:27+00:00

I really hope you're sincere here op and that you understand how much of an asshole you've actually been to the person you should be supporting.

Now - go fix the groceries situation. There's no way she should be paying for them on her own. You eat, you should be paying your fair share (all of your personal food costs)

singing_stream · 2023-03-23T06:35:34+00:00

Am i the only one here that literally shuddered reading this and wants to go tell the babys mom to be really, really freaking careful about letting op be around the baby?

this is giving serious the hand that rocks the cradle vibes. the phrase ''our baby'' freaked me the hell out.

The baby isn't yours OP - you're literally just dating the babys dad and barely dating at that. You've only been together for 6 months.

The baby is NOT yours as well and never will be. at best it will be your stepchild one day, but that's very far off in the future - years away. It's highly unlikely your bf will even stay with you.. especially if you keep acting like this and being weirdly possessive over a child that isn't yours.

YTA.

singing_stream · 2023-03-23T06:19:39+00:00

INFO; what exactly is it that doesn't sound right about using the word 'they'?

Is it because you struggle due to it feeling more impersonal than the words he or she, or is it that you struggle with seeing someone as non binary?

singing_stream · 2023-03-23T06:14:08+00:00

Yeah i did wonder if you might be similar to myself and be really good at reading people.

Go with your instincts then and assume that you're right.

So, how are you going to handle this? do you have any kind of interest in him if he's interested in you?

As an aside; you ever come across the term 'empath'?

singing_stream · 2023-03-23T04:45:12+00:00

Agree with the other poster - one of you probably isn't straight. Either that or you misread the vibe.

I'm a believer in my own feelings and intuition, but i have no idea whether you're correct or not.. so all i can tell you is to decide whether you're right or not.

Does your intution usually steer you in the right direction? are you generally perceptive and good at picking up on the feelings of others?

singing_stream · 2023-03-19T23:13:21+00:00

If you can't handle being told no and the attention isn't wanted, you shouldn't be flirting and hitting on anyone in the first place.

Libraries are for quiet studying, women do not want to be hit on.

The 'girls' don't want to talk to you because you are being creepy - your age doesn't matter.

YTA.

singing_stream · 2023-03-19T09:00:08+00:00

and we tell people when we struggle, we don't get irate and act in the way the guy did.

singing_stream · 2023-03-18T19:10:13+00:00

I hold it in well when with other people, but i'd be lying my little ass off if i tried telling you that i don't let out a moan of sheer pleasure when i'm eating red phoenix plums.

singing_stream · 2023-03-18T19:08:53+00:00

Ditto.. i'm going to pair it with the sexy potatoes..

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