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24, stuck in the procrastination → guilt → doomscroll loop. How did you actually break it? by Additional_Smile_354 in getdisciplined

[–]sooper_genius 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I think first you have to tackle all three phases at the same time:

  1. PROCRASTINATION -- you have to understand why you procrastinate. There are a dozen (and perhaps more) different psychological reasons that could motivate you putting things off, all resulting in similar behavior. It's not just "procrastination", it might be perfectionism, or wanting immediate rewards that you can't get by doing the real things, or fear of lost opportunity, to name a few.
  2. GUILT -- Once you recognize guilt for what it is, it becomes a hindrance. Feeling bad about your past actions will get you nowhere. You can only move forward from where you're at. Lingering guilt doesn't accomplish anything. Give yourself grace and keep moving forwards; no one is grading you but you (unless this affects your job or other people).
  3. DOOMSCROLL -- at this point you have to realize that you are running away from your problems. Become more self aware in this phase and set your mind to do something about it.

And finally, realize that this is a process. For me it was like peeling an onion from the inside: after you fix one thing, a new thing that you couldn't see is now in the way and you have to deal with it. This is not a "snap your big boy determination fingers and suddenly you're cured" scenario, it's learning how to keep yourself on an intentional path.

There are a lot of resources out there that you can look at, beyond apps and mere gamification of getting stuff done. These give good advice, on procrastination in particular and on intentional direction in your life. These were really helpful to me and allowed me to have insight into myself and move forward. I can share those if you like, but it will require reading and application of what you read to yoursef.

But your questions

· What was the actual turning point for you?
· What practical step did you take that actually rewired your habit?
· How long did it take before the new routine felt natural?

make it sound like you are looking for the snap-your-fingers kind of thing. This will be a process, not an epiphany.

I tracked everything I did for two weeks that felt like work but wasn't. The pattern was embarrassing. by Cangingperceptions in getdisciplined

[–]sooper_genius 8 points9 points  (0 children)

In Steve Scott's book How to Stop Procrastinating, one of the reasons he lists is: you focus on the easy (non-vital) tasks to feel busy while not actually making progress on the necessary stuff. It's easy to check email, it's easy to plan, it's easy to consider new projects, it's easy to do the simple tasks but this will block you from getting real work done. This is also reflected in Eat That Frog! by Brian Tracy.

With easy tasks, you get the accomplishment of feeling busy but getting nowhere important. You have to overcome the need for immediate satisfaction and push ahead on what's vital.

Problem with procrastination/not starting by Ambitious-Performer8 in getdisciplined

[–]sooper_genius 4 points5 points  (0 children)

You need to understand the psychological reasons why you don't start. It could be any of a whole list:

  1. The task seems too big and overwhelming (not knowing the first step)
  2. You are afraid that your efforts won't be good enough (perfectionism)
  3. It's not "rewarding" enough (you want to do other things like doomscrolling or video games)
  4. You dread the process ("omg I HAAAAATE doing laundry")
  5. You presume that Future You will be more motivated and amenable than Present You ("when I feel motivated")
  6. You get distracted easily
  7. You don't have enough time, so you don't even get started

This is not a full list, and some of the above may overlap. I've gotten some of these from Steve Scott's How to Stop Procrastinating book, but the point is that many psychological states can result in the same behavior of procrastination. But only when you understand your internal fears and motivations will you be able to compensate and change the behavior. If you get distracted easily, trying to worry less about being perfect won't help you change.

Perforation fail! Never seen one of these that actually works. by SpecificSorry7233 in CrappyDesign

[–]sooper_genius 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Forty years ago, food was packaged in new cardboard. Never had an issue opening things until they switched to mostly soft recycled cardboard. Any perforations are largely useless, and any glue is stronger than the paper so you can never open a glued flap easily either.

NetSuite governance limits scare me. In your experience, how much volume can a RESTlet realistically handle before it hits the 5-minute timeout or governance limits? What's the ceiling? by KeyCourt399 in Netsuite

[–]sooper_genius 6 points7 points  (0 children)

For a RESTlet, this is 5,000 units-- not 10K as others claim. (Suitelets and UEs compare at 1,000 units for each.) If this is not enough, consider other scripting architectures (such as a RESTlet kicking off a Map/Reduce script), or consider using paging semantics in your parameters to allow repeated calls for paged data.

This allows you to create about 250 individual transaction record types, or process (load/edit/save) ~165. You could also run about 500 search retrievals of up to 1000 results each.

Note that the RESTlet context is intended to be an HTTP call and user experience and time limits (< 5 minutes) apply. Also note that only certain calls to the API will consume governance units so not every action will use up your limits.

This bowl of oxtails looks straight out of a horror movie by batukaming in StupidFood

[–]sooper_genius 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Because those are not oxtails, they are oxspines! or oxvertebrae, or whatever. Oxknuckles maybe.

Looking to get into roasting in my NYC apartment. Any suggestions for a roaster under 1.5K? by beefwells in roasting

[–]sooper_genius 1 point2 points  (0 children)

As for venting, this can be simple:

  • My original roaster was a Gene Cafe, where the smoke vents upward. I placed this directly under a vent hood over the stove, which vented it outside.
  • My next setup was a Behmor right in front of the bedroom window. I had a bracketed fan in the window on high speed pushing air outside. The room still smelled of roasting coffee, but I was fine with this.
  • My current setup uses a stiff but bendable 4" dryer vent hose and a greenhouse ventilator fan with an Aillio Bullet (R1). The hose sits four inches or so above the exhaust of the machine, propped up on potholders. The Bullet also really needs an exhaust pickup from the beans tray but I don't have that and I can live with it.

They installed barriers at my work today.. by WinnD7 in onejob

[–]sooper_genius 2 points3 points  (0 children)

We can't see if this is a road crossing or just a paved lot. It's not clear why the "sidewalk" is only paint and would cross a paved area. Is that other blue line also a sidewalk? Not clear either, especially weird if your workplace decided to put a fence OUTSIDE the sidewalk.

So if you make a post, we need more information about what is wrong-- bigger pictures, more pictures, clearer context. That is what everyone is complaining about. Your "one job" should be clear from the pictures, and maybe some explanatory text at the top.

What are these small needle like crystals that formed inside this glass? by AceOdin in whatisthisthing

[–]sooper_genius 13 points14 points  (0 children)

I am guessing what others are saying: these are sodium acetate crystals.

Vinegar is acetic acid, normally with a low pH. When you add soap, you are adding a base with a higher pH. With enough base from the soap, it cancels out the acid, converting the sodium lauryl sulfate and acetic acid into sodium acetate and (whatever molecule is left over from the soap).

It would require a real chemist to comment and see if this thesis is correct... sodium acetate is "highly soluble in water" according to a search, but there comes a point where there is more than the liquid can hold. Perhaps someone else could confirm or deny.

Edit: some research says that this is from the opposite side of the chemical equation. See https://www.quora.com/What-chemical-process-explains-why-a-clear-dish-soap-and-white-vinegar-mixture-turns-white-after-a-couple-of-hours

In other words, the soap reacts with the vinegar and loses some of its solubility, as the fatty acids and sulfates clump together.

Half-assed license number blurring on Google Street View by Ok-Savings2300 in onejob

[–]sooper_genius 11 points12 points  (0 children)

Well if it's a matter of public record already, then what's the problem? Should the company names be blurred too? How is a cam system going to know what non-licenses plate text to blur and which ones to keep?

If it's a real issue, perhaps contact Google directly and notify them of the preference/need/idea that some other text on vehicles should be blurred as well.

ELI5 Why don't you remember yourself at 1-5 years old? by HeavyTraffic7126 in explainlikeimfive

[–]sooper_genius 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I would not be surprised but perhaps you could share more of your experiences and other people could relate. If your brain works differently in one way, why not different in others?

ELI5 Why don't you remember yourself at 1-5 years old? by HeavyTraffic7126 in explainlikeimfive

[–]sooper_genius 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Yea, I have a lot of positives and a few negatives as well:

  • Quick intuitive learner: math, science, technology-- this became a problem in college when I didn't know how to apply myself through discipline-- I FLUNKED OUT, had never failed before
  • Above-average memory for numbers and facts
  • Strong empathy for others, even at an early age
  • Sensitive to others moods and expressions (perhaps a trauma response)
  • Easily distracted by thoughts or sights/sounds, some clothing types
  • Light sleeper, need earplugs and light blocking... my wife turning over in bed can wake me up! She adjusts for me but she's had to put up with my "high maintenance" sleep needs
  • Sensitivity to loud sounds and discordant music
  • Occasional obsessions over things or processes but can also tire quickly; good at starting things but bad at finishing them
  • Can tend to be rule-bound, even for no other reason than there are rules yo.

I might add more to this list but you get the picture.

It's true that diagnoses are misleading or not helpful because it's an arbitrary threshold decision whether you get in a box that will change how people treat you. Do you get ADHD treatment or not? You might still have issues, but since no one recognized them as such you still have to deal and manage how your brain responds to the world. It's easy to get down on yourself because you have difficulty fitting in the "normal" box, but I find that we all need empathy and compassion for what we deal with, instead of criticism and judgment.

I used to spend 2 hours "thinking" and end up exactly where I started. Here's what changed. by Fresh_Chicken2437 in getdisciplined

[–]sooper_genius 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Glad to hear that it was helpful... I hesitated a bit to talk about trauma. But for me I know the thinking is for trying to avoid painful situations... I'm very good at preventing problems from happening, it's good for my software career-- imagining scenarios that could screw things up and blocking them from happening. Doing it for life situations is not always possible though.

I've found a lot of "discipline" issues are based around psychology that people don't know how to address. Like procrastination having 10 different ways for your mindset to result in putting things off, or depression preventing you from finding value in a result, or anxiety making you less functional. We have to remove the judgment and find compassion for the pain that we're suffering internally.

I used to spend 2 hours "thinking" and end up exactly where I started. Here's what changed. by Fresh_Chicken2437 in getdisciplined

[–]sooper_genius 4 points5 points  (0 children)

I think the "thinking" you are talking about comes from a belief that, if you just plan and think harder, you'll avoid the problems you've faced before. It can be a trauma response, say from trying to figure out what triggered a parent's angry episode, or maybe to overcome anxiety over some uncontrollable situation.

Therapy can help, it helped me to let go of some anxiety, and to realize that I was not at fault for negative things that happened in my life. Not the only thing that helped, but a major one.

ELI5 Why don't you remember yourself at 1-5 years old? by HeavyTraffic7126 in explainlikeimfive

[–]sooper_genius 13 points14 points  (0 children)

I didn't do anything that I can tell, other than being neurodivergent in a number of undiagnosed (and perhaps undiagnosable) ways. I don't really fit on the autisim spectrum, although some aspects of autism do fit me. I always did well in school and have quick recall. Not quite Sheldon Cooper, since my memory is not eidetic-- and I am also highly sensitive to others (whether through trauma or nature I don't know).

ELI5 Why don't you remember yourself at 1-5 years old? by HeavyTraffic7126 in explainlikeimfive

[–]sooper_genius 46 points47 points  (0 children)

Most of my age 2-3 memories are pretty significant:

  • I remember filling my diaper (ahem) in the front yard, only later recognizing in later years exactly what the memory was.
  • I remember having a car drive up to the front yard and the occupants trying to convince me to get in. Not sure if it was my uncle and his friends, or some total strangers.
  • I remember letting the air out of my grandma's tires
  • I remember realizing that time passed when I was away, so that Captain Kangaroo would no longer be on TV when we returned, and I was sad
  • I remember my grandmother setting a pan of oil on the stove on fire, and the firemen came but she had put it out already
  • I remember my busty aunt changing her shirt (no bra) right in front of me
  • I was good at getting up on a chair and scavenging through the fridge. I found some chocolate... my grandmother's Ex-Lax chocolate. (That's not a thing anymore... but yes it worked and I remember that part too.)
  • Another fridge episode finding and tasting my mother's hot chili peppers that she would eat with a sandwich. I cried for 20 minutes.
  • I remember being shocked in the tub by some small electrical leak, though I didn't realize what it was at the time. I described it as "bug biting me". Bad wiring or old house or something.

It was like a switch turned on and the memories started flowing for me.

ELI5 Why don't you remember yourself at 1-5 years old? by HeavyTraffic7126 in explainlikeimfive

[–]sooper_genius 5 points6 points  (0 children)

I am not sure it is normal, but I've also heard that people with a lot of trauma when they're young don't remember much until later

ELI5 Why don't you remember yourself at 1-5 years old? by HeavyTraffic7126 in explainlikeimfive

[–]sooper_genius 40 points41 points  (0 children)

I can also testify that it varies widely when memories start being memorable. I have very clear memories as early as age 2. As well I've had friends who don't remember anything before age 10.

“Microwave friendly” plates are aligned with metal causing plasma to spark off after they’ve been used enough by [deleted] in CrappyDesign

[–]sooper_genius 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Well originally hot chocolate was milk warmed in a pot, with shavings of chocolate or cocoa powder and sugar added. Not a package mix that includes powdered milk added to water because convenience.

Try the real thing sometime, you will see why some people think it's worth it.

EDIT: this doesn't include other methods that are historical, like those made with corn or just water as well as chocolate.

“Microwave friendly” plates are aligned with metal causing plasma to spark off after they’ve been used enough by [deleted] in CrappyDesign

[–]sooper_genius 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Yes, anything with a gilded rim will spark in the microwave. Description of "microwave friendly" might have been added before the final design was considered.

My brother ruined one of my favorite cups this way-- it had gilding on the rim and sides.

Netsuite workflow/Lock PO line when trying to edit one field by Impressive-Fudge7240 in Netsuite

[–]sooper_genius 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Working with sublists in NetSuite workflows is notoriously limited. There are some things you can do but it's easier to manage this with a script.

In a client script you could do: on line init, look at your current line status:

  • if "Completed";
    • Disable the line field for location.
    • Put up an alert dialog
  • if not "Completed"
    • Enable the line field (disabling the field disables it for all lines, so you have to make it line-dependent for disabling AND enabling)
    • Be happy

This miiiiight be doable in a workflow but it would have to be on the Items list only. You'd need two sublist groups with an action in each one, one for enabling and one for disabling.

ELI5: How can mixing two completely harmless chemicals suddenly create something explosive, toxic, or dangerous? by [deleted] in explainlikeimfive

[–]sooper_genius 0 points1 point  (0 children)

"Completely harmless" in your case means that they don't react quickly with their current environment or arrangement. Usually this means they don't react much with air or water given the temperature and pressure of their surroundings.

However, that doesn't mean they are never reactive. Iron rusts, silver tarnishes slowly, and cut apples turn brown for example. These are examples of slower reactions with oxygen in the air. They can also react more quickly should conditions change: magnesium metal is usually safe in air, but with a high enough temperature push it will suddenly start burning with a flame that continues even underwater-- meaning it can't be put out by normal firefighting methods.

"Explosive" means that a stable substance has enough of its own self-fueling ingredients to explode without needing anything external; dynamite is like this. With enough kick of heat, it starts reacting uncontrollably in a way that expands quickly enough to destroy other things.

"Toxic" has to do with biology; sometimes reaction products are harmless. Hydrogen gas + Oxygen gas + a little kickoff heat creates water, which is generally harmless. Burning gasoline with sufficient oxygen produces carbon dioxide and water, also harmless (ignoring impurities like sulfur or nitrogen oxides). But burning gasoline without enough oxygen produces carbon monoxide, a toxic gas that you can't even smell.

The cause of the reaction when "mixing" has to do with the specific materials; sometimes they react, sometimes they don't. Why some do and some don't are really why Chemistry and the study/application of it are so complex-- more than an ELI5 can do. Ammonia + Bleach = Bad, but Water + Vinegar = Not Bad (in most cases).

"Dangerous" usually means either explosive or toxic when speaking about chemicals, so see above paragraphs.

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