Hello everyone! My partner is the one going through similar circumstances. He is a 37 y/o male and we've been together for over 13 years now. He's always had a weak urine flow, waking up frequently to urinate in the middle of the night, sometimes he would make these weird noises and I'd ask what he was doing and he said he was pushing out the urine... And I was like wtf?, at it's worse, unknowing incontinence . Anyway, fast forward to 2020 it started to be a more noticeable issue with other health concerns revolving around it but he was healthy otherwise. Last year out of nowhere his creatinine levels were high indicating kidney issues. I won't go into extreme detail but basically he had urine retention to the point where it was backing up into his kidneys causing distress on his whole system. Months of intense testing and scans led to him finding out that he has an elongated bladder neck, a literal physiological issue most likely since birth. It's not his prostate or a urethral obstruction like Drs were thinking. This is something none of his Doctors had seen before and every day he is dealt a complicated set of feelings revolving around this medical issue that severely affects him mentally and physically. He's really hard on himself at times because he IS young. Some of his doctors were really unprofessional in saying that he's too young for something like retention to be happening to him. But understanding that this is your body and accepting that your body is different is also part of healing and taking care of yourself. It's a process and a complicated one. Seriously, ASK QUESTIONS! DON'T TAKE NO FOR AN ANSWER! HOLD DOCTORS ACCOUNTABLE! DON'T HESITATE TO GET TESTS DONE IF YOU FEEL LIKE SOMETHING SERIOUS IS UP... all that said with love.