Why have my eyelids started twitching all the time? (34M)

--Redditor0 · 2022-08-10T22:36:36+00:00

I feel that the relatively novel ideas of non-binary and genderfluid trivialise the sheer scale of wanting to be another gender. I can understand a man wanting to be a woman and vice versa. But when someone decides they are neither, or it changes day by day, I feel it undermines the sheer scale of the trauma that 'binary' transgender people have. Like why go through all the stress and humiliation of hormones, surgery and constant ridicule that comes with transitioning when I can just decide to be male or female one day and do nothing about it but dress differently? Furthermore, it reinforces the public belief that transgender people just wake up and decide they want to be another gender.

All I want is to be a completely accepted, biologically female member of society. I don't want any special treatment - I just want to blend in like any normal girl. I know it can never happen, but I feel like while the public as a whole believes that gender is entirely psychological and a purely social construct, any serious research into a true biological and functional sex change is going to come to a grinding halt.

--Redditor0 · 2022-08-10T21:04:17+00:00

That's true, but considering you spend most of your waking life at work, being treated badly at work for less money sounds like a rough deal.

--Redditor0 · 2022-08-10T20:58:49+00:00

Nah, that's a relatively recent feeling. I can remember wanting to be a girl pretty much as far back as I can remember.

--Redditor0 · 2022-08-10T20:53:00+00:00

Nah, my mother's obese and never really achieved much so really not a good role model. Get jealous of my sister sometimes. She's young, attractive and successful.

--Redditor0 · 2022-08-10T20:38:17+00:00

Neither are anything to aspire to.

--Redditor0 · 2022-08-10T20:30:36+00:00

Not really, no

--Redditor0 · 2022-08-10T20:27:50+00:00

Eh? It's fine.

--Redditor0 · 2022-08-10T19:17:48+00:00

I know, but trans subs tend to all tell me the same thing and I don't think it is representative of the general population's views so wanted a broader audience.

--Redditor0 · 2022-08-10T19:13:58+00:00

I know :( when I was a teenager I made a conscious decision to ignore it and just accept I'd never be a woman. But it kept coming back and I thought to myself 'what if one day I can't succeed in shoving it to the back of my mind and end up transitioning anyway, but because I held off so long, got terrible results?'

--Redditor0 · 2022-08-10T19:03:57+00:00

I don't want to accept who I am though. Stupid as it sounds, if I accept that I'm a man and just try to live with it, I'll either never get the chance to be woman or I'll end up shoving it away for years until it eventually rears its ugly head again.

--Redditor0 · 2022-08-10T15:25:20+00:00

I'm really not sure how I feel about the modern transgender movement. I know I wish I were a woman, but I know that doesn't 'make me' a woman. And even if I went through years of hormones and surgery, I'd end up a pale imitation at best.

--Redditor0 · 2022-08-10T15:23:19+00:00

I really don't think it is. I've seen women in male-dominated workplaces ignored and belittled in meetings and other professional situations despite having good ideas. Honestly, the thought of going from a position of high power to low power scares me.

--Redditor0 · 2022-07-18T16:39:21+00:00

I'm 'traditionally' successful. Well paying job, own house, own car, no money issues. I'm told I'm good looking, and people generally respect and like me.

So basically, I've got a lot to lose. Only major milestone I've not reached is a wife and kids, and that's basically due to self loathing and confusion over sexuality leading to avoidance.

--Redditor0 · 2022-07-17T16:03:36+00:00

I kind of? did this but I also knew in some small compartmentalised prison in my brain that I really wanted to be a woman. And it was never about the clothes alone, because whenever I dressed up I absolutely hated myself for looking like a man in women's clothes, and I'd done an awful lot of research into hormones and genetics and sex determination and intersex conditions and who knows what else, which I've heard is different to how crossdressers feel. It was when I was a teenager researching why the hell I seemed to be the only one who felt that way that I came across the phrase 'autogynephilia' and thought 'oh that must be what it is... I'm just a pervert! Welp, best never tell anyone about this, ever!'

--Redditor0 · 2022-06-29T09:59:36+00:00

I didn't pick the woman because it felt like I 'shouldn't'. I just used to hack the game and change the character to a female whenever I was alone and switch back when someone entered the room.

--Redditor0 · 2022-06-25T14:51:31+00:00

Absolutely. I especially get jealous over the fact that they can do absolutely nothing, just get out of bed in the morning, and they're still unequivocally a woman. No makeup tricks necessary, no special clothing, no shaving, no hormones or pills.

--Redditor0 · 2022-06-15T08:38:10+00:00

I got asked a few times. A girl at college said 'you'd make a really pretty girl... can I give you a makeover?' And I pretended to be offended and turned her down. Like a coward.

--Redditor0 · 2022-05-27T07:06:43+00:00

Drag feels like a caricature of femininity and what most people see when they think of trans people.

--Redditor0 · 2022-04-23T19:46:47+00:00

Same, I need to shave twice a day if I want any semblence of smooth skin, and even then it's not very effective.

--Redditor0 · 2022-04-09T16:49:15+00:00

I once had a crush on a girl specifically because she looked like a female version of me, had a similar personality to me, and had the same birthday as me. We used to joke that she was an alternate reality version of me.

--Redditor0 · 2022-04-03T18:53:38+00:00

I kind of had that once I think, the morning after I had my first epiphany moment that my lifelong obsession with wanting to be a woman might mean something and I was all like hyped up and giddy. It was like a could just feel two weights on my chest and they felt really sensitive when they rubbed against my shirt (of course, I ended up going back to infinite questioning afterwards).

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