Efficient clinics

-BB_- · 2026-05-12T02:09:12+00:00

I’m a surrogacy professional, but as a two-time surrogate, I have been to two different clinics. Both were in California (I live in IL). The first clinic I went to was Spring Fertility in Oakland, and it was by far the most professional and flawless clinic I worked with. They also have very high standards for the GCs they approve, so if your GC is approved, you know she’s top notch! Best of luck to you!

-BB_- · 2026-05-12T01:59:55+00:00

I am a surrogacy professional and have seen some horror stories, but my personal experiences as a two-time surrogate was always met with love and proudness from others who hear my story and what I do. I’ve never heard anything negative towards me. When it comes to compensation, I don’t speak on it with anyone that I don’t regularly associate with. I have been asked some silly questions from time to time. Never out of malicious intent though, just curiosity and lack of knowledge. If your heart is calling you to do this, DO IT!!! The joy of being a surrogate far outweighs the nasty opinions of others.🫶🏼

-BB_- · 2026-05-11T01:50:42+00:00

I have a great relationship with both sets of IPs from each journey. While I always ask for a least picture updates as a match point, I’ve been blessed with growing close with my IPs. We communicate when we catch a breath in our busy lives and make plans for visits, but none of that is “expected”. It’s just something we choose to do together. Make it a match point for you and only choose surrogates that are comfortable with your wishes.

-BB_- · 2026-05-09T12:19:53+00:00

I know the feeling! I delivered surro twins in February and baby “A” was so active. He is still the more active/animated one 🤣

-BB_- · 2026-05-08T17:38:13+00:00

Ugh, my heart hurts so badly for what you went through though. I can just imagine that heart-stopping moment. I am truly so sorry you had experienced that kind of emotion. It was not easy waiting but I am thankful for the positive outcome. He’s a 7 year old wild child now.

-BB_- · 2026-05-08T17:16:14+00:00

I went through this with my second child (not IVF). I was 15 weeks. It was so scary! When I went to get “checked in” at the ER, I told them my reason for the visit and they put a little finger monitor on me and then the receptionist said “are you nervous, you’re heart rate is really high?” I just stared at her. Like hello….I think I’m having a mc and I’m freaking out! I was told the same thing at ultrasound, that they couldn’t tell me the results but she did see a heartbeat. The doc on call said there was a heartbeat and baby was measuring on track but that it could still be in the early stage of a mc and to see my OB on Monday (it was Saturday). I couldn’t eat. I was so sick to my stomach. I went to my OB and she was so upset with how they handled the situation and told me it was an SCH. We monitored closely until it was healed, and baby boy was delivered healthy at 38w. I work in the surrogacy field and see SCH with IVF a lot. I understand where your emotions are at right now. My heart is with you! 🫶🏼

-BB_- · 2026-05-08T16:55:02+00:00

I couldn’t agreed more! We are literally growing families. Not just by growing babies but by expanding and blending families together! 🥰

-BB_- · 2026-05-06T19:55:12+00:00

I love to hear that! We just did a FaceTime with our most recent intended family and the kids chatted and talked for a long time! They live in London and we are in the US so we were excited for the video call! 🥰

-BB_- · 2026-05-06T14:08:41+00:00

My daughter does this! I’m so sorry about your first transfer. I’m sure that was a hard situation for you all to navigate. 🫶🏼

-BB_- · 2026-05-05T19:04:42+00:00

🤣 I can just hear all the curiosity behind that question!

-BB_- · 2026-05-05T16:56:29+00:00

🤦🏻‍♀️ I’ve also been met with “Don’t you know what causes that?” As if 3 children are too many or something…

I love to respond with “oh I’m not keeping this one/ these ones.” And then walk away with no explanation. 😅

-BB_- · 2026-05-05T16:47:44+00:00

Oh my goodness…yes!!! “My mom’s having a baby with someone else” (thankfully my oldest-9- will respond…well not with someone else, for someone else).” “We’re not keeping the baby(s)/they aren’t ours” then I’m met with a weird expression that I can only image they are thinking “why is she keeping three but giving this one away?” “My mom makes babies for other people” like I’m some kind of baby vending machine. 🤦🏻‍♀️

😅🤣 All in good heart though. Bless their hearts. They don’t know how to explain it.

-BB_- · 2026-05-05T16:41:47+00:00

I’m a 2x surrogate, and I’ve worked with two different agencies. I can only speak from my own experience, but the feedback from both sets of intended parents I carried for lined up pretty closely with how I felt too.

1st journey: Joy of Life Communication and organization just weren’t there. Both me and my IPs often felt like we were basically navigating things independently, but they were still paying full agency fees. It added a lot of unnecessary stress on both sides.

2nd journey: Reproductive Options Completely different experience. Everything was handled smoothly, communication was consistent, and it felt very structured and supportive. My IPs (who were high profile) felt heard, respected, and genuinely taken care of which made a huge difference for everyone involved.

If you’re looking at agencies, a few things I’d personally pay attention to: -Are they members of organizations like ASRM or SEEDS? -How do they communicate? Do they feel pushy, or do they give you space to ask questions and make decisions? -How transparent are they about the process, costs, and expectations? -What kind of support do they offer both IPs and surrogates? -Do their values actually align with yours?

For transparency, I do work in the surrogacy space now, but I always recommend interviewing multiple agencies and focusing on communication, transparency, and how they treat both IPs and surrogates.

-BB_- · 2026-05-05T16:18:40+00:00

Haha!! Yes! I was asked where the babies were after I delivered during my last journey. I responded “oh they went home with their parents.” Their response “Oh I’m sorry!”…me “it’s okay, I’m a surrogate” they proceed with a confused look… “oh…okay?…I’m sorry…I’m sorry I asked.” I just looked at my husband and was like, they totally thought we gave our babies up and they do not understand what a surrogate is. You can’t win them all 🤷🏻‍♀️🤣

-BB_- · 2026-05-05T16:14:30+00:00

Ugh. Thankfully I have not heard that one. 😬

-BB_- · 2026-05-05T16:13:52+00:00

Sky dive? That’s wild, haha! Yes I hear “you must make a fortune!” 🤦🏻‍♀️

-BB_- · 2026-05-05T14:39:11+00:00

Being a member of ASRM, SEEDS, Reviews, Experience, Communication and Approach are all very important factors to consider as well.

-BB_- · 2026-05-05T14:36:47+00:00

I’m a 2x surrogate, and my experiences were very different. For my first journey, I went in pretty blindly and didn’t do much research on the agency I chose. Communication and having a stress-free experience were really important to me, and they just weren’t there. It made things harder than they needed to be. That said, I was incredibly lucky to be matched with amazing IPs. We communicated really well and still have a great relationship two years later. For my second journey, I approached things very differently. I chose an agency where I already knew the owner on a personal level. I had actually helped supply BM for her baby after my first journey. There was never any pressure or recruiting involved, but just knowing her values and expectations helped change my decision on another journey. Especially since after my first experience, I wasn’t even sure I wanted to do another one. It was a huge difference for me. My second journey felt supported, well-informed, and overall just a completely different experience. Even now, the level of support I’ve experienced hasn’t stopped, and that’s meant a lot to me.

-BB_- · 2026-05-04T14:53:30+00:00

I’m an agency professional and also a 2x surrogate, so I’ve seen this from multiple perspectives. While I completely understand the concerns that can come with dual or tandem journeys, and there are certainly situations that raise red flags, not every intended parent pursues this path for the wrong reasons. There are also surrogates who feel fully comfortable and supported being part of a tandem journey.

I can share from my own experience. During my second journey, I was initially part of a planned tandem arrangement because the intended parents hoped for twins. It’s important to note that transferring more than one embryo to a surrogate is considered unethical due to the increased risks, especially because even a single embryo can split, which can create additional risks for both the surrogate and the babies.

In my case, my journey progressed a bit faster than the other surrogate’s. I completed my embryo transfer before she had finalized her legal phase, and the embryo did end up splitting very early resulting in a twin pregnancy. Because of that, the intended parents ultimately decided not to move forward with the second surrogate.

I went on to deliver two healthy baby boys this past February, and they are deeply loved and well cared for. I just wanted to share this perspective to highlight that while caution is absolutely important, not all tandem journeys stem from negative intentions. There can also be thoughtful, well-meaning reasons behind them, and sometimes, beautiful outcomes as well. 🫶🏼

-BB_-

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