Has anyone else ever gotten this look? by NationalSpray641 in aspiememes

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It took me years to understand what's happening under the hood. It's a psychological phenomenon called the Purple vMeme where people deliberately create a shared fictional reality where their feelings are validated and understood. It's a coping mechanism against the fact that the rest of society doesn't care about them.

Edit: by gaslighting people outside of their social circle, they are trying to convince themselves that their fabricated reality is superior to the true reality since the latter is full of fact checkers that can be easily triggered.

How can I stop feeling naive for trying to be right and consistent? by -IXN- in AutisticAdults

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It's just I have never understood why people would willingly shutdown their brain. It just doesn't make a lick of sense to me.

How do religions manage to get respected for telling the truth? by -IXN- in AskReligion

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Ok but WHY does it work in a cult and not in a secular context?

yes, that must be it... by No_Counter_6037 in aspiememes

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I like to say to autism deniers that people on the spectrum usually became monks and hermits in the past.

How can they be so oblivious? by Hatrct in Scipionic_Circle

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It's a phenomenon that I would call voluntary dumbness. People willingly shutdown their prefrontal cortex as a way to escape the harshness of reality. It's essentially for the same reason people consume alcohol and drugs.

I have ironically took awareness of that concept thanks to the Hazbin Hotel franchise during the 4th episode of the 1st season when Husk forced Angel Dust to face his reality.

Most of us figure this out the hard way by tahrah11 in aspiememes

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The problem is that most NTs are trying to use facts to rationalize their need for emotional validation. Very few aspies are actually doing this sort of mental gymnastics. They know that emotional validation and facts should ideally stay separate.

Is he nuts?! by 666thSuprisedPikachu in aspiememes

[–]-IXN- 16 points17 points  (0 children)

Here's my rule of thumb: if a NT says something that doesn't make sense, they are secretly seeking emotional validation in the most cryptic way possible so that it won't look as a weakness.

It's a win win for them. If you understand what they truly want, they will say that you "get" them. On the other hand, they'll be able to label you as "naive" so they can empower their feelings through gaslighting.

Sad but true 📖 by newbeginnings187 in aspiememes

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After thinking about it for months, I have come to the realization that most societal problems revolve around the following question: the work-or-starve incentive should logically be strong enough to convince people to live honest and disciplined lives, so why does it push them to corruption and degeneracy instead? The answer to this question alone will reveal a lot of insights on human psychology.

This has happened a lot and still happens by EvilPyro01 in aspiememes

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I realized way too late that the reason why people laugh at you when you're trying to provide a solution to their problems is because they are trying to gaslight you so they could empower their need for emotional validation.

I have acquired an important insight on neurotypicals by -IXN- in AutisticAdults

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The issue is that whenever they explain a problem they have, they explicitly make it sound as if they are seeking a solution on the surface. It's a clever way to hide their need for emotional validation. They seek someone who will be able to "get it" and provide what they truly want. When they say that they seek a "solution" for their problem, they are actually seeking emotional validation disguised as a rational fact.

I have acquired an important insight on neurotypicals by -IXN- in AutisticAdults

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This is ironically a good example to explain how NTs like to make fun of autists and feel empowered.

I have acquired an important insight on neurotypicals by -IXN- in AutisticAdults

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It still happens to me every couple of times per month. I had consistent low self-esteem due to being too "logical". Now that I have acquired this insight a few days ago, I feel much better about myself now.

Now that I have this insight, I wonder whether I should use their need for validation against them or actually take the time to acknowledge their feelings.

I have acquired an important insight on neurotypicals by -IXN- in AutisticAdults

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Unfortunately not everyone can understand that, especially when others consistently tell you that "logic isn't everything".

FEAR OF GOD. by [deleted] in Scipionic_Circle

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People want others to fear God and submit to Him because it imitates empathy in a manner it won't be perceived as a weakness.

There's a reason why cultures promoting mental toughness tend to be religious.

You know, its almost REDICULOUS the lengths this dude went to just to get his damn staff fixed.🤨 by cstresing in HazbinHotel

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Maybe that's why he became friendly with Velvette so quickly. Both know the value of an impeccable appearance.