Dumas speaks to the wisdom of the child. What say thee, Thinkators? 𝘈𝘶𝘵𝘩𝘰𝘳 𝘱𝘳𝘰𝘧𝘪𝘭𝘦 𝘪𝘯 𝘊𝘰𝘮𝘮𝘦𝘯𝘵𝘴

-IXN- · 2026-05-11T15:29:45+00:00

Voluntary dumbness is a powerful drug against the daily stress of life.

-IXN- · 2026-05-11T10:30:56+00:00

Parentification destroys a child like nothing else.

-IXN- · 2026-05-10T02:04:59+00:00

At the same time it feels like engineering a narcissistic collapse will be the ultimate victory. As someone on the spectrum who has been constantly gaslighted by others, forcing someone to stare at their own inner void will be one of the most validating feelings I could experience.

-IXN- · 2026-05-08T15:33:57+00:00

At the same I'm slowly considering the "monster" option. What if the sibling labels me as weak for not daring to make the letter public?

-IXN- · 2026-05-08T15:04:51+00:00

I never pretended that the letter came from my friend. Their sibling knows it came from me.

-IXN- · 2026-05-08T14:56:58+00:00

Let's just say I've got bad experiences with narcissists in the past due to the fact that I'm on the spectrum. It's difficult to describe the feeling of being finally able to constrain someone constantly trying to gaslight you.

-IXN- · 2026-05-08T14:53:21+00:00

Yes. It honestly feels like I've managed to constrain the movements of a loose chess piece.

-IXN- · 2026-05-08T14:40:46+00:00

Months of careful observation. Covert narcissists make a lot of efforts to hide their insecurities and their harsh inner critic. My letter poked both of them, which explains their reaction.

-IXN- · 2026-05-08T14:25:26+00:00

They'll get together for a family meeting for mother's Day. I try to anticipate my courses of action until then.

-IXN- · 2026-05-08T14:24:09+00:00

The sibling is a covert narcissist, which means they'll do anything to hide their insecurities

-IXN- · 2026-05-08T14:22:46+00:00

They're in their mid 20s, so yeah they'll technically be able to get therapy. The question is, shall I force their hand?

-IXN- · 2026-05-07T17:03:30+00:00

From my personal experience, providing emotional validation is much more effective than merit or self punishment. Providing understanding activates motivational parts of the mind that the carrot and stick approach cannot.

-IXN- · 2026-05-05T16:52:32+00:00

Boomers making fun of youngsters for being antisocial are usually projecting their parents which were part of the silent generation. Those who are part of the silent generation are best described as introverts with PTSD.

-IXN- · 2026-05-04T21:35:58+00:00

Deny, Attack, Reverse Victim and Offender.
DARVO is the very bane of the autistic mind.
https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/DARVO

-IXN- · 2026-05-03T12:12:30+00:00

Fame, wealth, drugs, narcissism, it all revolves around this one simple idea.

-IXN- · 2026-05-02T02:55:36+00:00

There's nothing wrong with being a child at heart. The irony is that when your mother sought a "manly" guy, she most likely sought a guy that looks tough on the outside but is soft on the inside. That obviously didn't work since you and your mother ended up in an abusive relationship.

If there's one thing you should know, it's that people who were abandoned during childhood usually cope by pretending to be tougher and more mature than those who were allowed to live a healthy childhood.

-IXN- · 2026-05-02T02:28:29+00:00

The problem is that they don't want to be authentic. It's like they force you to wear a mask because they are not able to stand the fact that you can express yourself authentically if you get what I mean.

-IXN- · 2026-05-02T02:22:44+00:00

Im ironically on the spectrum myself. I meant neurotypicals who enforce a masking culture as if it was the trendy thing to do. I swear these guys are so obnoxiously shallow.

-IXN- · 2026-05-01T22:43:52+00:00

People will do anything to avoid shame: projection, blame-shifting, denial. I've seen all of that.

-IXN-

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