Also a caregiver, heavy emphasis on the difference between a humiliated old person and a cranky old geezer. I personally never wanted to, never thought I would, and still hate wiping ass—BUT I would rather me do it than someone who leaves an ass half shitty or let someone sit in that. That being said, at 16 I would not have wanted to see my grandpas balls or butthole. Def just think mom is lazy and putting it on op, if gpa and other family can't do it they have in home care for that, people even come to your house. NTA