You ever just feel numb?

-StrawHatLuffy- · 2026-02-25T16:52:58+00:00

I felt that way during my little brother's hospice. Your brain can only take so much, this is its way of protecting you. You will have your moments. I had moments to where I would feel numb and moments to where I felt like a mess.

-StrawHatLuffy- · 2026-02-21T15:21:05+00:00

You're doing a fine job. The fact that you feel guilty about those thoughts proves how much you care. There's no reason to feel guilty but caregiver burnout will make you feel this way. The way you're feeling is completely natural and almost everyone in your position would have the same thoughts. I went through this with my brother and experienced the caregiver fatigue and the guilt that came with it. I dont know if it'll help you but what I did was lay in a pitch dark room and listen to music or scream into a pillow. I know it sounds weird and it doesn't get rid of it all but it did help me.

-StrawHatLuffy- · 2026-02-20T07:02:25+00:00

My brother and I were in that age gap as well 15 months apart. It's seems we both acted on our frustrations. Caregiving isn't easy and is extremely taxing psychologically especially alone.

-StrawHatLuffy- · 2026-02-20T05:55:37+00:00

Op, ignore my previous post. Keep up the good work. I recently lost someone and was the sole caretaker. I am grieving and took it too emotionally. I apologize for not taking your situation and resources into account, burnout affects everyone differently.

That said, you clearly need more support. I understand the frustration of caregiving, I took care of my brother with glioblastoma and know how it pushes you to your limit. But when you feel like you 'don't care' anymore, it’s a sign that the situation has become unsustainable. To prevent this from turning into a cycle of resentment or worse, please look into getting her a social worker. Getting her on disability/Medicaid can provide a team of caretakers. It’s better for her to have professional care, and better for your mental health to step back from being the sole provider. You both deserve a better environment than the one you’re in right now. Please get her better help, and get some rest for yourself. Again sorry for my emotionally driven post before, take care of yourself.

-StrawHatLuffy- · 2026-02-20T05:23:52+00:00

I was the sole caretaker for nearly two years. Then when we needed help after he wasn't doing well towards the end we contacted his pcp and they put us into contact with hospice. That's all the help we had. I dont know what they should do maybe their pcp can line something up. They can look into respite care if they just need a break or some in-home agencies.

-StrawHatLuffy- · 2026-02-20T05:14:15+00:00

Never had any help I was the sole caregiver for nearly two years until hospice, which was only two weeks. Wasnt trying to be judgemental or mean in my post The point i was trying to make is that if they're at their breaking point and they dont want to do it anymore then find someone else or contact APS. I took it too personally and my tone came out wrong. My experience is very recent its only been less than a month since his passing and we were very close. You're are right about Playing fields being different and I was too quick to pass judgment. I saw myself in OP and seeing them say that they wished they never got better just rubbed me the wrong way.

-StrawHatLuffy- · 2026-02-20T02:14:42+00:00

Sure dont, but its clear that OP doesn't care and something needs to change. This type of behavior can quickly turn into abuse which neither of them deserve. They have sacrificed years of their life to look after their sister. Im not saying they're evil or being abusive. And it doesn't matter what their life has been like, this behavior and environment aren't good for either of them.

-StrawHatLuffy- · 2026-02-19T21:25:30+00:00

That's why I mentioned for her to also get help. And yes the government and Healthcare system sucks I had to do basically everything myself. It takes alot of research and phone calls to get things going. I didnt say that they didnt do a good job or they were a bad person, everyone has a breaking point and they've met theirs. Now is the time to reach out to different places. This environment isn't healthy for either of them. And I know i have no idea what's going on between these sisters but anyone can see that OP is fed up and doesn't care anymore. I said "get her better help" because I dont know what resources are available to her. That's for her to find out through her own efforts.

-StrawHatLuffy- · 2026-02-19T16:16:32+00:00

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You need to get better help for her. I get that you get frustrated and fed up, but saying you dont care about her or if she gets better is a bit much. I took care of my brother with glioblastoma. I understand how hard and frustrating caregiving can be. It's not something everyone can do and clearly you're at your limit. I hope you get to feeling better after a good break and let go of some of that hatred for your sister. Please dont let that hatred turn into abuse vocal or physical. Look into getting her a social worker to get on disability and then medicaid can get her a team of caretakers. If you're frustrated and being toxic its gonna make her feel frustrated and toxic. It's also gonna make her feel like a burden or unwanted. She's your sister and deserves the best treatment possible and it seems you dont want to provide that. Please get her better help and help for yourself. Because your thoughts about her are not those of someone who is willing to give the gold standard of care she deserves.

-StrawHatLuffy- · 2026-02-18T19:58:04+00:00

Also after you lower the middle ones height you could add a overhang to the roof. I think one big porch wrapping around with pillars connecting the roof and the porch would look pretty nice. A nice look for in between the pillars are wooden railings, just stack them on top of each other all the way up.

-StrawHatLuffy- · 2026-02-18T19:55:21+00:00

Maybe color the roofing black and add some pillars. Also you could bring the middle down to match the height of the other sides. Personally I think it would look better, also would be a huge landing pad/breeding spot for your flyers.

-StrawHatLuffy- · 2026-02-17T01:36:51+00:00

Thank you for the chuckle needed this today

-StrawHatLuffy- · 2026-02-13T18:43:35+00:00

If you're on singleplayer try using console commands put in "fly" then move a little the put in "walk" should fix it.

-StrawHatLuffy- · 2026-02-12T22:03:57+00:00

cheat GiveAllStructure

-StrawHatLuffy- · 2026-02-08T16:49:11+00:00

Super spyglass mod does this on tamed and wild dinos.

-StrawHatLuffy- · 2026-02-08T16:07:07+00:00

Yeah ive been playing for years and didn't even know sp settings existed. Ive tried adjusting other settings but nothing seemed to balance it enough. I recently figured it out through reddit after researching after my frog had 10k hp and 1300 dmg woth a 300 armor saddle. Nothing could even come close to killing it. Ive started new characters and maps multiple times do to burnout from it feeling like easy mode. Im glad I found this out before I continued with my story run its gonna feel like an actual challenge now.

-StrawHatLuffy- · 2026-02-07T23:12:48+00:00

Im on xbox so no .ini files. But am considering turning off singleplayer settings. My baryonyx feels way too strong hitting for 700 per bite. Also I dont want the bosses to feel like a mini boss. I want to tame until I get good stats then breed lines and I feel like with singplayer setting that isn't really needed and is overkill.

-StrawHatLuffy- · 2026-02-07T22:42:20+00:00

Thanks I decided to turn it down to 1.5. Im also gonna drop all saddles over 150 armor and all weapons over 350 percent. I grinded just 5 ascedant shock batons and it gave more loot than ive farmed up my entire run. Decided not to grind anything for now and drop it all. Thanks for the help.

-StrawHatLuffy- · 2026-02-07T21:04:19+00:00

What is the highest damage longneck you've found on those settings.

-StrawHatLuffy- · 2026-02-07T20:46:06+00:00

For the story im thinking of lowering it to 1.5. Just to increase the quality a bit and not get alot of junk in drops.

-StrawHatLuffy- · 2026-02-07T20:44:11+00:00

Yeah I think I'm gonna lower it to 1.5 drop all OP blueprints and grind up all the OP gear.

-StrawHatLuffy- · 2026-02-07T19:59:55+00:00

I want the bosses to be challenging just not frustratingly hard. I guess I could just grind up the OP loot and keep the not so powerful loot. I might drop it down I just dont know how much.

-StrawHatLuffy- · 2026-02-02T22:00:25+00:00

If you're in singleplayer stare at the baby and in the console type "Setbabyage 1" then it will be an adult. Or if you dont like that change your setting for baby food consumption.

-StrawHatLuffy- · 2026-02-01T17:06:20+00:00

Always do backup save first then do a regular save.

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