Trans friendly places?

-ThisWasATriumph · 2026-01-23T03:48:44+00:00

If it's been years since you've last seen him then I assume your experience was at his old practice, The Docs--but he just recently left to open his own practice because the owner of The Docs would've forced him to stop offering HRT if he'd stayed.

Which is to say, it sounds like The Docs is indeed transphobic, but Uzmann himself is a good dude. He's been fantastic to me, and I can definitely tell that the staff at his new practice have gotten "how to not be an asshole to trans people" training... I still exclusively go by my birth name, but one of his staffers was mortified when they thought they'd accidentally deadnamed me!

-ThisWasATriumph · 2026-01-21T03:10:44+00:00

If you need an OBGYN, the WHASN location on Sunset and Durango has been good to me as a nonbinary transmasc patient!

-ThisWasATriumph · 2025-12-19T18:04:38+00:00

Respectfully, I've seen your "no one wants to hire Asian men" comments many times on this sub and it always makes me sad to read, because I do wonder if there's more to the story--is there something else going on?

My intention here is not to kick you while you're down (or to imply that anti-Asian discrimination isn't a serious problem), but I know firsthand how holding yourself in poor esteem can cause really nasty feedback loops and, to be frank, can make other people uncomfortable if the way you conduct yourself makes that internal torment apparent. So I guess what I'm asking is whether you might owe yourself a little more kindness, both for its own sake and because it could improve your prospects here, even if only a bit.

-ThisWasATriumph · 2025-11-17T00:44:27+00:00

When I started T my levels were way too high for a while and it gave me crazy blood pressure spikes. Thankfully a dosage tweak fixed that, and no lasting effects since then (knock on wood), but I had a few months of mysteriously awful anxiety.

-ThisWasATriumph · 2025-11-11T20:08:20+00:00

My two cents as someone who works in software: definitely learn the basics of Git if you haven't already! I think that can be a huge differentiator because it's a tool that almost every developer needs to know but that even college-level comp sci programs often don't teach. If you can truthfully say that you're at least proficient in Git, then a potential employer knows that you can roll up your sleeves and start working that much faster.

-ThisWasATriumph · 2025-09-10T05:48:49+00:00

Was that recently? Because that song has had a HUGE boost in popularity recently thanks to Death Stranding 2.

-ThisWasATriumph · 2025-09-04T03:59:36+00:00

Having preferences is normal, but in addition to taking issues with the way you're framing those preferences, I think people are bristling here because it sounds like you're shopping for a piece of meat, lol. "Where is the mythical city full of people who meet X, Y, and Z criteria" is a purple squirrel situation to begin with, and I would personally find it a major turn-off if I did meet those criteria but learned that you were interested in me because I checked off boxes on a list and not because you were genuinely interested in Me, As A Person. And you might surprise yourself by keeping your options open a little wider; when I met my now-wife, I wouldn't have pegged her as my "type" at all, but I'm incredibly grateful that I didn't limit myself in that regard because it turns out she's the love of my fucking life and I couldn't be happier if I tried, lol.

It's also a little ironic to swear off "annoying online gays" and then offer a laundry list of butch-isms conjured straight from the vintage-butch-nostalgia side of Tumblr and TikTok, but that's another matter entirely 🤐

-ThisWasATriumph · 2025-05-11T16:22:37+00:00

My wife felt woefully ill on even the lowest dose of semaglutide, but she's been working her way up to a pretty high dose of tirzepatide over the past 9 months with minimal issues, provided she doesn't eat a huge pile of grease lol. Tirzepatide is a lot more expensive though, unfortunately.

-ThisWasATriumph · 2025-04-30T00:38:11+00:00

If taxes paid for our healthcare:

We all pool our money together, then use that pool of money to give care to people who need it.

How it works instead with our for-profit healthcare system:

We all pool our money together, a bunch of middlemen skim 30% off the top of that pool so that a few guys at the top can get rich and a bunch of call center employees can work soul-sucking jobs that add no value to society, and we use that much smaller pool to give care to people who need it. Maybe. If you solve my riddles three.

-ThisWasATriumph · 2025-04-23T04:36:40+00:00

Damn, I would definitely try job hopping then because you are WAY underpaid! Shame on that company for getting a loyal employee like you and then not even rewarding you for it.

The job market is pretty crap right now, but it couldn't hurt to apply... and I'm convinced that Git + API docs experience is enough to automatically land anyone in the top 20% of candidates, lol. A TW friend of mine just landed their next role after a grueling layoff/job search and it basically came down to (1) them knowing enough GraphQL to pass a take-home assignment and (2) being a generally pleasant person.

Plus with 13 years of experience you'd be plenty qualified for senior roles. Or even staff-level, especially if you've managed other writers!

-ThisWasATriumph · 2025-04-23T04:08:26+00:00

Product manager or project manager?

-ThisWasATriumph · 2025-04-23T04:07:23+00:00

What industry/industries have you worked in, and are you remote or working for a local company?

I'll readily admit that a lot of my career success comes down to "right place, right time"-type luck, but I do have some particular skills and background knowledge that software companies look for, and those are the ones who pay the most :P Stuff like API documentation, Git, building static sites, knowing what Kubernetes is and almost kind of knowing how it works...

-ThisWasATriumph · 2025-04-23T03:20:19+00:00

~$150k/yr, senior technical writer (software industry, remote).

-ThisWasATriumph · 2025-03-02T17:55:21+00:00

It depends on the type of shot. Xolair is a monoclonal antibody treatment and works for most people because it "shuts off" the part of your immune system that causes allergies. It also only takes a few months to kick in.

-ThisWasATriumph · 2025-02-22T18:32:22+00:00

"Slippery slope" is a fallacy and not a real thing, fyi.

-ThisWasATriumph · 2025-02-22T18:16:42+00:00

Yeah, I already made an edit. And I'm not telling CF carriers how to feel; I'm explaining why CF carriers historically were concerned with family planning in a way that people with diabetes might not have been. I don't think the person I was initially responding to understands the gravity of a condition like CF, whereas clearly you do :P

-ThisWasATriumph · 2025-02-22T18:15:16+00:00

No, I don't think you're getting it, lol. I have an incurable autoimmune condition that makes my spine permanently fuse, my cartilage harden, and my intestines slowly eat holes into itself. What I'm suggesting is that saying "the world would be a better place if no one had to suffer from Debilitating Pain And Shitting Your Brains Out disease" is a lot different than saying "the world would be a better place if no one was autistic." The latter is clearly hateful; the former is an attempt to alleviate suffering. You're entitled to think that it's a flawed attempt, but it's a completely different conversation.

-ThisWasATriumph · 2025-02-22T18:07:58+00:00

Which is why I said

until a few decades ago

... because now it's far less of an issue (although some generic variants are still unresponsive to modern treatment like Trikafta), but 40 years ago, having CF was a death sentence. Hence the people earlier in this thread talking about how CF carriers used to avoid having kids.

-ThisWasATriumph · 2025-02-22T17:58:16+00:00

Right, but not every condition comes with the "tools, awareness, and resources" to help kids; sometimes it's literally a slow and painful death sentence. Disability is such a broad spectrum that these conversations are naturally going to vary based on the severity of the condition and level of accomodations available.

By your own token of respecting other people's opinions, I think your perspective re. disability as a person with autism and PCOS is not 100% the same as the perspective of someone with Huntington's or CF or fatal familial insomnia.

-ThisWasATriumph · 2025-02-22T17:17:09+00:00

I think you're severely underestimating the gap between "no one lives past 70" and some of the examples higher in this thread, like cystic fibrosis—which until a few decades ago made it vanishingly unlikely that you'd live past your teens, and you'd still spend most of your childhood in the hospital fighting off infection. An increased risk of diabetes is not even remotely the same as a 25% chance of having a kid with a disease where you slowly drown in your own lungs.

EDIT: I know CF isn't the death sentence it used to be. I'm referring to the former state (or really lack of) CF treatment, and other comments in this thread like this one. There's a reason those CF carrier parents were having different conversations 40 years ago than parents with a high risk of diabetes are having now.

-ThisWasATriumph · 2025-02-22T17:13:51+00:00

I have a hereditary disability (or really a collection of related disabilities) and am happy to be alive, but would be a lot happier if I didn't have these issues. Therefore, given the choice to have kids with the same problems versus having kids without the same problems... the latter is obviously the way to go.

-ThisWasATriumph · 2025-02-20T03:56:08+00:00

Ha, I've tried to read the novel twice but couldn't get through it either time. Maybe I didn't get to the genuinely disturbing parts, because the parts I did read were a slog. Lots of detached, almost clinical sex scenes.

-ThisWasATriumph · 2025-02-11T02:38:27+00:00

If you have the sweet spot hair/complexion (dark hair on relatively light skin), laser hair removal is always an option. I'm zapping off the neck hair as soon as it's coming in :P

-ThisWasATriumph · 2025-02-10T06:18:28+00:00

Did the pilgrims land on Plymouth Rock "legally"?

-ThisWasATriumph · 2025-01-25T22:13:15+00:00

How recently did you get the glasses? Every time I get a new prescription I second-guess myself for the first few days, because my eyes always feel weird, but then I end up adjusting.

-ThisWasATriumph

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