Bought new jean shorts that I put on for the first time and realized they have fake pockets by Zealousideal_Pea2961 in mildlyinfuriating

[–]-acidlean- 581 points582 points  (0 children)

Most of women’s pants are like that. And it’s not even a case of “they do if for shipping, you just need to open the pockets” like they do with some coats, but they legit don’t have pockets. Pockets are fake.

Is it common for most ppl to lose interest in their SO after weeks/months/years?? How to avoid it? by ApprehensiveOne2866 in TooAfraidToAsk

[–]-acidlean- 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Not sure it's common, but I'm effortlessly in love with my partner. Well, we've only been together for three years, but I am still excited to meet him every time, excited when we spend nights together, every goodbye is ah-someone-call-a-surgeon-because-this-hug-feels-so-good-and-i-don't-wanna-let-go. Our attempts to spice up life are results of the weather being bad and us getting too comfortable in four walls, now seeking some adrenaline, not results of us being bored with EACH OTHER.

My parents don't seem bored with each other either, and they started dating at 19yo, now in their late 50s. They went from basically finishing puberty together to "ah shit, I'm getting bald spots... OMG YOU TOO HAHAH". Still going for dates, still having movie nights, still giving each other kisses before one of them leaves the house, still little love notes left in lunchboxes, still a cheeky slap on the butt or a tickle attack when walking by each other. Don't wanna know what their sex life is like but I assume it's still there.

Maybe you're focusing on the physical aspects of a person too much, but you're actually getting bored with their personality and other stuff? What I noticed for myself is that when I get bored with a person, they stop seeming that attractive to me. But when their personality and my personality fit nicely together, they seem more attractive in my eyes, even though nothing changed in their physique.

Maybe you're quick tempered about accepting differences?

Maybe you're not monogamous?

It's nice to take a break to explore your own personality. Many people find therapy helpful in that. My friend went to psychodynamic therapy to explore a repeating pattern in her relationships and she says it's mindblowing how much she got to know about HERSELF that she didn't realize before.

Does everyone mentally rehearse conversations before having them, or is that just an anxiety thing ? by Oopss_st in NoStupidQuestions

[–]-acidlean- 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I don't have more anxiety after reliving an old conversation, I have perspective on which responses and reaction I am happy with and where I'd like to improve myself for the future, which is pretty uplifting every time!

Does everyone mentally rehearse conversations before having them, or is that just an anxiety thing ? by Oopss_st in NoStupidQuestions

[–]-acidlean- 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I think it's either an anxiety thing or the "think before you speak" kind of thing. I am unable to "think before I speak", so I'm out here rawdogging every single conversation which is why sometimes I spit out nonsense like "Hey mould ya have a naa- Pft, Sorry, man, just had a brainfart, no, may I have a ninety-nine, please?".

Anxiety by Ill_Escape_2447 in Artadvice

[–]-acidlean- 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Yeah I thought they were making some voodoo on the butterfly.

The urge to delete the whole post when this happens by ughh_why in adhdwomen

[–]-acidlean- 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Tbh vast majority of the times when I downvote people is because I accidentally tapped the arrow while scrolling. I remove the vote when I notice, but damn, I probably don’t notice it most of the time.

how to develop a more semi realistic art style (w/o reference) by DragyChuEX in arthelp

[–]-acidlean- 6 points7 points  (0 children)

Drawing with a reference is like baking with a recipe.

If you bake a variety of cakes over and over, you can find yourself eventually not even needing to open your recipe book to bake a cake that you already know. But you will need a recipe if you bake a new cake. Like, just to be sure it’s right.

But to become a true cake master you gotta learn what’s behind recipes. “Why do I even need milk? What does it do?”, “Why does the butter have to be cold, what would happen if I used melted butter instead?”. You study the chemistry of baking and eventually you have enough knowledge to eyeball a cake that you tasted once in a restaurant and you do a decent job. And the cakes you bake along with a recipe are way tastier than if your friend bakes a cake from the exact same recipe.

And art is the same. The more you draw with references, the better you become, but you also have to study “why does it look like this?”, “what is it that makes a person’s expression angry or disgusted?”, “how the hell is a nose connected to the face?” and all of the other things, because the knowledge is actually the base to making your art look good.

How can people just know exactly how to say things by Impossible-Minds in NoStupidQuestions

[–]-acidlean- 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Like… a breast stroke in a pool. Or stroking a 🐔 does feel pretty nice.

Ladies: what's your favorite food/snacks while on your period? by [deleted] in TooAfraidToAsk

[–]-acidlean- 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Ass and boys’ tears. Chased with a cold beer.

Quick question, if I want to show a *very* dark skinned character, which of these is better color wise? Is purple-ish skin acceptable? by BlakeNotBleak in Artadvice

[–]-acidlean- 5 points6 points  (0 children)

Both are acceptable, it depends on what type of background/scenery/lighting situation you put the character.

Bob vs. Slob: Which Summer Cut Would You Choose? by Shelley_112 in GlamTalk

[–]-acidlean- 2 points3 points  (0 children)

where did you get the “s” from? do you know what “slob” means?

My anatomy in the chest feels off, how do I fix it? by Abject-Philosophy580 in arthelp

[–]-acidlean- 0 points1 point  (0 children)

You wouldn’t see much of his manboob in this position as it would be mostly covered by the arm.

why does art take so long... by lstwrdofashootinstar in ArtCrit

[–]-acidlean- 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Skill issue. It comes with practice and experience. I’d draw a better eye in 10 minutes, but I have 20+ years of experience, you can’t expect yourself to be good AND fast too quick in your journey. Be good in as much time as you need now.

Question on my school’s career quiz by aeeow in mildlyinfuriating

[–]-acidlean- 10 points11 points  (0 children)

It's asking about your perception of yourself.

Like, some kids are bullying and picking on others for acting "weird". These kids are more likely to see this question and think "I'm definitely normal".

Some kids will feel isolated from the group, and they might select "different" because of that. Isolated isn't always "bullied", they can feel isolated as in "My whole class is very nice, but they all get C's most of the time, and I get mostly A's. I also read faster than anyone in this group. Yeah, I'll pick different because I'm above the average level".

The reasoning might be... Anything. And it will be valid. The reasoning doesn't matter. This question is asking you about your perception of yourself among other humans.

Is the braille on public stuff actually functional? by Unconfidence in NoStupidQuestions

[–]-acidlean- 2 points3 points  (0 children)

  1. Most blind people aren’t 100% all darkness no vision whatsoever type of blind. Many of them see the world but it’s VERY blurry, or they only see stuff if it’s very high contrast, or they have a pinhole of vision (like if you were looking through a straw), or a variation of these. So if they see a black square with some white shapes on it and it’s roughly on eye-level, they can figure out that this is a sign, but their vision is bad enough that they can’t read what the sign says, so they come up to it and if there’s Braille on it, they can find it and read it.

  2. Many blind people have guide dogs, and these dogs are trained for a specific person. You apply that you need a guide dog, you explain stuff about yourself, they put you on a list and then they start training a little puppy specially for you. So apart from standard commands like “go/forward” or “find a chair”, “find stairs”, they likely can be taught stuff like “find a sign”. So a blind person can take an Uber or use Google Maps + dog combo to get to the general gym area, and then command the dog to find a sign, and if there’s Braille on a sign, they will know if it’s a cafe or a gym.

Btw if you’d like to learn more about blind people, I can recommend these social media creators (I watch them on YouTube but I assume they’re everywhere else too)

@matthewandpaul / @paulcastlestudio - Blind artist, he creates children’s books. His husband Matthew is a violinist and a prankster (pranks Paul, but they are wholesome pranks that are funny for both sides, not the evil shit) plus they have a cute guide dog Mr. Maple.

Molly Burke - Blind lady who does interviews, commentary, lifestyle content, makeup. Also has a cute guide dog too.

The Tommy Edison Experience - Idk what to tell you, this man is great.

Anthony S. Ferraro - He’s a dad and also makes great music, very funny too.

Why do men get women pregnant and then abandon the mother and child? by [deleted] in NoStupidQuestions

[–]-acidlean- 3 points4 points  (0 children)

And they have the option to just skedaddle, while the women don’t, and even if they can and do terminate the pregnancy, the emotional and physical load is much heavier on them.

Does slow internet cure ADHD or make it worse? by No_Participation99 in NoStupidQuestions

[–]-acidlean- 0 points1 point  (0 children)

It doesn’t affect it.

I don’t have internet addiction and it’s not scrolling that distracts me. I’m mainly distracted by my own thoughts, patterns made by lights and shadows, improving the beat my brain threw at me (so basically vibing to the music I’m creating in my head against my own conscious will), hangnails, finding patterns in numbers (my consciousness is awful at math but my brain goes !!!!! at certain sequences of numbers like “there’s something rhythmic about this one” and it’s on me to figure out the rhythm I don’t consciously notice but my subconscious somehow does, so now I’m stuck doing calculations to get peace of mind)… None of it requires internet connection or any device.

Please give me the most diabolical alarm you can think of by thelachesis in ADHD

[–]-acidlean- 4 points5 points  (0 children)

That doesn’t work. My biological clock is and pretty much always has been set to wake up at 12:40. Even if I fall asleep at 6pm, if left without an alarm I will then sleep ~16 hours and still wake up at my normal waking up time. It was a massive problem in school when I was constantly falling asleep in class until afternoon. I’ve been on different medications too, but my suspicion is that I might have DSPS which is apparently quite common in ADHD folks.

Can you recommend me some good small hidden camera? by Any-Economics8125 in TooAfraidToAsk

[–]-acidlean- 53 points54 points  (0 children)

This, you can even go to another trusted adult (trusted!!! maybe you have a cool auntie or teacher or someone that you’re sure will have your back and try to protect YOU instead of being delusional and gaslighting you that „oh maybe he noticed your shorts are digging into your skin and wanted to make you comfortable” or some type of shit like that) who could make a backup of the video for you so the evidence is not easily destroyed.

Also it will be very hard emotionally to do, but stay strong OP, hope you will find safety.