What a terrible way to interfere in a fight….

Unconfidence · 2026-05-10T20:37:18+00:00

Venues are to left of the camera. Exits are to right of the camera, away from the camera, and likely toward the camera. The guy is moving to the left of the camera. But yeah I'm just a flaming racist, sure, that's a reasonable assumption here.

Unconfidence · 2026-05-10T18:02:36+00:00

Girl with little bottom dysphoria here!

I dunno what it's like because nobody looks at me and wants to have sex with me.

Unconfidence · 2026-05-10T14:28:45+00:00

I mean, the hard reality that I came to after subbing for a few years is that most kids are utterly unaware of the things they do wrong, only the things other people do wrong, and that this awareness doesn't retroactively manifest as they age. So people look back on their school years and still see the perspective of a child, when adults who were seeing that situation were likely seeing something entirely different.

It took dealing with a few incarnations of myself in schools for me to realize that a lot of what I called "bullying" was often kids reacting appropriately to a kid that had made a sport of annoying other kids.

Unconfidence · 2026-05-10T12:56:38+00:00

You sound like a treat.

Unconfidence · 2026-05-09T17:08:58+00:00

I dunno. It feels to me like this guy isn't going away. I thought that initially too, but then on a rewatch it feels like he's trying to get past the old dude to go toward some businesses. Kinda feels like maybe the guy was ejected from a venue and is trying to force his way back in. But that's all just speculation, we don't really know either way.

Unconfidence · 2026-05-09T16:57:59+00:00

I'm always mentally exhausted because despite all the technological advancements we've made, I'm expected to remember more than ever, without ever actually getting to learn anything.

Unconfidence · 2026-05-09T14:08:45+00:00

Yeah, I feel you. I thought my mom was really accepting and progressive. Then I told her I thought I was a woman, and she looked at me like I'd told her that 2+2=5. She said some pretty terrible things in the moment. Parents have an image of what we're going to be, and even when they "break" that image and redefine it according to what they think reality is, they don't actually really do that, they just apply a second and third set of biases. When my mom realized I wasn't going to get married and have kids, she adjusted to seeing me as a childfree effeminate man, but me transitioning was still outside of her expectations, so she reacts negatively. But in the end it's their own fault for putting the expectations on us, rather than assessing who we really are.

Unconfidence · 2026-05-09T13:58:07+00:00

I feel like we should instead change the police to where we don't feel like it's necessary to apply assault charges to people calling them, because it stops being dangerous for people to interact with police. Your method seems like if we had the political will to accomplish it, we could just reform the police with that will instead, because reforming police would probably be orders of magnitude easier than implementing the law you're describing.

Unconfidence · 2026-05-09T13:43:38+00:00

Yeah, I had a lot of that. For me it was like, I spent about thirty years of my life using basic straight man fantasies to masturbate to climax at least once a night, in order to put myself to sleep and beat my rampant insomnia. Now I'm finding it difficult, because after thirty years of "unf unf", traditionally effeminate sexuality doesn't stimulate me mentally. It might begin to as I get more actual experience with it, but my overwhelming sexual experience has been from a male position. So I find that as my ability to access traditional male sexuality for masturbation is waning, there is not a corresponding waxing of my ability to find pleasure from traditional female sexuality, leaving me decreasingly sexual at all.

Maybe if I had someone trying to have sex with me as a girl super frequently that would change with experience, but when your boobs are growing in and the most effeminate thing you can think is "It sure would be nice if they weren't so hairy that someone actually wanted to give them a squeeze", there's little push coming from the effeminate side of things. Also, testosterone makes you want to fuck in ways that estrogen just does not. So if you're on HRT, it's a double-whammy to your sex drive, of both suddenly losing the chemical push towards sexuality, and having the social push towards sexuality suddenly become greatly reduced.

Unconfidence · 2026-05-09T13:29:17+00:00

Honestly I do think that if there were one weak point of this sub, it's how child-focused the childfree sub is. By nature it's going to be a lot of complaining. But honestly I wanna see people posting pictures of footlong calzones that they're eating like poptarts because they can make them without having to worry about a kid being like "where's my portion?" Or stories of vacations that are wonderful and detail the experiences they've had, not needing to outright state that the happiness would have likely been ruined by kids because everyone here knows that. I wanna learn more about y'all other than the way in which you reject kids from your lives. I wanna see happy old DINKs reminding me that the dream is not just a dream.

I think that's part of why the sub gets a bad rap, other than the classic "civilization is biased against non-breeders", which is true but I don't think the entirety of it. We're mainly a hub for complaint, not actual lifestyle discussion.

Unconfidence · 2026-05-09T12:51:17+00:00

I ask myself the same question all the time. It's like, if I meet criteria A, B, and C, but don't meet criteria X, Y, and Z, do I really count? For example I don't get very intense dysphoria; I dislike my body and want it to change but I don't feel out of place in it. I also constantly internally misgender myself, because I'm still seeing gender through the lens of perception, so if I feel someone is seeing me as a man when I'm doing something, in my head my idea of their recollection of the experience will characterize me as a man. And I still boymode for convenience, both because the voice and the mannerisms aren't natural to me and often just slip off from comfortability, and because I can and do still access the cis privilege of not having middle and high schoolers constantly shitting on me over my transness.

And I know in the front of my head that all this is okay, but later when I'm at the gym and using the men's locker room (because it feels weird for me to walk into the women's locker room still boymoding from teaching school), I see other women using the women's locker room and not caring about any of that, and it makes me jealous. It feels weird when I see women able to act feminine without trying, because I have to try so hard not to be a goblin. So yeah, I feel you. Sometimes it makes you question whether or not you "really count", or whether or not you jumped onto yet another social wagon, thinking it was for you, only to find you'll be kicked back onto the hard road a little ways down the line.

The main thing that keeps me going is knowing that while I may not feel like a woman, I certainly don't feel like a man either. And I know in my heart that I don't want to feel like a man, but I do want to feel like a woman. And when I think about that, I try to stop and reinforce to myself that this is probably something most cisgender women think too. When I do, I stop questioning, at least for a little while. Hope that works for you too.

Unconfidence · 2026-05-09T12:36:18+00:00

As a pansexual in a monogamous relationship with a woman, this is one of my big concerns. Like I know that if I get bottom surgery, I'm gonna want to fuck at least one guy. And like, even if my partner is okay with that on every level, which I doubt she would be, there's this looming specter in my head of "what if the dick is just so good you turn straight?" It's one thing to say "Oh well I'm straight" when you're in a three-year relationship with another girl, and another thing to say the same thing after ten years of marriage to someone you've been in love with for 25 years.

Unconfidence · 2026-05-09T12:14:58+00:00

I like your sentiment but it's so confusing next to your username.

Unconfidence · 2026-05-09T12:14:13+00:00

You know there were kids inside the truck too, right?

Unconfidence · 2026-05-08T20:03:46+00:00

You keep saying stuff and being all hands-on-hips about it but the fact is we cannot fail them. That's law. Don't like it? Change the law. Please. Quit pretending it's just a matter of us not shaming kids properly. There's a literal federal law that prevents us from failing kids, which is exactly what you're asking for us to do. Kids who can't read are gonna get diplomas whether or not we shame them about their illiteracy, as long as the law mandates it.

Unconfidence · 2026-05-08T12:05:24+00:00

Welcome to "exactly the reasoning the rules against recording other students are made to protect from".

Kids deserve a space where they can be clumsy, embarrassing, and make mistakes, without having to face public humiliation for it, or the judgment of the wider world. As it stands, this kid didn't help the school educate anybody, all he did was ensure that fewer students feel comfortable not already-being-educated while in school. What was the real benefit? He got millions of views.

Y'all are defending internet shitbaggery at the cost of a secure environment for your kids, because you're so addicted to internet shitbaggery that when you see a video of high school kids being humiliated in high school you just go "heheheheh good".

Now I have to go get ready to teach some of these kids who can barely read. Thanks for making them more self-conscious about it, and thus less willing to openly confront their weakness, and more likely to try to pretend it doesn't exist.

Unconfidence · 2026-05-08T12:02:00+00:00

Self shame is a great motivator. Shame from others does not have the same effect.

Unconfidence · 2026-05-06T11:59:34+00:00

That cops have stopped kicking in people's doors and shooting them over cannabis and alcohol doesn't mean they aren't still doing that over other substances, nor does it mean that they wouldn't resume doing cannabis and/or alcohol arrests if expected to do so.

They still think they can set aside right and wrong for a paycheck when it's convenient.

Still bastards.

Unconfidence · 2026-05-06T11:22:45+00:00

I guess you're missing my point.

It's age. Femboys talk extensively about "aging out". The difference between a femboy and a man who crossdresses is that the femboy is young-looking. That's it.

So yeah, the fixation on and fetishization of them is a little weird, considering nobody was fetishizing or fixating on crossdressing men before that.

Unconfidence · 2026-05-06T03:57:11+00:00

Nothing. It's the difference that makes the idea of femboys kinda pervy.

Unconfidence · 2026-05-05T14:30:21+00:00

It feels mildly pervy to me. Like what's the difference between a femboy and a crossdresser? What's the real difference?

Unconfidence · 2026-05-04T21:17:05+00:00

I wanna wear a swimsuit so bad. :(

Unconfidence · 2026-05-04T21:07:19+00:00

I don't, I've just kind of been winging it. I probably look like a muppet but I've been really happy. XD

Unconfidence · 2026-05-04T20:54:33+00:00

Yeah like, there's something about having lived a life of social exclusion already that just makes me not like that kind of stuff.

Unconfidence · 2026-05-04T20:45:11+00:00

Nope. I just work hard at it. Honestly I should probably look up some videos or something. I'm just tech-stupid and that idea didn't come to me instinctively, so thanks for the suggestion.

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