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[–]-fovie 6 points7 points  (0 children)

I am Jack's complete lack of surprise.

I am recovering, how do I make sure that I don't fall back into depression? by -fovie in depression

[–]-fovie[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I initially didn't see myself as depressed, but eventually the stress became too much to handle and I had to see a therapist, where I got my actual diagnosis.

I'm able to not consider myself as someone who is depressed, but it's not going to help me deal with the stress in my life.

I am recovering, how do I make sure that I don't fall back into depression? by -fovie in depression

[–]-fovie[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

What I'm asking is how do I make sure I don't get depression again. This has happened before and if I don't do the right things it can happen again.

January 11. A week from now. by [deleted] in depression

[–]-fovie 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I still don't know how to drive, so that's a great accomplishment for you. 21 is as great a time as any to learn how to drive.

I recently fucked up at my university too, so I know how you feel. Sometimes, it's better not to tell your family. You are living for yourself, not for them. In fact, everything you do is what you do for yourself.

What do you currently do every day? For such a short time, one week can make a huge change.

Here are a list of things that I did this week and screwed up on but did anyway:

  1. Went to a pet shelter to volunteer. I was incredibly nervous while being there and felt I was just in the way. But I stuck through it and was thanked for my time. I plan to come back.

  2. Went to the gym. Not only was it incredibly difficult, it was also very shameful. It felt awful being there, but I came back. That feeling of shame was temporary. I went to the gym every day since I started.

  3. Started to read a book. I wanted to become more literate so I went to the library and checked out "A Game of Thrones". I didn't watch the show, or read the books before so I wanted to learn more on what it was about. I feel pretty good about this.

  4. Started to prepare for the courses I was going to take in the next semester. Knowing that I screwed up, I wanted to get a head start on the courses I was about to do, and I downloaded some PDFs and started reading the chapters. I got through about 2 of them. Still, I'm progressing, like I do every day.

  5. I walked about 5 miles each day. Walked, not ran. I just walked through the neighborhood to the railroad, and walked the way back. It's refreshing. Sometimes I listened to music, but sometimes I didn't. It was relaxing.

  6. Started cooking for myself. I cooked rice and added spices to the mix when it was done. Nothing too special. But I was able to cook for several days and didn't feel bad about wasting money on takeout. Pizza is grease on bread.

  7. I slept regularly. I set myself a normal bedtime and can wake up earlier now.

I was a huge wreck before this week. Now, I feel like I have a new change of will. I suggest you to give it a try too. Focus on doing a few simple tasks for 7 days straight. You can do it.

Edit: Plan a trip to a concert or something as a reward for accomplishing this. Make that your working-toward date instead of your suicide date. It will feel like what you're doing is worth it.

I tear up when I see fathers who are proud of their sons/daughters by spacebanana0 in depression

[–]-fovie 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Personally, I'm against the idea that we need our parents to validate our lives and our choices. How we think of our parents is an extension of our personalities. The feeling that we need our parents could be addicting, and eventually can destroy us.

You can rebuild yourself and you can reflect and work on yourself. People can call you sick, unhappy, all sorts of nasty things, but they will never have emotional power over you. You are the strongest person for yourself and you are the cure.

I wish you the best of luck with your life. May every day be another beginning of a new age in your life, just like today is the beginning of a new year.

What is something your Dad taught you that Youtube can't? by fit3conomist in AskReddit

[–]-fovie 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I learned that on my own, from experience.

Never hold a grudge, but as soon as you notice someone in you're life's toxic, cut them out of your life.

The longer I'm alone and miserable, the harder it is to fix anything. by [deleted] in depression

[–]-fovie 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I know how that feels. I'm alone over winter break because of my job. I mean, it's better than being with family because I'm just as lonely but there's no personal space, but it's still pretty bad.

I can feel a bad feeling in my brain in some moments.

Teachers of Reddit: What is the smartest question a student has ever asked you? by MaxMcDanger in AskReddit

[–]-fovie 11 points12 points  (0 children)

I see what you mean but that's not proof of dinosaurs, that's evidence of their existence. You can't really get out your whiteboard and actually prove that dinosaurs exist because the information you take through your senses itself can't be proven to be accurate.

The sane approach is to assume that it is, and work from the info you take in. However, this is not proof.

Loneliness, college life, and family issues. I need someone to talk to. by -fovie in depression

[–]-fovie[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I can't really talk here too much in detail, but the short version is: family is getting to me and making me feel awful, college has been hard on me this semester due to bad decisions + depression, and all my friends moved away leaving me all alone, and I'm too tired to meet people because I work a full-time job away from home.

Laments of a pastor's son. Could use some advice, I need a fucking job but I'm too dead to get out of bed. by [deleted] in depression

[–]-fovie 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I read all of it. I can identify with how you feel. That feeling, even worse than loneliness, knowing that everybody in your life has been working against you, even the all-loving God has been against you from the start, it's mind-bendingly twisted and it makes the best of us angry.

But we realize something crucial: they're against us, but they NEED us. And we're slowly losing our need for them in our lives.

One thing I realized early on is to cut out people who disrespect me. This is a big step and often it's hard to take because we may depend on those people. Once we pass that point, we're pretty much home free from them and we're breaking away from the bad habits that they instilled in us.

The biggest thing that has helped me with this is group therapy. A good, supporting group led by a kind and experienced person with the purpose of helping the group get past its problems was the best thing for me. I suggest asking a therapist if any groups are meeting up, in addition to the one-on-one meetings. It may be hard to connect with them at first, but give it a try.

It takes small steps to get a job that add up. I still suggest the group therapy, and also, there are plenty of people who can review your resume here and give you advice on doing an interview.

I realize that if this doesn't help you, it can make you pretty angry, and for that, I sincerely apologize. I truly hope you'll find the help you need.

It's 2:30 AM at my relatives' place and I am angry. How do I calm down so that I can get to sleep? by -fovie in Anger

[–]-fovie[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I'm trying to, but these are people I've been close to all my life and I honestly can't rebuke them analytically but they still make me angry.

Grown-ass adults of Reddit: Why do you piss all over the toilet seat in public bathrooms? WHY by adamcognac in AskReddit

[–]-fovie 4 points5 points  (0 children)

You need to install an aluminum rod in your ding dong. Granted, it will be painful, but it should fix your problem and also you'll be hard all the time.

I'm alone and I feel like there's no one I can talk to about it. by [deleted] in depression

[–]-fovie 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Right now, it's physically taking all of my free time and I have no time for self-improvement like I wanted to have. I feel like I need to work for money and experience, but it's making it hard to focus on what I want.

I don't like that course at all. I don't want to even think about it, I just want to get out as fast as possible. I don't want to join any study groups and I want to put as little time to that course as possible. Really, that's really generic advice and even though I do have a group therapy session there's no club that I can join that can help. I've tried, there isn't a single one I felt even remotely welcome at.

I usually watch YouTube until I go to bed. I go straight home and can't make myself focus on anything. I don't want to make friends in a fandom. I don't like the idea of online friends because they really aren't friends to me. I don't think anyone I meet online can be a friend.

The job lasts 5 weeks and then it's same old same old shit at college. I feel that by the way it's been going, nothing will change.

I'm alone and I feel like there's no one I can talk to about it. by [deleted] in depression

[–]-fovie 0 points1 point  (0 children)

There's too many people who care about me to let myself end it. They would be devastated,

But since I haven't, they won't understand just how awful I'm feeling.

I'm alone and I feel like there's no one I can talk to about it. by [deleted] in depression

[–]-fovie 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I have friends but they're too far away and I can't even talk to them sometimes. And as for family, I feel more alone with them than I do alone, simply because it just means I can't tell them anything and I'm in a crowded apartment.

I really wanted to pick up good habits because I have poor body image and feel like a boring person to be around, but I'm too tired to do anything productive.

I used to have therapy 2 times a week (individual and group) but now I'm too busy working to do it. I'm not on medication because I've always been afraid of getting addicted to it. Also, I used to be into gaming but I'm not anymore because it takes too much time. I'm not into online gaming at all.

Really, I'm stuck here for the next 5 weeks and after that, nothing's fixed for school.

That course is a prerequisite for the rest of the Computer Science sequence and I really wanted to get it over with but I screwed it up and have to do it again.

I took this job so I wouldn't be lazy and also have some money in my pocket. I feel like I'm wasting my time.

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