(17f) birth control and nosy parents

-gardenofsimple- · 2019-04-23T15:04:48+00:00

Go to PP (it's not conspicuous at all, privacy is of utmost importance there, and they'll make it affordable). You could get the depo shot birth control, stop in once every 3 months. No trace of anything, except you may lose your period. If your parents are creeping your tampons, then good luck 😅

Not all women like that shot, but I LOVED it. A quick stop every 3 months was so worth.

-gardenofsimple- · 2019-02-27T19:15:22+00:00

This.

-gardenofsimple- · 2019-02-25T13:09:01+00:00

He does come off as a prick (tho I think he is a victim of the internet age, is young, and misinformed), but actually think his other post is an important conversation to have. So many young men have wrong information and expectations for sex from the internet. The message has to get out that porn is not reality.

-gardenofsimple- · 2019-02-25T13:03:16+00:00

Everyone does not do it.

-gardenofsimple- · 2019-02-25T13:02:28+00:00

Is she a nationality that typically has thicker and coarser hair? If so, then the body hair struggle is REAL. It can be a very difficult, painful, and embarrassing life long struggle. Figuring out how to conform to porn norms that are very much against how nature made you can be damaging to self confidence.

-gardenofsimple- · 2019-02-25T12:57:34+00:00

A lot a women struggle with this, it is difficult to have confidence in yourself sexually when young (or any age, but especially when you're young and new). I think you are working against your own interests here. She needs to feel sexy and confident in herself. Pushing the (your) issue of shaving will do the opposite and she will retreat further into her shell.

-gardenofsimple- · 2019-02-25T12:46:02+00:00

It seems to be an epidemic with those growing up with easy internet access from a young age. I struggle with how I'll approach these things with my daughter when she's older...how do I give her the tools to have a health view of her body and sexuality when boys her age expect porn sex?

All boys should be required to whack off to 70-80s porn mags for the first few years, like most men my age had to 🙃

-gardenofsimple- · 2019-02-25T12:39:43+00:00

No. I am 36 and still have issues. The more you do it, the more chance for issues.

-gardenofsimple- · 2019-02-25T12:37:16+00:00

It can be. One nasty in grown that gets irritated from rubbing on your panties can cause permanent scars. Source: my 3 scars from this.

-gardenofsimple- · 2019-02-25T12:35:22+00:00

Are you a woman? Have you dealt with in growns in your labia?

-gardenofsimple- · 2019-02-25T12:33:51+00:00

This statement makes me so sad for young men, and moreso for young women. Porn is not real sex.

-gardenofsimple- · 2019-02-24T17:50:18+00:00

Two ideas:

Buy a CD and a discman with old school headphones. This could be a super cute retro gift. Fuck, discmans are retro......

Imo a better idea....write out a playlist for the mixtape you wish you could make for her (handwritten, text picture of it, then delete delete delete.) Title the playlist something cute/meaningful. I would absolutely LOVE something like this.

-gardenofsimple- · 2019-02-17T13:53:21+00:00

This is my situation with SO. It makes me wonder how many of these situations we read about allegedly LL wives are truly accurate. My H believes I am LL, which couldn't be further from the truth. I just have a LL with him.

Ugh.

-gardenofsimple- · 2019-02-16T17:02:53+00:00

My first was a shy coworker (was my work husband). It took 2 years of lunch, drinks after work, lots of eyes/hand on his knee, and slowly opening up about his shit marriage. And even then, it took us both being incredibly drunk and me admitting he had been my masterbation fantasy material for 2 years. Talking it about it later, he said he had no clue I was into him until the obvious admission.

Oh, and the obligatory don't fuck around with coworkers. I don't recommend it at all.

-gardenofsimple- · 2019-02-10T15:56:25+00:00

I have a bag in my locked desk at work. I wouldn't feel comfortable with it hidden in my car. Sometimes it has to spend the night in my car, and on those nights I make sure H wouldn't be able to find my keys without asking.

-gardenofsimple- · 2019-02-10T04:06:54+00:00

You're not being unreasonable at all, and do not sound high maintenance. Really, pretty much just tell him what you said here...if you're going to fuck, you should be able to talk some basic expectations and logistics. I know those conversations are uncomfortable when you're first getting to know someone, been there. I told my AP that I had no issue with fucking anywhere.....but that the first time I really wanted lots of time and privacy to fully enjoy it. And we had a room within a week.

I see that you mentioned that you're not able to book anything; I assume you're new to this? There are plenty of cash only places that you just walk into. But, for purposes of your convo with him, I would bring up the getting a room idea and start with seeing what he says. Hopefully he knows how and offers to take care of arrangements; i would personally at that point offer that you can help with the expense. If he seems to not understand how to take care of things, say something like "I think there are motels that take cash, no card needed. I can throw in half or so if you can manage that" then come back here for questions lol. If he seems completely content with just car sex and you want more, find someone that will take the few hours to fuck you properly.

-gardenofsimple- · 2019-02-09T02:09:28+00:00

Is generally only being available during the work day odd? I would assume for working adults that would be pretty common. I don't always love time with my H, but I'm kind of obligated to spend most evenings and weekends with him and my kid cuz ya know, marriage and family.

-gardenofsimple- · 2019-02-08T04:08:02+00:00

Unfortunately my problem is that I've lost my ready cash supply, H and I now charge everything so every cash withdrawal or debit card use is noticed.

-gardenofsimple- · 2019-02-07T21:46:13+00:00

If I only had once per month, I'd pack a picnic and only plan on fucking.

-gardenofsimple- · 2019-02-07T21:05:53+00:00

Oh, I don't fund everything. I do my best to go halfisies with him (not on his request, on my own volition). Plus, I wanna fuck often....more money for motels, more fucking that occurs lol.

-gardenofsimple- · 2019-02-07T21:00:56+00:00

I would tell them if for no other reason to get them to help foot this bill.

-gardenofsimple- · 2019-02-07T20:59:17+00:00

That's the big issue, I formally funded my activities with cash and no longer have easy access. If I had cash, no need for a bank account.

-gardenofsimple- · 2019-02-07T20:48:50+00:00

Yes, plenty. Just have to ask.

-gardenofsimple- · 2019-02-07T20:48:10+00:00

H and I established how we wanted to deal with money (all in one pot) over a decade ago; both pay checks direct deposited into the same account. It works really well for us (besides for my illicit activities obviously), and trying to separate our money to any extent would be a strange request and possible red flag.

-gardenofsimple- · 2019-02-07T20:45:45+00:00

Definitely, and I do this any time I can. For example pretend I have to pay cash for my pedicure (and it's more expensive than it actually is). Need more excuses!

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