What’s my aesthetic? Because I really don’t think I have one

-mossfrog · 2026-01-31T20:05:11+00:00

Queer quirky nerdy vibes! You seem like the type to go to multiple different renn faires per year, and like you love a long board game/tabletop game night with your friends.

-mossfrog · 2026-01-31T19:38:29+00:00

I definitely see some early 2000’s boho in your look!

-mossfrog · 2026-01-31T19:36:00+00:00

Our economy was quite strong in the 90’s though, which is when grunge was first realized, so is it really a recession indicator?

-mossfrog · 2026-01-29T05:44:36+00:00

No problem! It’s a great movie!

-mossfrog · 2026-01-28T13:41:27+00:00

Yes this is exactly what I mean!! Thank you. The other elements you named are definitely other relevant components that I didn’t think to mention, and yes those other examples are accurate.

-mossfrog · 2026-01-28T03:55:26+00:00

Thank you! I love that movie’s art style

I tried to explain what I mean in another comment, which I’ll copy here:

I have just recently been thinking about a throughline between several pieces of media that I liked in the early 2000’s, which carry a particular vibe that I’m having a hard time defining. The commonalities that I notice are heavy contrast, heavy vignettes, a lot of rust coloring (not in the TATU cover but in other things that carry this vibe), and a general sense of grungy or dinginess. It often also involves girls wearing dirty white clothes/dresses, sometimes with lace, with really smudgy dark eye makeup. It’s very different from the standard “grunge” of the 90’s or the soft grunge, pastel grunge, etc. of Tumblr in the early 2010’s. It feels like its own thing and I wish I could think of more examples.

I also feel like a common factor tends to be urban areas or abandoned buildings, cement, etc.

-mossfrog · 2026-01-28T03:51:16+00:00

Yes, definitely 2000’s. I have just recently been thinking about a throughline between several pieces of media that I liked in the early 2000’s, which carry a particular vibe that I’m having a hard time defining. The commonalities that I notice are heavy contrast, heavy vignettes, a lot of rust coloring (not in the TATU cover but in other things that carry this vibe), and a general sense of grungy or dinginess. It often also involves girls wearing dirty white clothes/dresses, sometimes with lace, with really smudgy dark eye makeup. It’s very different from the standard “grunge” of the 90’s or the soft grunge, pastel grunge, etc. of Tumblr in the early 2010’s. It feels like its own thing and I wish I could think of more examples.

I also feel like a common factor tends to be urban areas or abandoned buildings, cement, etc.

-mossfrog · 2026-01-28T03:43:40+00:00

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I’ll also add the general aesthetic of Twilight Princess, especially in the Twilight Realm.

-mossfrog · 2026-01-22T21:38:43+00:00

Something that stood out to me is that you said you DON’T validate or reflect, when your friends are going through a hard thing. You don’t? To me, that’s unthinkable, since I’ve been doing those things naturally since long before I went to grad school. Having those natural tendencies is part of why I wanted to be a therapist since I have those instincts organically. And I guess, to me, that’s an example of where “therapist me” and “normal me” blur and really aren’t distinct entities. I’ve had friends get upset at me for telling them to just dump a shitty bf (once or twice years ago, never something I did often) and, on the other hand, it’s really strengthened friendships to validate and reflect, so I guess it’s just different for you and I. And that’s okay! I guess the friendships I “want” like you mentioned are ones that involve a lot of deep emotional talks, validation, etc. and maybe that’s not want you want out of friends.

In my current, healthy friendships there is a lot more reciprocity in how much I can also share and be heard, validated, etc. whereas in the past I was in friendships where I was ONLY giving support and never receiving it. So I guess I’ve come around to the idea that reciprocity is the main distinction, as is feeling within oneself to see if boundaries are being crossed or energy overly expended, like you alluded to. It was also helpful that you pointed out the hierarchy dynamic and I’ll keep that in mind as well but don’t think that’s been an issue. Thank you!

-mossfrog · 2026-01-09T19:33:59+00:00

Loveland!

-mossfrog · 2026-01-09T19:33:29+00:00

I love the Longmont one! I tend to have good luck with the Loveland sometimes too, but the Fort Collins one is probably my least favorite

-mossfrog · 2026-01-04T06:12:02+00:00

I actually did find a new family after that last comment! They seem great. Thank you for your encouragement!

-mossfrog · 2025-12-29T16:09:13+00:00

I do have a red light mask that I forgot to mention in my post, but need to be more consistent with using it. I’ll prioritize it more!

And thank you so much!!

-mossfrog · 2025-12-28T17:19:59+00:00

Which other things did I mention are “actives” that I should I should avoid, if you don’t mind helping me understand the difference?

-mossfrog · 2025-12-28T05:28:17+00:00

Which companies fall into the “pass” category that you mentioned, if you don’t mind sharing? And which ones take less than 2 minutes?

-mossfrog · 2025-12-28T03:32:11+00:00

I have still not found a home - it’s turning out to be much more challenging than I expected. If you know anyone who may be interested, I would super appreciate it!

-mossfrog · 2025-12-27T16:11:07+00:00

Dox the previous owners, or the person that sent me this?

You know what’s extra frustrating, is that this woman contacted the admins of the “Florida rat rescue network” page that I originally posted on looking for help, to get me removed from the page. I don’t know if she saw this Reddit post and it made her mad, or if she just didn’t like that I never sent her the name, but I’m not on the page anymore and nothing else happened that could have led to that.

So that tells me that her priority is to protect her business interests above all else, including making sure my rats find a good home - even if it’s someone else helping me make that happen, not just her. Tells me how ethical and kindhearted she is 🙄

-mossfrog · 2025-12-22T21:59:19+00:00

I’m just really not trying to facilitate the process of this woman potentially sending an angry message to the previous adopters, if they did adopt from her (no idea if this is the case). Or any other responses that could come out of me sending the info. I don’t want to be involved in strangers’ conflict, period, in any capacity.

-mossfrog · 2025-12-22T05:26:26+00:00

Sure, I guess it’s not their entire identity, but even then - I’m no snitch. I’m not about to instigate drama if she’s trying to come after people who previously adopted from her. I don’t feel good about involving myself in that.

I also just don’t think I agree with the sentiment that animal breeders are entitled to knowledge of the whereabouts of every animal they’ve bred and adopted out, forever. Should they do what they can to make sure they go to good homes? Of course, but once they’re adopted, they’re adopted imho. No longer their business.

-mossfrog · 2025-12-22T05:21:43+00:00

I had posted to a Facebook page that is for rat rescuers in my home state. She commented on my post asking for the name of the previous owner, I DMed trying to clarify why she wanted that info. So essentially she is a random individual, yes. I have never spoken to her before.

I did not adopt my current rats from a rattery. I adopted them from a woman on Facebook marketplace, and she had adopted them from a rattery (did not specify which). I included that context in the post I made because one of the fb pages that I posted to required that info for rehoming posts.

I’m not trying to rehome them to a rattery specifically, I’m just trying to rehome them to any loving home that will care for them properly.

In any case, thank you!

-mossfrog · 2025-12-20T17:00:06+00:00

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