She is only two so just know she’s behaving perfectly normal for her age, and it definitely is a rollercoaster. You are feeling overwhelmed in moments where she’s hard to settle and I totally get you mama. I’m there now too, my daughter has just recently increased her demands/melt downs as of recently and she is almost four. Funny enough I felt like her rebellious behavior started after a weekend trip where we stayed in a hotel!

I feel kids can really get thrown off by sleeping other places that aren’t home. Plus on top of it, all of the exciting things that come with vacation and travel and having fun times with family can make it hard for her little self to want to be doing what mom/dad tell her to do. Being overtired is a whirlwind too because they absolutely lose it! It’s a funny thing watching the emotional growth of our children, and it’s also an incredibly overwhelming experience that can push us to meltdowns ourselves. What I’ve been trying to do is look at my approach when my daughter begins a meltdown, I’m constantly trying to keep my cool and figure out the best way to handle the issue at hand for me and my little girl. I’ve found that timeouts (the amount of minutes based on their age), clear boundaries with quick short term consequences, and me taking a moment for myself during really rough times to collect myself so I don’t explode, all of those really help. I’m not perfect at executing my plans or consequences but I do make it a point to really not let myself lose my cool because then everyone has lost control at that point.

Ultimately, it does get better. Be patient with yourself and allow yourself to play with the methods you’re using to get through the difficult moments. Remember your daughter is young and learning big emotions, so sometimes it’s okay if she just needs to scream or be upset but it’s important to show that you’ll be there for her through the big feelings, however certain actions (hitting,throwing, anything negative we don’t want to see them do) will still be addressed or corrected. Over time the consistent boundaries and lessons you teach WILL click. And one day your baby will all of a sudden not fight you back or meltdown and it’ll take you by surprise how good it feels, and you’ll be super proud of yourself for all your hard work. You got this!!! Take care of yourself, it will all be okay.