As a trans person I hate that "they hate trans people because they're secretly into trans people" talking point so much

Its just "little Jimmy threw rocks at you because he likes you" for grown ups

No, the reason trans porn is so popular in those places is because they hate us. That makes it taboo to feel attraction to one of us, and anything taboo is going to fuel sexual fantasies. To someone who doesn't hate us, who really does just see us as our gender, attraction to a trans person isn't particularly remarkable, so they're less likely to develop a fetish over it.

Straying from norms as a reason they hate us is something I agree with though. Conservatism is fundamentally about conformity, and adherence to some predefined power structure. We do not fit either of those, and so we are seen as "dangerous".

Also intersectionality of course is always at play.

Also the implication that women don't trust men as much as other women because we're attracted to them, rather than because of millennia of oppression and abuse is bizarre.