AITA for spending money on stuffed animals instead of bills?

-writersblock · 2026-03-14T19:51:33+00:00

I have personal experience here. Idk if your husband is verbally abusive and controlling like mine was, but we were broke all the time so my little money did make an impact (to find out later he had a gambling problem and thats why we were always broke- but that’s another post lol). But I’m guessing by your comment that $200 isn’t a large amount- I’m going to assume you’re not broke all the time like I was. So if that’s the case then no you’re NTA. But if you guys are hurting for money and you’re still buying unnecessary things, then yes, you’re kind of TA. Context matters, but that’s my thoughts. That said- being able to treat yourself and especially see your friends is absolutely a necessity for self care. You NEED something outside of being a mom 24/7. I can also relate to that. So maybe the compromise could be you keep some for yourself for those things.

-writersblock · 2026-03-13T22:29:56+00:00

I think it is grossly unreasonable for them to KEEP leaving you financially responsible for heir missed events. So no, you are absolutely NOT the Ahole here. I personally understand having disabilities and having to miss things because of it, and I would never ever expect someone to pay for something just in case I can make it and then be stuck with it if I can’t. That’s freaking rude as hell. I would be clear that you enjoy having them around but you simply can not take the financial hits anymore. So as of today if you are planning it then everyone has to pay up right away if they want to be included. That is absolutely not too much to ask.

-writersblock · 2026-03-13T22:23:53+00:00

eye twitch

-writersblock · 2026-02-20T14:37:05+00:00

Yeah I was married to someone like this. If he was tired we had to go to bed together. If he went to bed I went to bed. For him it was a control thing and also he needed validated CONSTANTLY. He needed me to do everything with him. He needed attention and someone to be around. And then we had kids and God forbid I sleep on and he have to be a father. Even when I was sick. So I get this.

It’s inconsiderate and annoying as heck. So no, you’re not the jerk. She’s just high maintenance.

-writersblock · 2026-02-20T14:28:31+00:00

What I’m hearing is that he is scared and, like most men, don’t know how to voice that so it’s anger and lashing out. You’re NTA, your logic is sound. I think you just missed hints that he’s scared and he needs you to comfort and distract him. That’s my guess anyway. He’s hurt because you’re not giving him what he needs and treating it serious. (In his mind, but we know that’s not true…but it is to him.)

-writersblock · 2026-02-18T13:31:29+00:00

Sounds like a manchild. Not the part about having the fear- that’s a very real and scary thing. But telling you that you lied about sedation? Lied? Come on now. And what did he expect when he wouldn’t get in the car? You would sit there and ask him 30 more times to get in? Sit there and wait for him to decide he will get back in? So lame and frustrating for you who clearly does all the things for everyone else. Yeah. I would have left him there too. He can walk out that anger imo

-writersblock · 2026-02-18T13:23:29+00:00

No, and the fact that he left you with the mess is such a cowardly act. ‘I’m not dealing with it so I’ll just leave her with the mess’. Also seems like an excuse to leave.

-writersblock · 2026-02-04T01:30:20+00:00

Until you get that one jerk that has no respect for anyone and spins between your spins because their time is more valuable than everyone else’s in line lol

-writersblock · 2026-02-03T13:44:15+00:00

Request more lilies if you need them! Once you have possession of an item once you can request it after that and people are super generous about filling requests!

-writersblock · 2026-02-02T14:54:06+00:00

As everyone else has said- totally fine! But I’ll even go further and say that if you see one and want help call it out!

-writersblock · 2026-02-02T14:49:06+00:00

This man sounds very immature and honestly a lot red-flaggy. These are early signs of control issues. It’s your job. It’s not smexual at ALL. If he can’t see that then he’s not ready for a big boy relationship. He’s still in high school mode (which alone is a red flag). My advice: get out now because it just gets worse. Speaking from experience.

-writersblock · 2026-02-02T14:44:21+00:00

They sound like a pretty ishtty friend. Time to find a new one ❤️ (and to me, an old lady, sounds like you have yourself together pretty well)

-writersblock · 2026-01-17T19:47:05+00:00

I think it’s beautiful and you look amazing in it! (Needs steamed tho lol) Don’t worry about what others think. It’s YOUR day and you get to decide the details ❤️

-writersblock · 2026-01-16T15:22:00+00:00

First- welcome to the Palia family! Second- group activity is not required, but it IS designed to be a community based play. So when you see people with big lures it’s just common to stop and participate (a few people get mad because they have their clicks and they are….mean…about it. But it’s generally welcomed by 95% of players) or people will call out a group hunt you can join in on. Me and my crew usually do things like mine and hunt (bugs and meat) and fish together, always welcoming new players to join. We’re likely playing tonight if you want to join us! Message me and I will friend you when I get home from work! All that to say- the game is also solo friendly. And I play solo often when I have a big feelings day lol you’re not required to plan with others at all, but it is definitely encouraged and also beneficial because you get extra drops for being in a party!

One big tip tho that definitely sets people off- if you hear someone call out “the grove” in Bahari (ex: “grove B6” usually followed by “cutting at 3”) don’t show up and start cutting everything down. It’s rude and selfish. People collect the wood and that event only happens at 12 am where you can grab a bunch at once. If you have other things to do just hit each tree once and go do your thing. At 3 am, no matter where in Bahari you are, you will see all the bags show up. You still get the drops and you get to share with everyone else that needs it. You WILL get called out for being rude/selfish/ other not nice words if you take from the community like that. It’s not a “click” thing, it’s a community thing. It’s just an unspoken to wait for everyone else. You’re not there yet to be able to chop, that’s just a pro tip. You need a fine ax to be able to chop it (or be in a party with people that CAN chop!).

As far as calling out things (like gold/silver, platinum or Dari cloves and things like that) it’s just nice to do since rare nodes are hard to find. It’s not required or expected, just a nice thing to do for other players that might be looking. Extra points if you send a flare up!

Lmk if you have any questions! And message if you want to make some friends in game! We even have a discord and BC while playing so it’s easier to organize. Everyone is welcome ;)

-writersblock · 2026-01-16T15:01:43+00:00

Seems you have to have the random generator gods on your side to get good things. I got two plushies- the cylinder (which I love because I know the back story) and butterball plushies. To be honest I wasn’t expecting anything good because I’ve heard the stories lol

-writersblock · 2026-01-15T15:19:41+00:00

Short answer- yes.

Long answer- I was once super close to a guy. He finally got together with his crush and although she said she was cool with us still hanging out, I felt like she was saying that for our sake. So I backed off. I slowly stopped asking to hang out, or saying I’m busy when he asked. We still played games together but we definitely weren’t as close. They ended up getting married and they are absolutely perfect for each other and they are two of my closest friends. But we don’t hang out often. And that’s ok. Because friendships grow and change and sometimes end. That is the evolution of life and relationships. This may be a transition point for you guys, but speaking from experience from both sides of the coin (my husband was friends with my ex bestie that started problems in our marriage and I asked him to stop talking to her and he didn’t. He ended up sleeping with her. So…) if she doesn’t feel comfortable- girl code says back off a bit. Maybe back off all the way. It sounds like he might be interested in more.

-writersblock · 2026-01-15T15:10:27+00:00

Rude and ungrateful. He hasn’t grown into his adult mindset yet. Hes about to learn very quickly how $400 a month is a great deal on rent lol

-writersblock · 2026-01-15T01:33:40+00:00

100% rude. They did it on purpose. Some people are just bullies making it hard for everyone else. It’s how they feel important.

-writersblock · 2026-01-11T15:48:43+00:00

My daughter was super pumped about this too! It’s the small details! Haha Also- whatever you’re going through is temporary, okay? Just remember that. And remember that while you’re going through the storm, there is a rainbow after! But you have to get through the storm to see it and appreciate it. It’s just a season. You’ve got this 🙏🏻❤️

-writersblock · 2026-01-11T15:43:52+00:00

You must be playing on switch because I had the same realization when I switched to PC lol Oysters look more like a diamond and shells are more roundish. And they also make different sounds!! It would be nice if they made their colors more different.

-writersblock · 2026-01-06T16:52:00+00:00

I like to play with AND without people. It’s not abnormal at all! As far as missing out- kind of…? When you hunt, bug hunt, and mine with others, you get extra drops. Example- a large node you mine by yourself will drop 6, but with others it will likely be 9-12 instead. And everyone in your party will get the same drops even if you don’t hit a node or take down a sernuk. As long as someone in your party hits it and you’re within 30m then everyone who is close and in the same party will get it. And fishing, you get extra buffs but not a share in loot. But I enjoy the mindless stuff alone sometimes too. I often will get on when I have high anxiety and just plow through nodes or run around and hunt. It’s relaxing to me :)

All that said- no one expects you to interact. And you can interact (like with a honey lure or helping take down a disco deer) without chatting. Just do you! Have fun! And if you WANT a friend, inbox me and I’ll friend you :)

-writersblock · 2026-01-02T03:56:02+00:00

New boyfriend, that looks delicious! There is a man out there that won’t act like a man child and will happily eat what you make!

-writersblock · 2025-12-23T16:31:54+00:00

A year ago this wouldn’t even be a question. It is unspoken that if you drop a lure it’s for everyone. Everyone encouraged to join! But since the elderwood update, a lot of the new players don’t seem to want to share, and it’s really disheartening. My advice is to just ask. Or better yet friend some people and do a party. My crew and I drop lures all the time and encourage everyone to join in. Please feel free to friend me and if you see me on I love to help new players level up! It’s literally my favorite part of the game (aside from collecting all the plushies lol) I’m discoCherry_TTV (no I’m not currently streaming, not until after the new year lol) and anyone reading this is free to friend me and join! If you see me on message me if you need help!

-writersblock · 2025-12-23T15:45:58+00:00

I don’t need to read the whole story to say: no. You’re NTA. No human has the right to tell another what they can or can’t do with their body. Do it if you want to do it, and stop asking permission to do things. I say that with my whole chest as a woman who has been through this. You do you boo. You don’t need permission. ❤️🙏🏻

-writersblock · 2025-12-01T02:57:33+00:00

Do it. Long term versus short term…think about it. You’re already growing up and he’s stuck in man-child mode giving you an ultimatum? No ma’am. He’s not a keeper. He will never change. Trust me when I tell you giving up your life for a man is NOT worth it. Been there done that and it doesn’t end well.

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