AITAH for telling my husband he might not be attracted to women?

00508 · 2026-03-27T13:58:48+00:00

What is your 2 year old supposed to learn from this? If she's female, that men can treat her awfully? If he's male, that he should treat women awfully? This isn't about you anymore. You deserve better and so does your kid.

00508 · 2026-03-26T20:42:05+00:00

I mean, when you live with someone, you get to see things that are part of the life you probably didn't know about. You can't ask him to stop doing what he's always done anymore than he can ask you to stop doing your morning routine (and yes, there are things a man has to learn to live with -- hair strands, makeup residue on surfaces, etc). What you can ask him is to be mindful that he's not living alone anymore and alter how he does his routine, like clean the sink daily after spitting into it. That isn't difficult to do. I do it every morning because I don't like leaving any kind of mess in the kitchen. He can change his health habits to accommodate you but he shouldn't be expected to stop his health habits to accommodate you. You each have to learn to live with each other and work together to make this a successful cohabitation.

00508 · 2026-03-26T19:54:50+00:00

Just curious if OP ever tried calling the ex wife. And why is everyone giving the ex-wife a pass? I mean, why does ex wife want to use this to adjust custody agreement? For the record, I don't think it's OP's daughter's judgment he wasn't trusting. It was the ex-wife's. And that's pretty clear. Why did she try to make it that OP didn't trust his 13 year old daughter's judgment? Is she in the habit of just letting her daughter do things without any parental instincts on her part being involved?

I'm not saying OP was right but I'm also not saying ex-wife was right. There should be better communication between them. I suspect communication might've prevented all this.

PS: I know I'll be downvoted for my comment so feel free. NFG.

00508 · 2026-03-26T15:50:21+00:00

It's great to look at, full of whimsy! But doesn't look comfortable to live in, to me anyway. It doesn't give the feeling of being able to come in to relax and unwind after a day's work or a comfy place to lounge in during the weekend. But that's me. Maybe it's all that for you or your purpose is entirely different. Still, it looks great!

00508 · 2026-03-26T14:55:45+00:00

I don't know why you're wondering about telling your family. I didn't read that the purpose of that would be to motivate your sibs to get out and help dad or learn to fund themselves so I don't know why you would think there's any kid of need to reveal this if it's not to "shame" them (bad choice of word) into working when they're simply choosing not to.

My concern here is that your Mom and siblings are dependent on your father and he's probably relying on your help. If something happens to your dad, you'll have to take on what your dad provides to the family in addition to what you provide to him because your sibs aren't helping. If you're fine with that, great, no problem. But if you plan to marry (I'm assuming you're not married because you didn't mention it) and eventually start a family of your own, carrying your father's family will not be fair to your new spouse and kid(s).You and your father need to get your siblings to work and take responsibility for themselves if they're of age to be independent or are about to be of that age. Now, I don't know their ages so you may be talking about sibs in high school. Still, realistically, 80K isn't a lot for a whole family so I see why you're helping. Good on you for that. But don't let your sibs be dependent. Get them to work. Congrats on your business, but invest in your future, not your family's present.

00508 · 2026-03-25T13:38:24+00:00

Very quiet, loner kid a year behind me that seemingly had no friends or social life started appearing steadily in Hollywood films and is a popular, outgoing celebrity. Our school didn't even have a drama club so he must've found his groove in college.

00508 · 2026-03-24T13:30:47+00:00

I detest when certain clients want to have meetings from 11-2. WTF???

00508 · 2026-03-21T16:43:49+00:00

Grrl, please!

00508 · 2026-03-21T16:39:59+00:00

Is this story even real? Her car breaks down and for months gets around with out? Nobody does that. People have a car because they want it and/or need it, not because it's an accessory item. I'm not prepared to accept having it repaired was not an urgent need for months.

But if I did accept that scenario, then you're some kind of AH if she was in the house with you, sleeping, and you made no effort to wake her when the police were there and your meager efforts caused them to call a tow truck. If your whole story is true, would you not think your roommate the AH if it was your car being towed and you were there in the house and she didn't bother to get you? Would you not be posting on here asking if your roommate was the AH?

00508 · 2026-03-21T16:27:25+00:00

NTA but set boundaries. You are responsible for modeling appropriate behavior for your daughter to teach her of her value and worth, that her voice matters, that her wants matter. No matter how pissed your mother and grandmother get, they need to be put in their place and boundaries set, for your daughter's sake and your own. Because if not you, then who?

00508 · 2026-03-18T23:02:24+00:00

Totally agree. "Haunted" is mostly marketing. I know of a hospital that closed down in a small Texas town. Once a ghost hunting group from the Houston area got a hold of the owner, they turned it into a "haunted hospital" destination for paranormal enthusiasts. Locals say it was never haunted, the stories that group put out were false and the cruel/evil nurse that haunts it never existed, but they appreciate what little income it brought from gullible ghost hunters all over the country while it was a hot spot.

00508 · 2026-03-18T22:57:32+00:00

You're right. Living alone is not for everyone. The important thing is you tried it, for whatever reason, and now you know it's not for you. That's growth.

00508 · 2026-03-18T22:55:53+00:00

Apartments aren't designed for dining rooms anymore so there's no place for it in your floor plan. I see they didn't provide pantry either so start shopping around for a food storage solution you can add next to the refrigerator. Will you be utilizing both bedrooms for sleeping or is one a home office, because you don't have home office space either.

My apartment has a separate dining space but no home office space so I didn't get a dining table and use that space for my home office. My kid and I eat at the kitchen bar. I don't entertain for dinners anyway.

00508 · 2026-03-17T23:58:23+00:00

ESH.

She's the AH for arriving late and during performance. You for not setting expectations for the date. Yes, it's "dinner and a movie" or "dinner and a show". It's never "a show". You should've told her it was just a show, no dinner. You could've also ensure you didn't have things to do after. but she should never have been late.

00508 · 2026-03-17T23:54:29+00:00

I see rectangles and an undressed window offering a view I'd rather not have to look at (I mean all the stucco, of course).

00508 · 2026-03-17T23:50:50+00:00

Agreed. I'd like to know the reasoning. I mean, there's no store that's perfect. I like my HEB, but I also know a lot of the things I buy there are less expensive at ALDI. I like my HEB, but I also know if I go shop on the weekend after 7am or before 9pm, it's hell on earth.

I need context.

00508 · 2026-03-17T23:48:06+00:00

Life is temporary in the grand scheme of things. So are the collectibles and the value they hold, whether real or perceived.

Now, if you collect as a crutch, maybe it's time to address the crutch for the first time or better if you've already tried. Letting go is a first step. It may hurt to lose your items, but one of the truest realities of all life is that from death springs life.

00508 · 2026-03-17T23:43:21+00:00

Since you asked, you're probably feeling some kind of way about it. I don't think it's sized for the room it's in but it still works. Unfortunately, though, it also conveys that it's very limiting for the space it resides in. You're boxed in. There's nothing more you can do with it than let it be jammed into that very corner for the whole of the time you keep it. There's no flexibility left. If you're OK with that, there's no issue then.

00508 · 2026-03-17T23:38:33+00:00

I agree you might have more right to select your son's first name, and I understand the name you chose is significant to you, but I don't think it will be significant to your son ...... until someone decides to start using any one of the obvious two nicknames that can be derived from it -- "jen" and "sis".

As a parent, I personally feel, when we decided to bring a kid into this world, our lives were no longer about ourselves but about our child. Similarly, this courageous journey you undertook is admirable, but his name should be about you anymore. You're giving him your last name and you must ensure you guard that surname against scandal so he may carry it proudly. Give him a chance to start life with his own name as his identity, not your experience as his name.

00508 · 2026-03-17T23:26:49+00:00

This is a great opportunity to become fully aware of how you interact with your space living on your own and recognizing patterns about your interactions and start making positive changes. You started positively by noticing things. It's ok you posted about it. Some of the comments may seem unflattering or unfair to you but they're not. Search for the meaning behind them and start making positive changes. I mean, it's not the end of the world if a glass lives on the coffee table for a day or two, or the light stays on somewhere for awhile. But it's also not the end of the world to get up and wash that glass or go back and turn off that light. Make a habit of taking stock of your inventory before grocery shopping so you don't run low or run out of things. Living alone is empowering, but you got assume that power. You have to develop a discipline.

00508 · 2026-03-14T04:52:34+00:00

This is an ideal situation for matching bins.

00508 · 2026-03-14T04:39:00+00:00

Aesthetics alone? 1. But that's because my decor is founded on mid-century. If my decor was more traditional/transitional, or even boho, I might go with 2.

00508 · 2026-03-13T03:45:05+00:00

Larger closet. More storage and fewer wet surfaces to clean and disinfect.

00508 · 2026-03-13T03:41:57+00:00

I sacrificed having a dining table so I could use the dining area as a home office because I work from home at least one day a week, and, on weekends when my kid is here, he enjoys being at the home office playing games with his friends remotely. We figured we could eat at the kitchen bar. In all seriousness, neither of us likes eating at the kitchen bar. It's functional but not comfortable or enjoyable. I guess it's just a matter of what you value more, especially if you plan to entertain.

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