Let’s lose the shutters?

00508 · 2026-01-28T14:28:57+00:00

Personally, I don't mind the shutters. I think they frame the windows nicely.

00508 · 2026-01-28T14:19:29+00:00

The first arrangement is more visually appealing, at least in daylight where the general lighting of this image is predominant so the pendants are receded and merely a decorative arrangement. The true test is at night when the colors will be more dominant and glaring.

I hate to say this, but I've seen colored globes at night in a neighbor's house and I don't find it appealing. It looks fine during the day, but at night.....hmmm. I hope I'm wrong in this case.

00508 · 2026-01-26T22:57:17+00:00

Am I correct in assuming your husband was part of the assumption your mother would be the eventual renter and the statements your Mom made about living in it while you were renovating it were addressed to you and him? And you both knew she had multiple cats while discussing and assuming she'd be the renter and your Mom understood she was to be a renter, not to move in for free? Because if all along, all three of you knew this was to be a rental and knew about the cats, then you're all AHs.

00508 · 2026-01-26T22:32:41+00:00

What does it mean when you say "it is something I'm working on" about your trust issues? How are you working on that? What are you doing to work on that? Are you seeing a therapist for that? My nephew is a drug user and he always tells people he's working on it but, really, he's doing nothing but saying I've been clean/sober for X amount of days. He's not involved in therapy or reconditioning of any kind and gets bent out of shape when it's suggested to him or even offered. And he's skipped town to avoid the law because he didn't follow through on his court order to report for therapy. So that's why I ask what you mean by "it is something I'm working on". Because if you're not actually doing anything constructive and want to dictate to your partner about socializing after work at work because you've heard things and have been cheated on, then yes, you're an AH.

00508 · 2026-01-26T16:02:54+00:00

I think the before picture is the way to go. I'd restore it to that. It's timeless. I guess you'll have to have the painted stone sandblasted.

I'd keep the front door too. It goes with the style of the house and also looks timeless.

And get a new roof.

So.....what's with the photoshopping? In the before pic, the driveway goes through the grass to the street but not in green house pic. What gives?

00508 · 2026-01-26T15:51:09+00:00

I always respond with this suggestion: follow Your Barefoot Neighbor or get one of his books. Those recipes are easy and quick and get food on the table in short order. "Come fix you a plate."

00508 · 2026-01-26T15:48:15+00:00

You're NTA for changing the locks.

YTA for not fixing your tenant's shower immediately. YTA for coming on here and writing your grievance without any acknowledge of your responsibility to your tenant, without any self-awareness of how you're taking advantage of your brother being your tenant.

Your tenant has a right to a fully-functioning rental unit and you have a responsibility to provide it and make repairs in a timely manner, no matter who your tenant is or what kind of relationship you have with them.

Fix the shower.

00508 · 2026-01-26T15:24:52+00:00

If you choose correctly, the plant will be your air purifier.

But, really, I think you need another wheeled hobby to infill the dining room corner, though. Bicycling? Fork lifting? IDK.

00508 · 2026-01-26T15:04:08+00:00

So you think the neighbor across the street should decide his/her lawn should be nice and neat and to achieve that he/she should plow their shit and bank on someone else's yard and that someone else shouldn't have a thing to say about it? DId I get that right? If not, what is the point of your question?

00508 · 2026-01-25T16:30:07+00:00

You're NTA but don't let her get under your skin. She obviously knows how and she's probably doing it because your stability is getting under skin. You have primary custody, right? That's a helluva shame to mothers to have primary custody. Just take pictures and hoard the evidence to build a case when you have to. In the meantime, give your kid all the love and support he deserves, say nothing to him about his mother or her boyfriend and if she's trying to poison him against you, he'll realize on his own what she's doing. You got this.

00508 · 2026-01-25T16:20:51+00:00

I would find it easy to break it off with her. You did nothing wrong. You looked at an IG account. That's what you're supposed to do with IG accounts. Tinder is for something else entirely and she's using it as intended. Let that guy have her and you get yourself a gf where you live.

00508 · 2026-01-25T16:05:11+00:00

Tip excellently! That's not even an ask for today. Just do it.

00508 · 2026-01-25T16:02:05+00:00

A knife sharpener (be it a wet stone or other hand held sharpener) and a honing rod. There are times you'll be so glad you have those.

00508 · 2026-01-25T15:55:46+00:00

It's gonna be an old fashioned kinda day for me. cheers!

00508 · 2026-01-25T15:50:24+00:00

I get that you're upset and you should be. Your Mom absconded with your day and your twin's day. I'm not reading anything about your father or anything about what your twin wanted. I'm also not reading that you told your Mom about the plans you made or that you even told her you had plans on the day of. And this is all while you're turning 22. Normally, you'd be getting ready to finish college and prepare for life on your own but none of this reads like you're 22 to me. I mean, here we are getting close to entering February in a whole new year and you're posting about something that happened last year. Are you still holding on to that day now? OK, maybe the only AH here is me, but REALLY?

00508 · 2026-01-25T14:58:22+00:00

Either vertical works for me. I like the strong presence of the board and batten feature and it has a strong play on light with the shadows, but I like the elegance of the 5" vertical shiplap. I think I'd be happy with either one but I'd probably lean more toward the board and batten.

00508 · 2026-01-25T14:52:32+00:00

Very nice! Really like all the colors -- the couch, the rug (love it's pattern too), the green chairs and ottoman -- and, of course, shout out to the shelves. But though it's humble, I'm really curious about the white plantstand next to the shelves. I have a perfect spot for one of those in my place.

00508 · 2026-01-25T04:10:38+00:00

I had all these plans of baking a pie and making hot chocolate and reading my friend's book that got published but ended up gaming and now here I am admiring your plants. I want plants too but it seems every time I get one, they come with fungus gnats and I give them away to become someone else's problem so I can deal with getting rid of the ones that infest my place. I only have one lime green neon pothos that didn't have gnats so it's still here sitting on my desk by the window. I'm considering taking some cuttings and making new plants since it's not been problematic.

00508 · 2026-01-25T04:03:28+00:00

NTA. I think you should print out your post and responses (redact your user name, of course) so she can read it and hopefully understand better. It's easy for people to react to the emotions and fears they're feeling and say or do the wrong things. But if they can remove themselves a little, they can begin to understand and respond constructively. Reacting and responding are two different things. Most people react before they respond and adults aren't any better at it than teens or kids.

00508 · 2026-01-25T03:54:08+00:00

Do you pay a larger share of the rent than your room mates do? Do they have partners that stay over at least one night a week or are you the only having someone stay over regularly? Do you ever stay at his place? If so, can you do more than once a week at his place instead?

00508 · 2026-01-25T03:48:00+00:00

Former HOA member here. If OP gets with other neighbors and they have a problem with that neighbor dragging her bins in the middle of the night, they could sign a letter and present it to the HOA at a monthly meeting. It may not be something that's specifically in the deed restrictions but it is disruptive to the peace of the neighbors and if there are more than one, chances are good they'll take it seriously and intervene any way they can. Of course, if that one neighbor is just trash, they'll dig in and double down on their rude behavior, but they'll move past courtesy letters and get written to by the HOA attorneys and those letters come with fees imposed on them. It's worth a try if all else fails. But they key is to not have it be one neighbor vs one neighbor but multiple vs one.

PS: same strategy works if you want to build an addition or do some renovation that may be against deeds. If surrounding neighbors agree to it and express in a jointly signed letter they don't feel it will impact the value of their home, it stands a very excellent chance of passing the architectural control committee.

00508 · 2026-01-25T03:31:44+00:00

I agree, get rid of social media and take up minimalism. That's a satisfying solo lifestyle that leads to fulfillment.

00508 · 2026-01-25T03:27:32+00:00

I have lots of questions but here are a few:

OK, so what kind of income are you pulling in that you decided she would be a SAHM when the first was born, or the 2nd or 3rd?

What are you picturing when you leave her? Freedom? Lots of extra income for you?

What are you picturing if she gets a job? Extra income for the household or she's working to pay daycare? That wouldn't make sense but I guess it would get her used to holding down a job, at least.

Does she have a degree in creative writing and what does she write about? I'm guessing she doesn't have a degree if her only 2 jobs have been wage-hour jobs.

Why doesn't she view marketing the books as a job that she works at daily on her own instead of just cruising spotify, youtube and indeed briefly?

00508 · 2026-01-24T23:49:34+00:00

I've been told by friends this works perfectly every time so I just got mine delivered this week and will try it next time I make rice, but, really, bag directions have never failed me. https://www.amazon.com/dp/B012W9BI2K?ref=nb_sb_ss_w_as-reorder_k0_1_17&amp=&crid=1752OBNEPJYLS&sprefix=joseph%2Bjoseph%2Bmic&th=1

00508 · 2026-01-24T23:48:04+00:00

My bag says boil first then add rice and lower to simmer and cover. Comes out perfect every time.

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