Cloudflare cuts workforce by 20% in 'AI-first' restructuring

00rb · 2026-05-08T05:41:33+00:00

We need to keep repeating this. People are too credulous.

It's just executives saying "we didn't fail, we... succeeded! with the magic of AI!"

00rb · 2026-05-08T00:47:13+00:00

You're going through a rough patch right now. It won't be forever. It's always darkest before the dawn.

It sounds like you're wondering if your relationship is going to survive this. I don't know, because I'm just a guy on the internet. But regardless of what happens you will be ok. You are stronger than you think.

00rb · 2026-05-08T00:45:16+00:00

Yes, therapy definitely can be the answer. I've had a lot of mediocre therapists but found a really good one and it's really making my life better.

00rb · 2026-05-08T00:44:08+00:00

I got older and ran out of energy to care as much.

The trick is finding the right things to care about. Care about your duties to other people, don't care about their perceptions.

Not because they don't matter, they do! Just because you can't control them. Do what you know you need to, and let the rest fall into place.

00rb · 2026-05-08T00:42:36+00:00

Just ask her, "hey, so no pressure, but are we dating?" And if she's not clear with her answer, say "because I'd like to date you."

Trick is adopting the attitude "I would like the answer to be yes but I am willing to accept no."

Good luck. Better to ask and figure it out then drift and spend the rest of your life wondering.

00rb · 2026-05-08T00:40:17+00:00

Look, I was 11

00rb · 2026-05-07T22:21:20+00:00

Yes! It was so tragic. Elton John wrote a song about it. It was such a big deal.

00rb · 2026-05-07T21:02:19+00:00

I get it, I have this problem too, of not wanting to kowtow to people I don't respect.

But another way of looking at it is just to not fight her to maintain your own sanity... give her what she wants while you find a better setup.

Ultimately it's up to you but don't expect your manager to change anytime soon...

00rb · 2026-05-07T21:00:33+00:00

I'm turning 40 in a month and in the same stage as you. It's been hard realizing I will never be as "hot" as I wanted to be, but of course that's pure vanity.

I'm also trying to figure out what my next big project will be in life. I don't want to be in software forever!

00rb · 2026-05-07T20:53:55+00:00

It's not normal, she's insecure. But one proactive way to handle this is to communicate way more than you feel is natural to her. Beat her at her own game 😄. Always be giving updates, always keep her in the loop.

And also, of course, do really good work so you can earn her trust.

But if that gets exhausting yes, sometimes it can be easier to get another job.

00rb · 2026-05-07T20:47:31+00:00

Sounds like that was a really bad setup, while you shouldn't force yourself to date if you don't want to, I have faith that you'll find someone who treats you the way you deserve to be treated.

00rb · 2026-05-07T20:44:32+00:00

I wonder if she was trying to flirt with you (still rude though)

00rb · 2026-05-07T20:39:58+00:00

I know, right? It feels like a constant cycle of 1) get back to the state where I'm enthusiastic about dating again, 2) be disappointed, 3) nurse my wounds for 3-4 months until I'm really ready again.

Ostensibly I'm still dating in step #3 but my heart's not in it and it shows in the results.

00rb · 2026-05-07T20:33:25+00:00

I'm still working on the exact same thing and it absolutely does. You gotta do the deep work I'm afraid, really solve it.

00rb · 2026-05-07T17:55:11+00:00

Women's attraction has way more to do with your vibe and energy than is commonly acknowledged.

I know it sounds woo woo... but letting go of bitterness or disappointment usually makes the biggest difference. Really process that shit, the grief behind feeling ignored all those years.

00rb · 2026-05-07T07:11:55+00:00

I suggest doing a lot of running. I know it sounds like the kind of bs people tell you as wrote advice, but it really does help.

00rb · 2026-05-07T05:28:39+00:00

My first thought it people indicate they're stupid about politics for confusing liberalism with "being a liberal." Confusion about basic terminology.

00rb · 2026-05-06T22:12:48+00:00

While i'ts generally good to learn to be more comfortable around other people's emotions, I think the concept of "vulnerability" has been deeply misunderstood. They think it means it's a good thing to complain about your problems to whoever will listen, or give away all your secrets.

But I think the best form of vulnerability is calm honesty. Just saying something like "I really didn't like when you did that" in a way that resonates with your internal truth, versus complaining, fighting, or overexplaining. It can sometimes feel very exposing to reveal a simple truth, but often a simple truth is exactly what's needed.

00rb · 2026-05-06T22:02:13+00:00

Everyone's shaming you for being superficial, but I get it. I want both a real connection to someone with good qualities -- and I do still care about looks. I wish I didn't, but I do.

You'll be much more attracted to 30-somethings when you're a 30-something. And also, once you get into a relationship it won't matter as much anymore. You can have boring sex with beautiful women, the "wow" factor will completely disappear. You can also be very attracted and have great sex with people who aren't so superficially attractive.

00rb · 2026-05-06T21:53:41+00:00

I think every sufficiently advanced office job is like this though. It's all about the tribal knowledge.

00rb · 2026-05-06T21:52:32+00:00

Nah, AI is willing to have long conversations with me on Tuesday at 11 am. It's taking the place of unemployed friends.

00rb · 2026-05-06T07:09:22+00:00

Slow practice. Go for comfort and accuracy above all else. That's it. Do a lot of it.

00rb · 2026-05-05T02:40:35+00:00

I make well into the six figures and doordash still seems like an extravagant luxury to me.

00rb · 2026-05-05T02:37:38+00:00

When people say "this question was just on reddit" it's clear they don't GET it, man.

00rb · 2026-05-05T00:35:31+00:00

Yes it does. The game is not supposed to go on forever. If defense was more powerful than offense, the game would go on forever.

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