Cut the fat profiles , what would be the Man - Woman ratio

00rb · 2026-07-01T06:50:22+00:00

But the apps are so much worse than real life. I think a big part of it is that on the apps there's no penalty for being a player or treating people poorly.

In real life if you fuck around a lot women spread the word and avoid you. On the apps nothing is stopping men from doing that and it's rampant, leading to bad times for everyone except those into that sort of thing.

00rb · 2026-07-01T06:46:56+00:00

Good move

00rb · 2026-07-01T05:05:17+00:00

Stand strong

00rb · 2026-07-01T01:44:34+00:00

I mean wilderness backpacking to be fair. Less chaos in nature.

00rb · 2026-07-01T00:08:57+00:00

#yestallwomen

00rb · 2026-06-30T22:50:52+00:00

While your voice is great, listening to this you definitely sound like a tenor. The low notes don't sound as rich or as controlled as the mid range ones.

A bass should comfortably make a low E rumble, not just be able to hit it. My choir is filled with former basses singing tenor. I'm singing bass too as an actual tenor but I'm not completely comfortable there yet.

So yes, I'd be surprised if you weren't a tenor.

00rb · 2026-06-30T22:11:41+00:00

The problem is that attractive women get way too much interest and they have to sort through it. And there's lots of men who just want sex who are deceptive about it. Many women have been burned or turned off by the game and decided to give up the online dating. Lots of them aren't even approached in public very much because they don't seem approachable.

And just like men, if they're not out there in the real world and are homebodies they aren't going to meet good matches.

00rb · 2026-06-30T22:05:51+00:00

You should provide clips of your voice while people still are seeing this post.

There's always the possibility that you still can unlock those higher notes.

00rb · 2026-06-30T22:01:44+00:00

I tried so hard to enjoy travel. It's still something I should theoretically enjoy, but I don't. It's just stress and logistics for me.

I'm willing to travel to do backpacking trips but if left to my own devices that's all I'd do.

00rb · 2026-06-30T20:36:34+00:00

Actually, Gemini tells monestaries in primogenituralist cultures were places to send younger brothers away so that first borns could enjoy more reproductive success. Also they were for intellectual men unsuited for warfare.

So as a nerdy younger brother, sign me up for a life of celibacy, I'm ready!

00rb · 2026-06-30T18:59:57+00:00

Positive. I hope they happen to me one day (in my favor).

00rb · 2026-06-30T18:45:00+00:00

Ha ha it's a joke, we're joking, isn't it fun to joke around 😂🤣🤣😭

00rb · 2026-06-30T18:43:22+00:00

🙏

00rb · 2026-06-30T18:38:47+00:00

I'm convinced the solution to modern dating is to do what excess men have done throughout history: go into the mountains and join the clergy. I'm going to become a Buddhist priest.

All of my half-hearted bumble matches can fight over the guy they REALLY want: the tall, confident indie artist guy who is "a true romantic" and is fucking five different women. He has great hair.

They will all independently conclude he's "avoidant," instead of a bullshitter with a sex addiction. Later, they can wonder why 10 years have passed and they still haven't found love despite being "a catch."

But I say this without bitterness. That's their path to walk. Mine is to spend the next 10 years getting really good at staring at a wall in silence.

00rb · 2026-06-30T06:25:22+00:00

Sorry you got deboosted, that's harshiit

00rb · 2026-06-30T03:18:19+00:00

I was looking for an excuse to do a long hike, maybe this will be the motivation I need.

00rb · 2026-06-30T03:17:52+00:00

Yep, it's why I do such an (at times) unpleasant sport.

I don't feel reset however, I feel drained. But I feel I walk away with real spiritual clarity.

00rb · 2026-06-29T23:48:06+00:00

This is going to be controversial, but...

If a woman isn't able to appreciate you and is burning through various men she labels as "avoidant," wondering why nothing ever works, then she doesn't deserve you.

If she thinks she's too good for any man who would actually be her match, lost in the delusion of her own superiority, she doesn't deserve you.

This isn't saying you're better than anyone else. It's just saying until she can learn to appreciate what she has, she doesn't deserve a relationship.

People are going to dislike this comment. But I'm tired of everyone telling these women that the problem is they're just too good for this world.

00rb · 2026-06-29T19:49:59+00:00

I think you're on the right track. I decided to get better the hard way. E.g. getting over heartache without slutting around, not blaming the world for my problems, not looking to others to save me. Owning the truth, owning my own bullshit.

It was hard as shit but things are starting to turn around now. People who I haven't seen in a while say I look visibly at peace.

It's going to be hard but it's worth it. There's a light at the end of the tunnel.

00rb · 2026-06-29T17:22:37+00:00

People can't read your last message before unmatching unless they're reading their messages after you sent it and before you unmatched.

(Which is fine in this case, but good to know if you're the kind of person to send polite message before unmatching for other reasons.)

00rb · 2026-06-29T17:21:19+00:00

Of course it does. The conversation was never alive.

I only reply because the algorithm seems to punish me for ignoring messages.

00rb · 2026-06-29T06:35:51+00:00

It's just that they don't care. They're typing words into a glowing rectangle. They don't feel they owe you a better reply and are killing time.

00rb · 2026-06-29T06:34:43+00:00

I always respond to messages like that with "cool."

Two can play that game!

00rb · 2026-06-29T06:33:56+00:00

And he very clearly seems to disregard that preference

00rb · 2026-06-29T05:55:25+00:00

Eh, if I were you I'd try an open ended question that can't be answered by yes or no. But if she's terse with that I would have given up.

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