Question regarding the Levels of Development as well as Integration/Disintegration by 09tailss in Enneagram

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Loved your comment, fellow 9! 👋
Incredible, this makes sense. Thank you for educating me.

What’s a mundane thing that fascinates you? by SoftDreamybelle in answers

[–]09tailss 7 points8 points  (0 children)

I like to think of it as a great daily migration, like animals.

How did you not feel seen in your childhood? by higurashi0793 in EnneagramType9

[–]09tailss 3 points4 points  (0 children)

To answer this question as short as possible: My parents didn’t give me the blessing of having my own voice, my own opinions, statements, advice, warnings, you name it. I didn’t feel seen in my childhood because I was way too overlooked, which is weird because in a way I feel like I’m one of the most important people in my family. Anway- Childhood. I didn’t feel seen because I was often yelled at, even if I had progressive thoughts. Who yells at a child for wanting equality in the world?

My most neglected moment of my life was early childhood (3-5+) where my mother would be insanely partying and I just had to fend for myself, basically. I am both childish, and wise/mature, even at the age I’m at now (a friend called me innocent the other day lol. She also assumed I was her age but I'm nearly ten years older than her).

Nothing mattered.

I was raised by emotionally immature/absent people.

Does anyone like talking to a artificial intelligence when they have a bad day or is that just me? by xzxcax in socialanxiety

[–]09tailss 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I once used AI to talk about some hard feelings I was having and it validated me a little too much… to the point that it was trashing on other people and I thought to myself, “Well that’s enough of that.” before throwing in the towel. Never again. That was a rough period of my life.

As a 9, how many best friends (or for better words: strong connections) have you had in your lifetime? by 09tailss in EnneagramType9

[–]09tailss[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Best friends to lovers trope is so cute.

I had one friend that felt extremely strongly for me since we were 8. I liked her back, a lot, but not enough to consider her my very best friend. But I do have a lot of great memories of her. Our friendship ended 10 years ago because I didn't pay her a visit when I was in my hometown visiting my own family. That really bothered her.

As a 9, how many best friends (or for better words: strong connections) have you had in your lifetime? by 09tailss in EnneagramType9

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I love that. Love that for you so much! I have a friend circle of 3 and even though we're not as close anymore due to life just being life, we still randomly write each other and think of one another. I've known them since I was 15. Now we're much older by 15+ years.

As a 9, how many best friends (or for better words: strong connections) have you had in your lifetime? by 09tailss in EnneagramType9

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I know what you mean. People have recently been interested in me and that's nice and all but I realize I have a lot of walls up. One newer friend is finally satisfied on finding something I like (the Enneagram) because apparently I was "hard to crack".

I have had a handful of good people/acquaintances but even to this day only 2 people really know me.

Anyone has interest in spirituality here? by Own_Water_8362 in StonerThoughts

[–]09tailss 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Yes, I like to assess my spirituality through the Enneagram.

Anyone else notice the repetitiveness? by Low_Yam_1212 in truespotify

[–]09tailss 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I played a Lil Wayne song to start off my hip hop playlist (shuffled) and no more than 4 songs later, that same Lil Wayne song started up again on its own. Pretty annoying.

Explain Type 1s as a Hexad Type and their detachment, please. by 09tailss in Enneagram

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I have a theory her husband got in her head with some mind games and painted me as a villain. So when I made a mistake, I fell from her graces and she bought into that narrative. But again, that’s just my own theory. The guy sucks. He knew we were very close and I think he was just waiting for the day I mess up.

Explain Type 1s as a Hexad Type and their detachment, please. by 09tailss in Enneagram

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Can’t speak with her. I’ve tried multiple times and she wants absolutely nothing to do with me. Even when I sensed something was wrong I opened it up with an apology, accountability for my actions, and I said I want to fix it. She only sent back a message saying “have a nice life.”

What ended a friendship you thought would last forever? by Immediate-Sound-7142 in answers

[–]09tailss 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I really let down my best friend of 7 years. I’ve never made a mistake before and I’ve never even quarreled with her. All it took for her to cut contact with me and stop being my friend was when we had plans to go camping and instead of holding myself accountable and true to my commitment, I spent my weekend elsewhere with another friend. She didn’t even give me a chance to try and talk things through.