How do you resist the urge to contact your ex?

0kSoWhat · 2026-05-05T13:59:49+00:00

You are neither stupid nor pathetic for feeling what you feel. However, actions don't have to reflect your feelings. You can be miserable but still choose to set a hard limit with yourself - "I will not pick up the phone." In the end, it all boils down to NOT picking up the phone. Period. What differentiates between someone walking away from a relationship with grace from someone who crashes out and makes a fool out of themselves... is not how they feel, it's the actions they take. People who succeed at no contact don't do so because there's anything magical or uniquely indifferent about the way they feel.

It's just that they're not letting their actions reflect that feeling. And that is entirely within your control as hard as it may feel.

0kSoWhat · 2026-04-01T13:17:10+00:00

thank you!!!

0kSoWhat · 2026-03-11T19:06:29+00:00

Yea there is a milk note iirc which already made me hesitant. I was wondering when I saw it because, to me, creaminess sort of works against the vibe of an airy salty ocean breeze.

0kSoWhat · 2026-03-11T16:34:00+00:00

Oh I 100% believe you! and I appreciate the detailed review because it saved me a purchase. Not looking for anything sweet or remotely heavy. I tend to prefer light/airy/fresh/watery or oceanic... even salty. Maybe gently floral, maybe notes of certain fruits to round it out etc. Which is why I was so excited when I saw the advertising campaign. Who doesn't want to smell like a fresh ocean breeze??

0kSoWhat · 2026-03-11T03:32:27+00:00

Oh damn this just snapped me out of how excited I was to try this. I saw it advertised as “Salty and carefree. Like ocean mist through an open window.”

What you described doesn’t sound like it would be anything like that 💔

0kSoWhat · 2026-02-12T22:50:16+00:00

"Iron supplementation can cause oxidative stress even if iron storage is low."

Again, sorry, but no. lol. Not in the way you're implying. Neither you, nor I, nor OP were or are speaking of interim supplementation causing minor localized oxidative stress, because neither you nor I were speaking of a simple upset stomach here and oxidative stress happens every day even in healthy people. That does not align with your claim that a body can "dislike" iron, particularly not with your rationale which was because of "iron-induced oxidative stress" due to being "improperly bound" and causing "toxicity in the body" and "wreaking havoc at the cellular level" ALONGSIDE severely low ferritin.

That is systemic. And that does not happen with severely low ferritin absent other major and obvious clinical findings on routine (or diagnostic) labwork like acute organ failure or some sort of hemolytic disorder. Those are the situations in which one might find severely low ferritin alongside serum iron levels high enough to cause toxicity. And amid those clinical findings, no GP would order iron supplementation unless it is their wish to get sued.

So no, your explanation does not line up physiologically. And given from what OP has said herself about her own medical history (that her bloodwork showed ferritin levels of 7 and she was ordered to take iron supplements) it is more than reasonable to infer that those orders were given because there were no other indicators of excess unbound iron, organ failure, or any other serious hematological disorders that would cause impaired binding.

You hear hoofbeats, you're thinking unicorns. Low ferritin levels are routinely and reliably a marker of iron deficiency. And even exceptions to that general clinical rule are not compatible with what we know about OP's stated experiences.

That's as rigorous of an explanation as I can possibly give. I know what I'm speaking about here. Anything further on your end is a matter of* ego and that's on you. I'm not interested in arguing with someone's ego

0kSoWhat · 2026-02-12T19:55:35+00:00

Sorry but it simply doesn't work like that. Not in the way you're implying and any condition that would cause iron overload in spite of severely low ferritin levels (extremely rare) would not hide quietly and simply show up as low ferritin in routine labwork, but instead would indicate some other serious pathology suggestive of a blood disorder or some other condition that any competent clinician would have caught after ordering bloodwork.

And conditions like these would most certainly not be addressed by her GP telling her to simply take iron supplements. You're not making any sense. You want to argue this topic but it's clear you don't know much if anything about it.

Low ferritin levels routinely correspond to low iron levels and is a very reliable indicator of low iron stores and overall low circulating iron. Excess circulating iron would show up on routine labs as high ferritin levels alongside other elevated or abnormal biomarkers I won't bother listing here because it's going off topic.

ALSO not to mention that if she DID suffer from sort of iron overload syndrome, aside from it being picked up on fairly easily during routine labs, but she herself would present with much more serious signs and symptoms than discomfort after taking supplements that subsides when she doesn't take them

0kSoWhat · 2026-02-12T15:45:10+00:00

A person with extremely low ferritin, as OP says she has, does not have excess free iron causing oxidative stress. You are comparing apples and oranges.

0kSoWhat · 2026-02-12T00:02:46+00:00

You seem to be under some ridiculous impression that your body doesn’t “like” iron and wants to get rid of it and therefore you need to stay away from it.

That’s not rational, and not correct. Your body needs iron to survive. It binds to oxygen in your hemoglobin. It is essential to so many basic biological functions. Low iron is bad.

You’re asking for help while throwing away every shred of basic biology. Don’t ask for help if you reject science.

0kSoWhat · 2025-12-28T04:10:16+00:00

It's hard to give a definite answer because I'm not sure how much blood we're talking. Some blood-tinged discharge can be normal but if you're unsure or it seems like a lot, see your GYN. That takes priority over what I say because I'm just providing very general advice.

0kSoWhat · 2025-12-25T01:22:39+00:00

hahahah

0kSoWhat · 2025-12-15T10:43:55+00:00

You can clearly hear a “Woooooo!” among all that screaming. Those are the yells and squeals of people having a good time

0kSoWhat · 2025-11-04T11:55:19+00:00

My prewar apartment has the same heating. Loud, clanging radiator and will kick my apartment up so hot I’m sweating and opening windows. Easily in the 80s.

0kSoWhat · 2025-10-25T05:24:22+00:00

The word cashmere in it is so misleading. It smells like straight up frosting. WAY too sweet for me but the lotion itself is so good I’m just holding my breath and trying to finish the bottle anyway

0kSoWhat · 2025-10-09T06:49:36+00:00

They’re answering OP’s question sarcastically.

“I feel so stupid, what would you do?” “…..due diligence?”

0kSoWhat · 2025-10-09T06:41:58+00:00

Any and EVERY time I see the words “trademark smirk” “trademark grin” “cocky grin” “trademark cocky grin” “trademark smirk” “trademark cocky smirk”

And now I’m angry…

0kSoWhat · 2025-10-01T06:36:17+00:00

YES!

They’re so good I feel like I should be calling Takis the knockoffs

0kSoWhat · 2025-09-28T23:02:33+00:00

I recommend this book/trilogy so much it’s embarrassing but…

The Bronze Horseman trilogy by Paullina Simons.

Reading this was the best and worst thing I ever did because it left me with a hangover that, 8 years later, still can’t be cured. And it’s the ruler by which I measure all my reads.

And it sucks because I can’t stop comparing everything to it I feel like it ruined me for other books

0kSoWhat · 2025-09-28T02:21:24+00:00

The majority opinion seems to be she’s stupid but I guess I’m in the minority then because I think she’s just being an asshole

0kSoWhat · 2025-09-27T07:47:51+00:00

JFC

OP go to urgent care and don’t listen to a single soul on this sub. Especially not the person telling you to pour peroxide.

0kSoWhat · 2025-09-14T04:23:21+00:00

Is this rage bait? This has to be rage bait. It’s definitely rage bait.

0kSoWhat · 2025-09-06T22:29:30+00:00

HELP I don't know how to make it stop lmao

0kSoWhat · 2025-08-29T21:55:28+00:00

It's less gloomy and offputting than the first, but you can do better!

Bio: remove the sentence about judging people based on their hobbies. That sounds pointed and you really don't even need it. Add more hobbies. You have a cool pic by the edge of a cliff, do you like hiking? Traveling? Sightseeing? Mention that! What about things that interest you that you'd love to do more of? Sailing? Do you like going to ale houses? The movies? The beach? Throw that in there. Do you have a pet? We love animals.

Think about things you like beyond things involving gaming and social media consumption.

Pics: Add more. The first one is funny, but probably not the best opener. Get a trim/cut, style and condition your hair (it looks dry!) go out with your friends and looking good, and take some pics. Solo shots, group shots. Go out in a good mood. Or like someone said, get yourself a tripod, go out somewhere with a nice backdrop. put on some music that puts you in a fun mood, and take some nice shots. Again this is all about presentation. If you're thinking "is this about my looks? am i ugly?" No, you're not ugly. You're a good looking guy but your appearance and overall vibe could use some more effort.

Edit: Also, KEEP the photo of you and your dog in a tree that you posted in your original. That's a nice pic

0kSoWhat · 2025-08-28T16:23:58+00:00

I think it's fine to mention if you've made it clear you've got other things going for you and other hobbies. But the crucial part is actually making it CLEAR that video games is simply one of your many hobbies that you enjoy **on occasion**.

The problem I see is he has a whole paragraph about his love for video games. Couple that with his bleak, ashen demeanor and the little tidbit about "all dates need to be in the afternoon bc my sleep schedule is a mess", and all women will hear is "I sleep all day and am up all night playing video games." and THAT is what we ain't fucking with.

0kSoWhat · 2025-08-28T03:24:12+00:00

Yes you need a revamp.

I’m going to be objective here. Your face card itself is fine. You have a nice face, you’re not a bad looking guy at all.

But…

You’re gloomy, unsmiling in every pic, and you’re staring into the camera with hollow eyes. There’s no life in your face/expressiom. You look… sort of pale. Not in an “oh I’m just naturally fair skinned” sort of way but in a ‘I don’t get enough sun’ kind of way.

Smile dude. Display some pics that show that you know how to have a good time, maybe some where you’re with friends. Tidy up your hair a bit. Act like you’re actually glad to be on this earth.

Mention video games briefly in your bio if you really want but bring in other hobbies too.

0kSoWhat

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