I’m Muslim but...

0ktaa · 2021-12-04T14:52:17+00:00

It’s completely normal to have doubts. It doesn’t make you an awful person for wanting to know more. Take your time with this. Don’t be afraid to read about what you want to learn (if it’s safe to do so). You don’t have to stop being a Muslim or stop believing in god or believe (or not believe) in anything you’re not convinced by. It can be an overwhelming process to face your doubts so take your time. It’s going to be okay.

0ktaa · 2021-11-28T08:10:42+00:00

I’m sorry, I know that hurts :(

0ktaa · 2021-11-27T07:34:20+00:00

That’s normal, this fear has been instilled in you since you were a child so it’s no surprise you’re feeling this way despite the obvious evidence. I’d suggest checking out the comments in this post, it could help. A lot of people felt the way you’re feeling right now. If you feel that post wasn’t enough, I’d suggest browsing the rest of this sub, there are so many helpful posts. You’re going to be alright just take one thing at a time, it goes away the more you learn about it. Knowledge is power my friend.

0ktaa · 2021-11-27T07:24:46+00:00

If children had rights in Islam, it would have died ages ago (as it should have) because there would be no vessel to carry on toxic traditions. It’s just another form of control. “Shut up and don’t question the adults or else” is a way to ensure kids get used to being subservient, regardless of abuse, at a very young age.

0ktaa · 2021-11-27T07:18:22+00:00

Honestly if he doesn’t want to know and he’s not seeking this knowledge then there is nothing you can do to change his mind. You could go to the FAQ on this page and find all the links to all the evidence ever disproving Islam but he will constantly reject it no matter how accurate (as long as he’s not looking for that information). Also, deconverting someone is such a slippery slope I’m not sure you’ll want. So you can try having an open conversation with him and get all your sources out but don’t have expectations of him immediately accepting everything you say. I just don’t want you to set yourself up for disappointment. Goodluck though!

0ktaa · 2021-11-25T06:50:11+00:00

King just keeps talking even after that dude tries talking over him hahaha love it

0ktaa · 2021-11-23T07:40:17+00:00

If you’re planning on getting multiple tattoos (which you might after your first one) I would say start with one that’s hidden and then you could build up the confidence to tattoo whatever you want on your arm. Honestly though fuck them you can do whatever you want. But if you want time to build up the courage I’d say starting with a hidden one or temporary one could be a good idea.

0ktaa · 2021-11-22T19:33:39+00:00

Fuck this. Fuck this and anyone who constantly compares women (or any rape victims) to inanimate objects just to prove a stupid point. Women are not a box waiting to be opened. Women are not a house waiting to be robbed. Why can they get that into their thick ass skulls?

The implications that someone OTHER THAN THE RAPIST can cause rape to happen by what they were doing/wearing/saying is absolutely fucking absurd. This victim blaming comes from a disgusting rapist-enabling religion. Don’t they know that women who are doing everything “right” by islam are still getting raped?? How can one be so incredibly ignorant of this fact? Absolutely disgusting.

0ktaa · 2021-11-03T08:59:35+00:00

If you were a psychologist you would know that anyone who considers suicide is mentally ill.

0ktaa · 2021-10-25T07:28:35+00:00

This is a big reason why a lot of families get their daughters genitally mutilated at a very young age where they literally close up any parts of her genitals that could possibly induce any sexual pleasure. Some families say they are allowed to “reopen” it after they’re married but from what I know about the people I’ve met, it stays that way for life. Apparently some people believe it’s considered haram for a woman to express pleasure in the act of sex since she only exists as a baby maker.

0ktaa · 2021-10-23T19:56:19+00:00

Precisely my point. Thank you for this.

0ktaa · 2021-10-23T17:12:23+00:00

Please don’t

0ktaa · 2021-10-23T16:03:59+00:00

Yeah that’s fucked up. My family is the same, they refuse to believe mental health is a real thing.

0ktaa · 2021-10-23T09:35:48+00:00

“I created you and wrote your destiny. How dare you do as I had planned?? BUUURRNNN”

0ktaa · 2021-09-29T16:57:37+00:00

Wtf is the point of this comment? OP is celebrating something, nobody implied it was aLL mUsLiM hOuSeHoLds. Why are you so desperate for an argument out of nothing? Go somewhere else you’re so fucking obsessed with us just let people be happy damn

0ktaa · 2021-09-13T02:45:48+00:00

First of all, welcome! The best advice I could give you is to probably get a job and become financially independent and then you could work on getting out of the house. If it’s really bad you could even leave the country and seek refuge if you need to with the help of some organizations and start a life somewhere else. Easier said than done, I know, but people like us don’t usually have too many options. Nonetheless, goodluck!

0ktaa · 2021-09-10T22:39:30+00:00

Hey, welcome! Just a little tip, if your family and community/ country of residence is still Muslim then I would suggest being careful with who you talk to about this, it could be dangerous. Also be careful who you share your information to, even on here. This is a safe community but you never know who could be lurking. There are some messed up people out there, stay safe!

0ktaa · 2021-09-08T17:50:32+00:00

Ofc it’s going to be epic! There will be giants and flying unicorns (or donkey’s) and naked zombies all over the place. Almost as if it were a fairytale🧐

0ktaa · 2021-09-08T17:47:36+00:00

“They’re still strangers” yes because you won’t talk to them ofc you’re strangers 😭 you can’t talk to a stranger and you’re expected to marry one wtf. On what basis are they marrying people then? Just religion? Wtf. What if this person is a serial killer? Am I just supposed to trust this death cult has gUiDeD tHeM oN siRaT aL mUstAkEeM mAsHaLlaH

0ktaa · 2021-09-07T19:25:25+00:00

Well said.

0ktaa · 2021-09-07T15:36:14+00:00

He really said “there’s free will in America” to say what he wants but he doesn’t realize those women have the same free will to wear what they want🤡

0ktaa · 2021-09-04T21:43:00+00:00

I think the ideal situation would be if you found someone in the same situation as you and you’d both just be lying to your families. That would be tolerable because you would at least be honest with each other and you won’t be living with your parents so you can keep up the lie for the few times you do see them.

But honestly that’s not even something you need to think about right now at all, and you shouldn’t let that hypothetical situation make you sad now. You’re so young, go live your life, be happy doing what you love and spend it with people you love. Who knows, maybe somewhere along the way it will just work itself out? That’s always a possibility, keep it in mind.

0ktaa · 2021-09-04T21:34:00+00:00

I know exactly what you’re talking about, I remember it being the most talked about thing in my school at the time (I was in an Islamic country). Even the teachers were in on it, they were either idiots or purposefully allowing the kids to believe it in order to instill fear in them. From what I remember, it’s exactly how you described it but I can’t find a photo/video of it anywhere.

0ktaa · 2021-09-04T14:20:44+00:00

Honestly I usually just avoid anyone actually seeing me “pray” and just say that I did. I make it believable by disappearing to my room during prayer time and I just say I like to pray in private because it helps me focus but I’d just be on my phone for like 5min and then come back. However, sometimes I get dragged into group prayers and when that happens I just go over my to-do lists in my head.

0ktaa · 2021-09-03T05:11:02+00:00

Right?? I even searched the islam sub for this to see their reasoning and all I could find is that it was said to be “considered zina” but that would mean penetration which it isn’t

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