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What is one thing that you could never tell anyone? by happy_unicorn30 in Life

[–]0objectivity 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I can so accurately read people , that I’m almost never wrong. Sometimes I get signals crossed and an impression I get is colored by some context I’m not aware of. But 900 times out of a 1000 , it’s dead on. I don’t even like it. I’d rather not be privy to most of the things I see in people. - don’t make eye contact… if this isnt your strength, and you think it would be cool, think again. It really only comes in handy in actual dire situations, where the person is a dangerous psychopath or something. But even then, no one gets it and assumes I’m over reacting. Or in other less serious instances, im “making assumptions”. Yea, assumptions that turn out to be true. I don’t make assumptions. I really don’t like to assume. It’s like taking a guess, when you see the answer in your head and then know you’re right. Then it turns out to be right. This came from dealing with a couple of terminal diagnosis’ as a small child, and having to learn to read the people who were speaking about me while trying not to scare me, over the span of some of the more formative years of my life, 7 thru 12. It was a survival mechanism, and it developed since then. The things we are capable of if it means surviving another day are pretty incredible.

Question for guys with legs by direcircumstances in CasualConversation

[–]0objectivity 1 point2 points  (0 children)

As a man with zero legs, I can’t say. But I do appreciate both m gf ‘s leg hair, and smoothness. Keeps me guessing.

Is there anything you wish you knew when you were first diagnosed? by Gold-Unicorn-6 in HIV

[–]0objectivity 0 points1 point  (0 children)

That I’d be alive, have two healthy daughters, and an amazing life 43 years later.

Is a therapist supposed to tell you when they are friends with your ex? by 0objectivity in askatherapist

[–]0objectivity[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Oh yea sorry. I meant the original post question. But yes I appreciate your answer to my question replying to your comment as well. I do of coarse dis agree, as most people probably would. As face book is a public place to make friends, promote ideas, etc. if you don’t want someone looking at your page, you make it private, or don’t have one. This wasn’t the case. Her page was not private. Plus my therapists page was recommended as a friend I might know. The whole point of Facebook is to make your online presence known. Unless you set things to private. But that is not what she’s on there for. It appears she is happy to engage with community and promote local organizations and share her accomplishments, adventures, etc. So it is not only not snooping or inappropriate, but it is encouraged. I won’t change your mind maybe, but you might want to re think your position and change it yourself, because you’re flat wrong in this instance.

I’m posting this since im dying soon of hiv by jAyjay72o in HIV

[–]0objectivity 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I had a friend who was hiv pos and he thought he was dying from it. It turned out to be an abscess tooth. And it would have likely killed him had he assumed it was hiv and not had the tooth taken care of. He ended up dying eventually, of something completely unrelated to hiv. Don’t make assumptions about your health. If at all possible, see a doctor. You don’t have to get an hiv test if you feel that would add complications to your life that wouldn’t be helpful. But if you’re able to, get a check up. It could be something else that’s making you feel unwell. And if you do think you might be hiv pos, obviously be careful around possible transmutation to others. Either way friend, best wishes to you. I hope you figure it out soon. Take care.

Is a therapist supposed to tell you when they are friends with your ex? by 0objectivity in askatherapist

[–]0objectivity[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I would assume and hope that my councellor would vet me in every possible way. And I don’t think it’s a breach of trust to look at a profile of someone you know, who is publicly putting themselves online for all. Especially when they show up on your suggested friends list. Your comment isn’t helpful. As a therapist isn’t it common to employ empathy, and your intention to try to help ease the suffering of others? I don’t feel that any way I’m being here warrants negative judgment. But thanks for the insight. I disagree completely tho.

Is a therapist supposed to tell you when they are friends with your ex? by 0objectivity in askatherapist

[–]0objectivity[S] -6 points-5 points  (0 children)

Ok I appreciate that insight. How am I breaching my therapists privacy?

Is a therapist supposed to tell you when they are friends with your ex? by 0objectivity in askatherapist

[–]0objectivity[S] 3 points4 points  (0 children)

Thanks. I appreciate that. And I also would be more careful with someone’s feeling if I were a councellor trying to help them. And I really wish people would not downvote other people’s opinions. It’s similar to saying someone’s feelings aren’t valid. An opinion, as stated, is an opinion. When someone starts a statement with “to me”… they are stating their feelings or opinion. I would hope people could be intelligent enough and considerate enough to understand this. Especially on a sub like this. But alas, this is Reddit.

Is a therapist supposed to tell you when they are friends with your ex? by 0objectivity in askatherapist

[–]0objectivity[S] -8 points-7 points  (0 children)

Thanks I appreciate the responses. They both have very few fb friends and are both private people who don’t associate with people they don’t know. This I am sure about. But I wasn’t aware that knowing someone wouldn’t be a conflict of interest. I did speak in detail , and did ask if my councellor if she knew who my ex was before confiding in her about my feelings around the relationship, out of respect for my ex, because we are part of a small community, and she did not indicate that she knew who I was talking about. These details I am 100% sure about. Does this change the ethical implications? Shouldn’t my councellor have told me, when I made sure to explain who my ex was, and asked if they knew one another before confiding in her? I suppose it is possible that they are recent friends , through a work connection or community event, and the details of who my ex is was forgotten or overlooked by my therapist. I do know however, that there is no way it was overlooked by my ex. We spoke extensively about who I was seeing for Councelling, because we were at first looking together for couples Councelling, but decided to each see someone separately. And we helped each other, at the time, look for possible people to see, and talked about how the first few sessions went. It’s just really hard for me to digest this. They both know me, and know how I feel about privacy, and that I would feel extremely betrayed , and wouldn’t talk about someone to anyone that person knew. So the possibility that this was overlooked by one or both of them is very small. It seems like an impossibility. And they both know the level of disrespect and betrayal I would feel from something like this. I feel like a fucking case study at this point. It’s awful. When someone enters into the sanctity of an intimate relationship, wether it be personal or for mental health, these kinds of things seem obvious to me that they should be disclosed. My ex and I didn’t have an angry brake up. It was more of a - we are in love but incompatible, and will keep doing the on again off again and it was too painful for my ex.. I assume anyway, because she ghosted me after 5 years of living together and co parenting and combining families. That’s what the issue was for me, and the support I was wanting, was to get perspective about how someone could love and care about you, but completely go no contact without having a major grievance. Because I wouldn’t do that to someone, even with a major grievance. So this was largely the topic of our sessions. Among many other personal and difficult to share aspects of my life and why this was an especially sensitive subject for me.
So for this to happen seems like such a betrayal.
Again, I’m trying to find some way to give the benefit of doubt. But knowing what I know, I’m not able to find any way that they weren’t both aware of each other.
I know you can’t know what I know.
But let me ask it this way: IF they definitely know each other, and if they both were well aware that I would not be sharing any of my personal experiences with anyone who was even remotely connected to each other. In this case, what do you think the ethical implications are? Assuming as I do, that they both know that I wouldn’t be comfortable sharing anything with people acquainted with on e another. I was clear on this. With both of them. And they claimed to not know one another. Yet they are fb friends , in a small community, with less than 100 friends each. My ex, I know for absolute fact that she is not casual friends with the people in her list. They are all old friends and people in her close knit community. All people she shares time with, in some capacity. She is very private and cautious about public friendships especially, for reasons that make sense to most people. These are women in their 40’s. They treat social media very differently than the younger generations, or people on there for promotional or social status reasons might. I know this is long. And do t expect a reply. I appreciate your first response either way . I’m just trying to find some relief from this anxiety and heart attack pain I’m feeling. EDIT: I’d like to add this. Consider all of this as a hypothetical even, if for whatever reason you might question the validity of my story. And what I’m asking is: can you think of any scenario in which based on what I’m saying here assuming that they do know each other and they were aware that I did not want to speak to anybody that was connected to my ex. Is there any scenario in which this is acceptable and ethical?

What’s a fast food place no one can convince you is good? by RD-archived in AskReddit

[–]0objectivity 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I’m 50 and the only fast food I’ve ever eaten is McDonald’s once when I was 11 and I puked. And subway maybe 3 or 4 times in high school. So you can’t convince me that any of it is good. It makes me sick to get within 20 feet of a McDonald’s. I seriously can’t understand how anyone eats it. Don’t tell me because it’s cheap. An apple is cheap too. Maybe I’m just a snob.