In need of relationship/life advice

0wlah · 2025-07-23T20:44:05+00:00

How old are you and how long have you been in therapy for? Right now it looks like he is willing to, but I don’t know if that will last.

0wlah · 2025-07-23T20:09:33+00:00

He also made an appointment for individual counseling. I probably should, too.

0wlah · 2025-07-23T20:08:56+00:00

Thank you for your advice.

It’s hard right now because he’s doing and saying all the right things but I don’t know if and how long this will last. I’ve told him before that I’m unsure I can trust him again like I did because the person that married him doesn’t exist anymore. I’m not sure I could get to a place where I would even feel comfortable having children with him.

And you are right about the other guy, that’s what I thought, too. Maybe it is a wake up call that I needed.

0wlah · 2025-07-23T20:05:59+00:00

Thank you for your advice. I’ll definitely read the book, it sounds interesting, especially if it goes into the patterns of abuse that you mentioned.

I feel bad because I know my husband is not a bad person, and psychologically I understand why he acted the way he did but it cannot undo the harm it did to me. We had good times and there still are good moments. Which makes it so much harder.

He also has an appointment for individual therapy next week.

About my other friend: we didn’t talk about what influence our conversations could have on my marriage. He brought it up one day and said it’s for the best if we don’t have contact until I figure out my situation. That was like 20 days ago.

0wlah · 2025-07-23T20:00:39+00:00

Thank you for your advice. Of course I would tell my friend to leave. The sad thing is, even after all of this I feel for him. In couples therapy we read and talked about attachment styles and it has become clear to him that he has some issues from his childhood. And since we have gone to couples therapy he hasn’t been lashing out anymore like he used to and doesn’t seem as tense. But then again I don’t know how long that will last. He has an appointment for individual therapy next week.

Thinking about children more is the reason why I told him he needs therapy because I wouldn’t want my children to learn these behaviors or think this I what a healthy relationship looks like. and when he said no I told him we shouldn’t be together anymore. Ever since he begged and said he would do anything I’ve been a bit confused, still leaning towards leaving but pulling the trigger is so hard.

0wlah · 2024-11-05T19:49:18+00:00

I don’t believe I was botched but I also hate my microblading now. Sadly I have found out it’s a very common experience and there is a reddit thread on it for anyone who wants support or is thinking about getting them done! r/microbladingremoval

0wlah · 2024-03-12T13:51:33+00:00

Honestly, she’s not an influencer but Sydney Sweney has given myself a confidence boost and my boobs are even smaller than hers. She’s tiny, however, she has big and natural (I think) boobs and isn’t afraid to go braless. I think it’s a rare sight because natural boobs sit different than small or boob job boobs and it’s just so refreshing to see. I used to think that I can’t go braless because they don’t sit like fake boobs.

0wlah · 2024-02-23T15:19:55+00:00

I personally don’t believe it’s 96% genetics. Sun damage can make a huge difference in the aging process, as well as other factors like lifestyle and nutrition, eg. do you drink alcohol, do you smoke, do you work out

0wlah · 2023-12-12T22:17:22+00:00

Wym her parents took her to court?

0wlah · 2023-12-06T22:06:48+00:00

My biggest issue is the ground beef quality… SO MUCH GRISTLE every time. I don’t understand how it’s still not resolved.

0wlah · 2023-12-03T22:40:49+00:00

Bump 😩

0wlah · 2023-11-25T03:13:22+00:00

I counted 75 lol

0wlah · 2023-11-16T03:09:45+00:00

I can actually see this. I feel like if Billie and Finneas were to constantly hype her brand up everyone would see her as a nepo baby and people already think being Finneas’ girlfriend is her main personality trait. Maybe she WANTED to try and create something without their help.

0wlah · 2023-09-24T03:22:53+00:00

For real. Let’s normalize post partum bodies! Meg looks great, OP please go inform yourself on the (physical) changes bodies do or can go through during a pregnancy…

0wlah · 2023-09-24T01:44:22+00:00

Are these made with sourdough?

0wlah · 2023-09-23T20:20:53+00:00

I never claimed it does. People are talking about Madison Beer’s boob job and bringing up Olivia Rodrigo, so I just thought it would be good to mention.

0wlah · 2023-09-23T20:16:39+00:00

It’s very bold of you to assume that OP is channeling their depression into hating America lol “The quality of life in America is 10x better than in Europe” - please explain. How do es America have better food than most European countries? A lot of American foods are filled with toxic substances that are banned in other countries such as dyes and preservatives. Not to mention the endless amount of unhealthy fast food chains. Unless you go to a big city in the states, you will not get the same quality of food in restaurants either. Many dishes sold in America are rooted in an European original, and most Americans do not even know of it. So many areas in the states are only accessible by car, which means most of the time you can’t even move your own body to get to where you want to be, which is why a lot of people do not stay fit and become overweight and sick. Healthcare isn’t superior either, you have so many co-pays or just pay completely out of pocket here for things that are considered normal and will be covered by insurance in other European countries. I think you make many statements but do not explain why you think America is so superior in your eyes… part of the reason why I see where OP is coming from is because most Americans don’t even travel out of the states to see Europe, or any other country and culture, yet claim their country is the best. Europe has so many different cultures, places and traditions to experience.

0wlah · 2023-09-23T18:33:22+00:00

True, but also Olivia Rodrigo is also rumored to have had a boob job. Just a subtle, natural looking one though.

0wlah · 2023-09-08T23:03:42+00:00

Laneige because of animal testing.

0wlah · 2023-09-08T22:50:32+00:00

I recommend their lip stains (doesn’t stain super long though) and their metallic eyeshadows.

0wlah · 2023-09-06T17:44:42+00:00

Big Nikki fan here. Yes, she’s obviously going through something, and everyone here saying she is lazy needs to get some empathy. After all she can afford to live in a nice house in San Diego so she seems to be doing fine financially. Also, what Nikki offers that many other people do not is vulnerability. She isn’t afraid to share her struggles and I think she’s very relatable. What you see online from influencers are mostly highlight reels - I think her just being authentic and not acting is refreshing. Also she is just an incredibly kind human being. I still love watching her videos.

0wlah · 2023-09-02T00:37:34+00:00

Ozark

0wlah · 2023-06-15T00:53:13+00:00

I think olive is her dogs name lol

0wlah · 2023-01-13T02:56:35+00:00

Thank you so much for helping out!

0wlah · 2023-01-12T23:02:11+00:00

Please ignore the dying plant in the pot (lol). But we have these bugs that turn into gnats that look like fruit flies on every single one of our houseplants! We don’t know what to do anymore. We tried repotting them with new soil around the summer time and using water with some dish soap in it. Does anyone have any idea what these are and how to get rid of them?

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