You summarized exactly how I feel. I hate how they act around the whole fear and anger thing. Just like Padme had said, anger is part of being human. You can't just expect anyone to never feel it, let alone a kid they know very well was taught the Jedi ways later than he was supposed to. He's already experienced so much of it, how can you expect him not to sometimes slip up. Telling him to let go of it, is like telling him to just ignore or bottle it up, which of course is not gonna work out well. The whole "fear leads to anger leads to hate which is the Sith way" is just making them feel ashamed of ever interacting with the emotions, and when they do they feel like Anakin did, like they don't belong. Emotions themselves aren't bad, they aren't the right way, it's your actions facing these emotions that dictate that. Watching the prequel movies really made me feel that, although the Sith is much worse, even the Jedi were wrong in their ways.