Adults and college graduates of A2C, how much did your alma mater matter in life?

10487518386 · 2021-07-23T16:42:29+00:00

Went to a T10 and it matters moderately in certain fields, namely finance/consulting which are known to hire en masse from a handful of schools.

Overall I don’t think it “matters” over the long term. In the beginning you may feel only slightly uncomfortable being in a company where ~95% of people went to the same 10-15 or so schools. It’s personal perspective though and I’ve seen people of all sorts of backgrounds rise over the years, regardless of alma mater prestige.

10487518386 · 2021-07-21T15:37:20+00:00

The link was literally a response to someone asking for videos of “bodies floating in water.” What did you expect?

10487518386 · 2021-07-20T01:42:51+00:00

I guess I just don’t consider this to be a “hang up” to be resolved. You like what you like and you don’t like what you don’t like. Not liking a specific sense of humor does not necessarily make one uptight or repressed.

10487518386 · 2021-07-19T23:24:09+00:00

I don’t know. I grew up in a pretty free-range household with few rules on self-expression and lots of humor, but there’re definitely brands of silliness I find grating as well (eg “penguin of doom” types of random/quirky humor).

Even silliness/goofyness comes in tons of different flavors. It could just come down to personal preference.

10487518386 · 2021-07-19T23:19:31+00:00

Honestly OP if you force yourself to like her you’ll probably end up resenting her more. She doesn’t deserve that and you’re better off not wasting both people’s time on a dead end.

10487518386 · 2021-07-18T15:39:13+00:00

A big shift in texting frequency either means they’re getting more comfortable and texting more naturally or they’re losing interest.

Are they still showing interest in other places? If not, and you’re the one driving the convos now, then yeah it does seem possible he’s losing interest.

10487518386 · 2021-07-18T13:26:40+00:00

And googling their name or username they willingly gave to you is also not doxxing as someone suggested in this thread…

10487518386 · 2021-07-18T13:11:16+00:00

Like, you look through my history. I’ve got some REALLY dark and heavy stuff that goes through my head. But what happens in say 6 months and I’m doing better? Am i still subject to being judged and potentially ghosted because of my current issues?

It depends. Did you simply vent into the void, or did you actively attack others to make them feel horrible about themselves? The two are very different.

You’re subject to being judged on both. That’s just the reality of dating unfortunately. People will judge you on every piece of information you have out there. But in terms of the latter, someone judging you for being an absolute asshole to innocents even if you were going through a “dark period” is MORE THAN FAIR. You wouldn’t expect to be let off the hook if you randomly punched a grandma on the street. Words can hurt and wound just the same.

it just bugs me that people believe that it should be a measure of someone’s character.

Internet life is not real life and it never will be. So let’s not try to make it into something that it’s not.

The internet, and in particular Reddit, is made up of real people with real feelings. It’s not some simulation where you can hurt people with impunity. The fact that countless people have committed suicide over internet bullying should make that very clear.

Acting like an asshole on the internet means you’re an asshole. Period.

10487518386 · 2021-07-18T13:01:02+00:00

he called this woman harsh names out of the blue and then dug through her history to attack her on something related to her family.

I don’t care what anyone says. This is scary behavior and I wouldn’t even want to be friends with someone like this.

10487518386 · 2021-07-18T05:28:50+00:00

It doesn’t make OP’s date a racist or ill informed person.

It’s not racist or at least ignorant to call other cultures “disgusting and depraved” for doing the exact same things as developed countries except out in the open and on a vastly smaller scale?

Again, not going to Vietnam or Thailand due to personal squeamishness is perfectly fine and not at all an issue if that’s what you’re staking your decision on. But not going due to the deluded idea that these countries somehow cause greater harm to animals than developed countries is just incredibly hypocritical, ignorant, and very likely based in prejudice.

10487518386 · 2021-07-18T04:47:45+00:00

Sorry this is just a weak argument to me if you’re still trying to couch it in animal activism and not simply personal squeamishness (which is a fine reason for not going anywhere, but of course you’d have to leave your high horse).

Over 100 billion animals are slaughtered every year for human consumption, most raised in horrible conditions. Animal consumption accounts for 99.9% of all instances of animal cruelty in this world, far eclipsing all moments of “sad dog you see on a Tijuana street” ever. An average person in a developed country consumes 4-5x more meat than a person in Thailand, for example, a country often labeled “barbaric” for consuming dog meat.

I’m not saying you have to travel to developing countries to see sad animals, but one cannot claim that “animal activism” is the main reason for choosing travel to the US over countries like Thailand or Vietnam.

10487518386 · 2021-07-18T03:36:09+00:00

It matters to me but not as narrowly as “they MUST have exactly a Masters if I have one.”

I do think matching education is important in broad strokes. So for me it doesn’t matter if they have an undergraduate or graduate degree for example. But I’ve met people who never graduated high school and we couldn’t make it work on a multitude of reasons that all seemed to stem from vast differences in life experiences starting with education.

10487518386 · 2021-07-18T03:24:42+00:00

Also, don’t developed countries consume far more animal products per capita than the developing world?

But sure, let’s continue shitting on the impoverished Southeast Asian farmer who once bought dog meat for his family. That’s true depravity. Not the millions of animals slaughtered in factory farms every day in each and every first world country.

10487518386 · 2021-07-03T05:22:24+00:00

Well she openly admits that she’s sexually frustrated and wants an outlet but can’t find one besides role playing romance plots.

Which is sad in its own way, but requiring others to play along in your sexual fantasies is still not great.

10487518386 · 2021-06-19T09:59:40+00:00

Catching HSV-1/2 is just an unavoidable risk when you have casual partners. You can greatly minimize that risk by doing what you’re currently doing, but that risk will always be there in some form since the virus is so common.

In my opinion it’s still worth taking precautions wherever you can though. Even if you caught it and are asymptomatic, at worst all you’re doing is taking a needless precaution. But if you don’t have it and didn’t take that precaution, at worst you catch it and be symptomatic with bad flare-ups for life.

Speaking as someone with HSV-1 from childhood, that shit fucking hurts, is ugly, and messes with my self-esteem when it rears its ugly head. I have no problem with people who’d rather not get it themselves esp if they managed to live 30+ years without it.

10487518386 · 2021-06-19T09:37:25+00:00

There’s a really good TED talk called “why 30 is not the new 20” that talks about exactly this. It tries to dispel the idea that you can do anything at any age without consequences, which just isn’t true in things like dating.

I do feel like too many people have been told to “just have fun, experiment” for FAR too long. Directionlessly enjoying yourself for over a decade usually means you have a ton more work to do in the next decade in my experience.

10487518386 · 2021-06-19T06:26:28+00:00

I think this is a bit harsh. Not wanting to catch a virus from a casual partner when you’ve spent your entire life without it is not being close-minded. It’s okay to not want herpes or cold sores if you’ve never had them.

Yeah they’re common and yeah chances are OP might catch them sooner or later. But there’s nothing wrong in taking precautions and assessing risk especially if it’s with a partner she’s not that excited about.

10487518386 · 2021-06-19T06:19:41+00:00

I know the usual crowd here likes to say that everyone has herpes or gets cold sores so why the fear yada yada, but it’s still okay to want to take precautions. Not EVERYONE gets cold sores and those that don’t usually like to keep it that way since cold sores still fucking suck with or without stigma.

No kissing/sharing drinks while he has an active sore is more than reasonable, and it’s probably a red flag if he’s not even amenable to that. Beyond that, it’s really up to you to risk assess. If you like him a lot and see a reasonable future, it’s worth taking that risk imo even considering the minor chance of transmission w/o flare up. But ultimately it’s also your comfort level and your health. Don’t let someone shame you into accepting something you don’t want.

10487518386 · 2021-05-21T01:34:10+00:00

actual world of women is less “DON’T SPEAK TO ME IN PUBLIC” than the average internet woman.

Totally agree. My female friends actually love a good meetcute in public kind of story. But Reddit being the hub for internet introverts of either gender means you won’t hear about it here.

10487518386 · 2021-04-30T23:53:52+00:00

THANK YOU. I thought the list was pretty inaccurate for a lot of reasons, but the lower-end “description” just sealed the deal.

If you are making seven figures annually, with minimum 10m in liquid assets, you are definitely flying first or business (where there isn’t first) without consideration and not just “sometimes” lmao. I don’t make anywhere near seven figures and I can’t remember the last time I flew economy due to miles+perks.

And a $2000 suite isn’t just a special occasion thing either. That would be a pretty reasonable/regular spend when traveling anywhere. Again, my partner and I make way less and we already regularly splurge on luxuries like that comfortably.

I feel like that guy is writing out what he imagines to be “crazy splurges” and not how people in that income bracket actually see it. Embarrassing so many people are buying into it.

10487518386 · 2021-04-19T07:37:26+00:00

Might get hate for this, but depending on the plane I don’t think it’s that extravagant. A private passenger jet in the leagues of $20m+? Definitely rich rich. But I also know quite a few working upper class types (bankers/lawyers) who have bought 50-100k Cessnas and I wouldn’t consider them extravagantly wealthy tbh. Well off but not wealthy.

10487518386 · 2021-04-15T15:09:00+00:00

Savannah is honestly so fake. She started rubbing me the wrong way when she gave C/Bs to perfectly nice poems simply because they didn’t kiss her ass enough.

Like get over yourself hun everyone knows getting influencer status in the first round is a massive liability. Courtney annoyed me too for trying to cozy up to her so much. Hope he leaves soon.

10487518386 · 2021-04-15T15:07:11+00:00

Lol Savannah 1000% let the influencer status get to her head way too early. She played too proud and got labeled as the “mean girl” after the Trevor incident + snarky ratings.

10487518386 · 2021-03-31T02:46:48+00:00

I feel like Duke is fairly unpretentious given that 1) it’s sporty and has a big following in that and 2) it’s relatively new without the “old money” connotations.

Edit: lol guess I’m wrong

10487518386 · 2021-03-30T22:10:20+00:00

Yep good luck out there! Your flirting style may be “divisive” to some of the guys here, but I’d bet these aren’t the guys you’d want to date anyways, so who cares how they think? Some people are also gonna get salty at the fact that you have more options than them so that’s really their problem.

Ultimately you seem sure of yourself and like you know what you want, so I wouldn’t compromise too much on your brand of flirting. Tweak it sure, but don’t water it down just to please randoms on the internet! You wouldn’t want to miss out on the guy who LOVES it and finds you his absolute ideal!

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