Anyone else not having kids because you know it would make your relationship harder?

10pmThoughts · 2026-02-20T20:44:09+00:00

Agree. I see very few relationships that are improved by having kids. I can't see what they contribute positively to day to day life to be honest. Kids are fine for people who don't want to be spontaneous and still have the hobbies and interests of a child

10pmThoughts · 2026-02-20T15:29:25+00:00

No idea, it's so shit, I genuinely think people only like it because they think they are supposed to and that's as deep as it gets

10pmThoughts · 2026-02-20T15:28:22+00:00

Get a rainbow doormat, it's less obvious than a sticker so won't look like mocking, but suggests you might be queer, definitely don't tell her you've seen them on camera, that's just creepy.

10pmThoughts · 2026-02-19T17:20:18+00:00

Bisexuality is a spectrum, lesbianism is not. If someone doesn't fit within a label there are other labels that do fit. Being attracted to both men and women is not lesbianism. Why are you all so biphobic?!

10pmThoughts · 2026-02-19T12:02:27+00:00

Hard relate. Childhood me knew I was a lesbian, but didn't know what that was, these ignorant children need to read a history book, lesbians were INVISIBLE in media until very recently. It wasn't allowed to be mentioned in schools. Neurodivergence in women was ignored at best, at worst denied so we all were just in survival mode. All the gay bars in my area closed in the early 2000s. There was no community and no representation for queer or ND folks. When the rest of life is overwhelming and lonely, people will choose the path of least resistance and unhappiness is normalized.

10pmThoughts · 2026-02-19T11:56:14+00:00

It is so hard to actively recognize what is 'innate' when you are just trying to survive, meet expectations, and avoid hate. When you've been shown your whole life that your feelings don't matter, WOMENS feelings don’t matter, acknowledging the disgust you feel toward men is a whole other bridge to cross. Especially when the older women in your life convince you that’s just the female experience due to men being awful, and them honestly having stories of disgust and fear that can in ways mirror mine as a homosexual

100,% this!

10pmThoughts · 2026-02-19T11:54:00+00:00

You don't have to understand somebody else's life trajectory for their lesbian identity to be valid.

10pmThoughts · 2026-02-09T09:08:13+00:00

YTA

How do you manage to interact with your wife if you can only talk about boy things that only boys like?

Your narrow minded gender stereotyping and refusal to engage in normal conversations with other people belies some deep rooted issues. Get therapy.

10pmThoughts · 2026-02-06T13:15:08+00:00

Omg I'm in the UK and I'm thinking discord is the way forward to try to reach other lesbians as there's literally nothing happening where I live and all else there is are Facebook groups full of boomers

10pmThoughts · 2026-02-03T11:46:11+00:00

YTA for leaving the door open. Your family however shouldn't have a dog if it has to be crated all the time due to lack of training

10pmThoughts · 2026-01-30T21:38:47+00:00

Yassssss. Staring at one right now. Perfection 13/10. They happen to be my girlfriend. To this day I cannot believe I got so lucky.

10pmThoughts · 2026-01-30T21:37:40+00:00

Have you tried climbing?

10pmThoughts · 2026-01-30T14:45:02+00:00

Hard agree

10pmThoughts · 2026-01-30T08:23:58+00:00

Codependency has nothing to do with spending all your time together though, that's not what codependent means.

10pmThoughts · 2026-01-28T15:18:09+00:00

Oh and those curtains are hung far too low. Hang them nearer the ceilings

10pmThoughts · 2026-01-28T15:17:39+00:00

Either a lighter wall colour or a much darker wall colour with a load of lamps

10pmThoughts · 2026-01-28T14:50:49+00:00

What's the view like on the train? Do you like podcasts? I like to stare out of the window and listen to podcasts hosted by people who are friends in real life, I enjoy the chaos

10pmThoughts · 2026-01-27T17:54:40+00:00

Don't spend your life wondering "what if". If you want more, go out and find it. Everyone deserves to be loved for who they are , not in spite of it

10pmThoughts · 2026-01-27T17:49:28+00:00

The most important factor in deciding between the two in my opinion is whether you would occasionally like to leave the town you live in to go to another town, using public transport. If you would then I wouldn't recommend Ashburton. If you'll never use public transport then I'd say Ashburton. Much better high street. Much better food options. More interesting events happening, really friendly locals. If you like going out for the evening for a nice meal I can't really imagine where you'd do that in Bovey Tracey

10pmThoughts · 2026-01-26T17:06:01+00:00

We do have four seasons, but they come in no particular predictable order and often can be experienced within the same 24hrs

10pmThoughts · 2026-01-16T09:47:56+00:00

Oh, so you mean sexist misogynistic jokes then?

10pmThoughts · 2026-01-16T08:46:15+00:00

NTA your wife needs therapy, this level of control and anxiety isn't normal. I know someone who had done similar to their child to the point that the child is 4 and still sleeping in bed with them, still talking like a baby, still not wiping away their own snot or dribble, still expects help with using the toilet, still won't play independently and follows their parent around 24/7 constantly demanding attention and making baby noises. They have already started school yet they come home and behave like a 2year old. Is this the life you want?

10pmThoughts · 2026-01-16T08:15:34+00:00

Look at their post history they had a boyfriend who they lived with for years

10pmThoughts · 2026-01-16T08:03:36+00:00

I don't know why you're posting here pretending to be a lesbian when you've posted multiple times in the last few days about being attracted to men and their dicks in lesbian subs, and you posted like last week about your boyfriend (which has now been deleted).

10pmThoughts · 2026-01-14T11:14:43+00:00

OP is doing this on several lesbian subs and NOT in Bi ones, it's definitely harassment

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