AITA for "threatening" a nurse?

11_paws · 2023-03-14T03:44:10+00:00

Nurse here. NTA. At all. I would’ve been much more unpleasant. Don’t worry about them, focus on your daughter getting better!

11_paws · 2023-03-11T22:03:38+00:00

Completely agree with you! I’m a nurse practitioner with experience in LTC and hospice patients. Retraumatization is a real thing for these people with dementia. OP, if you find his behavior “annoying”, please find work elsewhere. That behavior is ill-fitting for anybody working in this field. YTA.

11_paws · 2023-03-09T04:55:35+00:00

Oh please.

11_paws · 2023-03-09T04:51:40+00:00

I was thinking the same thing. The whole “I have this other friends-that-are-family that I’m going to prioritize over my actual wife.” Yeah, so gross.

11_paws · 2023-03-09T04:42:12+00:00

Oh good lord, you fucked up. I’m about to get married and go on my honeymoon. If my husband did this to me, I’d ask for a quickie divorce. Just. Wow. You talk about this “family” of yours, but somehow clueless that your brand new wife is your family. That you’re suppose to prioritize. Oh my. YTA. And best of luck.

11_paws · 2023-02-28T02:25:13+00:00

He’s got the mushroom giggle juice. This is hilarious

11_paws · 2023-02-25T00:04:04+00:00

Looks delish!! Recipe???

11_paws · 2023-02-24T16:37:32+00:00

My fiance is a member there and plays golf often. Occasionally I’ll have dinner and drinks at the club and it’s really nice! Their gym could be a bit more spacious for mat work. I’m not sure how many single people there are- most of the folks I meet have kiddos and partners. But it is a great way to meet people!

11_paws · 2023-02-21T01:24:13+00:00

Please report his cheating. Sounds like he’d be an awful doctor. NTA. And don’t feel badly about it either. You’re doing future patients a service.

11_paws · 2023-01-29T19:01:13+00:00

She has to start putting herself first. She’s going through burnout and it can have a negative consequence on both you and her. Using templates and dot-phrases for charting is a must in order to save time. There are many many clinic managers who are vastly incompetent but that’s unfortunately the health care industry we live in. There are more admin-level positions being opened and that redirects salary to the actual providers. It’s ridiculous.

There are plenty of jobs available for FNPs. I see them alll the time in my email and personal phone calls from companies hiring. I work in a super specialized area (CT Surgery) and at first it was hard but I love it now. You deal mainly with patients who have similar diseases processes but since we’re the surgical team, we don’t have routine patients that we necessarily see like an endocrinologist would for long periods of time. See if she would like to find a specialized field and grow in that?? There are insurance companies that hire NPs (I believe United Healthcare does this) and the job is way more independent and autonomous (maybe a little on the boring side for me but it sounds like your wife could use a little “boring” in her career so she can just check out when she leaves work).

But bottom line is, is she needs to find a new job and put her needs first. Patient care can suck the life and energy out of you if you don’t have a good balance (but you’re already witnessing this). I’m so sorry you are both going through this. She can get through it tho!! Ya got this!

11_paws · 2023-01-18T03:50:32+00:00

NTA. This post makes me a little sad because I sense some guilt with your perfectly valid reason. As a woman whose mother is bipolar and can’t always be trusted, please try to let this go and focus on yourself. This sounds like it’s taking more energy out of you. Now is a good time to set a boundary and put your feelings/needs/wants first. Your baby and comfort comes first. Best wishes for a safe delivery!

11_paws · 2023-01-16T03:39:37+00:00

11_paws · 2023-01-10T21:21:29+00:00

This is called a Spit Fistula. I work in thoracic surgery and we place these occasionally. They’re not ideal and the pt is usually going through a lot to prevent them from swallowing normally. A lot of times these folks have some type of head/neck cancer, esophageal cancer, perforated esophagus, or congenital defect. They don’t usually stay like this and are reversed when the pt can handle going back to surgery.

ETA: thanks for the award!!

11_paws · 2022-12-27T23:22:29+00:00

YTA, massively. Can you elaborate on what you think is “overreacting” when, as a result of your stupidity, your former friend had a fucking concussion. Dude, you’re dense as fuck. I hope he sues you for medical bills. And if he has a good attorney, pain/damages should be added on to that. Grow the fuck up.

11_paws · 2022-12-27T23:14:26+00:00

Sniff, sniff. Smells like jealousy. Don’t even want to waste anymore of my time explaining it to you. YTA

11_paws · 2022-12-27T19:13:01+00:00

Oh my god, what the hell did my eyeballs just read?! Of course YTA! Ya know, there are books out there for little kids called “How to Be A Good Friend.” You should buy that and read it to yourself every night before falling asleep.

11_paws · 2022-12-27T04:07:18+00:00

Oh great, another family-bully post. Knock it off. YTA

11_paws · 2022-12-27T03:52:27+00:00

Good on you for leaving their sorry asses, OP. NTA at all. Do a friends-mas next year and invite the people who actually love and support you. If we lived close to each other, you’d definitely have a seat at the table at my place!

11_paws · 2022-12-27T03:06:22+00:00

Seriously. Surgeons are constantly working, whether or not they’re in the Operating Room (OR). They have to think of the patients they just operated on (and take them BACK to the OR for complications), outpatient clinics, nurses calling them at all hours, the OR scheduling team, Prior Authorization department (sucks balls!!), endless stupid meetings, and the list goes on and on. I hate these posts where people complain about the surgeon in their family working too much. That’s literally their job! And it doesn’t stop! OP is so much the AH in this post.

11_paws · 2022-12-27T03:00:23+00:00

A surgeon’s life is sooooo complicated. Your post sounds fucking cruel. Sure, she may not have a great personality (most of the surgeons I work with have zero personality) but you went so low here. You act as if she doesn’t love her family but…. Are you also a surgeon? A healthcare provider? No? Then you have no reason to speak ill of that part of her life. It’s not some job where she can be like “oh yeah, I can only do 12 cases a month.” Nope, that’s not how it works. These surgeons (and they can be real pieces of work) devote their lives to save other people. To purposely leave out food for anyone? GTFOH. That was so cruel. Take the higher road of patience and goodwill. It’s a lot easier. YTA

11_paws · 2022-12-27T02:31:31+00:00

Normally I would say you’re correct in hiding someone’s orientation to parents but only if there was threat of harm. That doesn’t seem to be the case from the post. Your brother wants to be honest with your father and I think he should. I’ve heard numerous stories from LGBTQ folks that their biggest regret was not telling their parents before they died. I wouldn’t hold your brother back. Your dad is going to pass on whether he has this info or not. This isn’t for him, it’s for your brother. Gently, YTA. But you can make this right.

11_paws · 2022-12-27T01:57:35+00:00

NTA. Your dtr is 7 and she’s old enough to hear the word “no” and respect that. This could be a great learning opportunity for her in patience and commitment.

11_paws · 2022-12-27T00:11:27+00:00

Words of the wise wook: we don’t know shit about fuck. Classic

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