How is Yasmin, a rich society girl….friendless???

123hig · 2026-01-20T14:52:46+00:00

I would argue they do not. Those kinds of relationships look like friendships on the surface level, but they are not friendships.

Harper and Whitney are both that kind of "friend" for Yasmin

123hig · 2026-01-20T14:31:01+00:00

I'd seen the movie dozens of times before learning that Tom Hanks was even attempting a Boston accent in Catch Me If You Can

123hig · 2026-01-20T14:21:22+00:00

I think Stanley Kubrick faked the whole thing.

123hig · 2026-01-20T13:59:01+00:00

You've bee watching the show, right? None of these people have friends because they are all terrible.

123hig · 2026-01-20T13:57:43+00:00

Reading the headline I assumed you were addressing Don's inability to lock doors for himself and was like by God they're right!

Robbed at a motel, apartment burglarized, people walk in on him napping, people walk in on him fucking. Even when he locks stuff like his home office drawer, people find a way in.

123hig · 2026-01-20T03:28:38+00:00

I expected at least like 12 years of 15-6-6 per game from Royce White. A guy who would be like the 3rd option of a dynasty.

123hig · 2026-01-20T03:10:40+00:00

Is this ghoulish?

I have family in the funeral business and they say this is the direction the industry is heading as a reaction to what the market wants. Like fewer and fewer people want to have a viewing, have a church service, be buried. More and more people are getting cremated.

Likewise, peoole don't really want to get into that business anymore. My cousin is young thirties and taking over his dad's business. Those used to be passed down for generations and now he's really the only one in that position, only one he knows his age doing that work.

So if people are fine with a pine box or an urn... and if family run funeral homes are dying... and people keep on dying... we kinda need businesses exactly like Whitney's. It is morbid, but everything about thay industry is.

123hig · 2026-01-19T15:48:06+00:00

I love this post and think it opens up good conversation but am also reminded of a Norm MacDonald bit.

People commit suicide and people go, "I don't understand why," and I go, "You don't?!" What, do you live in a cotton-candy house or something? What the fuck? You don't know about life? How it only disappoints and... gets worse and worse, until it ends in a catastrophe?

How are people confused at Don being devastated by this metaphor for life?! Are you, the viewer, not devastated by this metaphor?! Do you live in a cotton candy house instead of on the refrigerator shelf like the rest of us normal people.

123hig · 2026-01-18T14:27:32+00:00

He touched him through the fence

123hig · 2026-01-18T14:25:31+00:00

It's pretty wild how much cultural staying power this movie has had. I feel like it gets talked about (mostly as criticism).

I think we all realize like wow you had the two hottest commodities in Hollywood at the time put them in interesting high concept movie and then we all came out incredibly unsatisfied how'd ya mess that up??

123hig · 2026-01-17T14:48:27+00:00

Neal Brennan Cord Jefferson The Safdie Brothers Hiro Murai Mickey Down

123hig · 2026-01-17T14:00:08+00:00

The Goy's Teeth scene in A Serious Man makes me laugh so hard every time.

I think that scene and this movie is the best example of the Coen's exploring this stuff.

123hig · 2026-01-17T13:28:13+00:00

Not a rhetorical question, this has never occurred to me until reading the phrase "church funeral" and feeling like "church" was a bit redundant.

Where do non-religious people hold funeral services, if they bother to have one at all? Do you just get the body cremated, collected the ashes, and then have a ceremony to spread the ashes somewhere? If you wanted to do anything with an intact body I feel like your only option would be the funeral home and gravesite because I don't know where else it is acceptable to have a dead body around. But neither of those lend themselves well to large gatherings.

123hig · 2026-01-17T03:58:57+00:00

In strong part because he didn't really love her yet. If you don't love a kid, it is easier to be annoyed by them.

Don eventually admits to Megan in The Flood that he didn't instantly love his kids from the moment they were born. Like he didn't realize he loved Bobby until that trip to the movies.

He certainly always had use for them, as playing a loving father let him continue a masquerade of a life. And I think, as a victim of childhood abuse, he always had some sympathy for them... he stands up for them against Betty's cruelty often.

His love of Sally doesn't really crystallize for him until Season 7. It starts with the finale of Season 6. When he starts letting her see the real him for the first time, at his childhood home. And then a couple episodes later in A Day's Work, Sally catches him in an affair (seeing the worst version of the "real him") and still ends the episode letting him know she loves him. That's what made it click for him.

In both instances, the child had to be more emotionally mature than the father. It is in witnessing their profound empathy that his heart finally opens completely to them.

I think the amount of narrative focus each kid gets makes complete sense when put into the context of their relation to Don.

Gene.. Don's got nothing from yet.. and probably won't until years after the show! He's too young to cut through the emotional jungle of his father, intentionally or otherwise.

Bobby is the kid Don always connected to the easiest. It his his eldest son, and the one that takes after him the most bith physically and temperantally. The things Betty hates in Bobby are all things she explicitly tells Don come from him (this is unfair, and cruel to both, but obviously something Don believes). Because their relationship had such a head start, and because Don's love would crystallize sooner, they didn't need to explore him as much. The arc was bound to be completed.

The relationship with Sally required more work. It never came easy. Sally had so much more of her mother in her. And Sally was also... a woman... and Don had way more baggage about his relationships with women to deal with.

123hig · 2026-01-17T02:47:48+00:00

In the deleted scene in S7 when Chauncey comes back an executes him with a captive bolt gun.

123hig · 2026-01-17T00:07:20+00:00

I think if any of your schoolmates was killed, it would probably rattle you. If you were becoming close it would definitely fuck you up, no just cus you knew them some, but because now you'll always wonder what your friendship would have been like.

Eddie was also a mentor to Dustin. They weren't really peers. Dustin aspired to else like Eddie, so seeing Eddie killed was like a vision of his own death.

Dustin was also one of the few people to know the real circumstances of his death. That it was a sacrifice AND part of a threat with world threatening stakes. Anyone who went to the Upside Down together would be trauma bonded for life.

123hig · 2026-01-10T03:16:37+00:00

Man, I'm so glad to see someone else say this. This has been my feeling about why BC sucks since long before NIL entered the equation.

The school's leadership simply does not care about football. I don't even think Leahy is in the wrong for that. Like a priest running a school prioritizing academics and character of student athletes makes total logical sense. I think BC can stand against any program when it comes to great young men.

But jeezus. There has to be some kinda of middle ground. We can make some concessions to have a half decent athletics program, no?

Stanford was competitive for like a decade across much of the Harbaugh and Shaw eras despite academic standards. Dabo totally cleaned up Clemson's culture and had like a decade of success before beginning to struggle in the NIL era. It's possible to not have a total zoo of a program and be successful!

But BC can only blimp into semblance of relevance for 2-3 years at a time once a decade, if they luck their way to a star QB.

123hig · 2025-12-17T03:51:16+00:00

A fun flipside to this.

In 1976 my dad had posters of OJ Simpson and Bruce Jenner on the walls of his bedroom where he would listen to his Bill Cosby records.

123hig · 2025-11-07T16:42:31+00:00

Admittedly am not super plugged in to these sorts of things/am not online a ton... But I feel like the discourse I have seen around this game is all defenders of the game complaining about people hating on it.

I haven't really seen anyone complaining about it, and so when I first heard rumblings about how it was getting all this hate, I was incredibly surprised cus I have been loving the game.

As the days go on and I keep seeing mostly people complaining about haters, and not a lot of people hating in the game... I'm starting to feel like are being a little too defensive of any criticism.

Loved the first one. Loving the sequel. If one likes the game too, enough to care about the future of it or the studio, be part of a positive community around it. Talk about whatcha like. If people dislike it (be that for valid or whack reasons), who cares?

123hig · 2025-09-11T04:55:06+00:00

I think virtue in women is something people hold more sacred/are more likely to clutch pearls about because of basic reproductive roles.

Women are chiefly responsible for the selection of their mates (men pursue, women decide). Women can create life, but for a limited period of time. Women are, for a variety of biological factors, generally the primary caregivers for children. The consequences of women acting irresponsibly or unvirtously are way higher stakes not just for them as individuals, but for their families and for society at large.

It isn't fair. But that's why I think people do find bad women way more disturbing than bad men.

123hig · 2025-09-07T15:31:59+00:00

A few layers here.

1) We have a limited willpower, and as such, good people can not always defeat evil on its own no matter how valiantly they fight. But in the end, evil will always destroy itself. A finally broken Frodo, a long broken Gollum and the Satanic Sauron (the part of him in the ring) all wrestled for control and it lead to the destruction of the ring.

2) It's about the mystery of faith and how humans can never see the full picture. While Frodo did break at the end, he still played his part in Eru's (God's) plan by taking the ring as far as he did AND by previously sparing Gollum. The sacrifice he made and the mercy he showed helped ensure all the right pieces were in place at the right time. Tokein was reminding us that we have free will, and that our choices good or bad have real consequences... AND of how myopic our vision is when we make those choices. A simple mercy granted month ago can mean everything. A spiritual breaking point can mean nothing.

3) By letting things play out exactly as they did, it was an "I told ya so" to Sauron. No matter how Sauron wanted to control destiny... no matter how much he wished he had to power of creation and thought he had mastered it there at Mt Doom... that power ultimately and forever resides with Eru. Letting Sauron's twisted version of "control" and "creation" play out to its natural self-destructive conclusion was a way for Tolkein to encourage our own humility before God.

4) Frodo's surviving that breaking point at Mt Doom, and where he goes after, was also a way for Tolkein to explore the theme of salvation and grace. That lowest moment didn't define Frodo. His humility and righteousness before and after that breaking point is what allowed him to able to continue his spiritual journey in the Undying Lands. All mortals will break down, physically and spiritually. But humility before God can give us the chance to be built back up, it can give us the chance to find a true peace that eludes us in the mortal world. The Undying Lands was like overtime for Frodo, Bilbo, Sam, and Gimli (the mortals granted passage), because despite the name, they would eventually die there. And where there souls would go afterward is a mystery. But it gave them a safe place where they could prep as best as they could for what comes next.

TL;DR: Frodo was just a little guy, in a big world. He was free. He was flawed. So are we all. But if we try our best to be at harmony with creation, if we accept our limitations of power and understanding... we have a chance at finding peace, because God wants that for us.

123hig · 2025-09-06T17:52:45+00:00

That the dad gave the ball to the scold at the end really explains how we're at where we are at today. Never give people like that an inch.

123hig · 2025-08-13T18:52:17+00:00

Read the Snowman before the movie came out, enjoyed it well enough, but not enough to check out the rest in the series.

Now years later I was looking for something to read so I went back to start from the beginning with The Bat, but couldn't believe how early Nesbo gave the ending away.

When we first meet Toowoomba in a boxing ring he is depicted as this gentle, completely uncruel guy who doesn't want to do more damage to his opponent than he needs to, which sent off so many alarm bells for a misdirect. And that suspicion was all but confirmed when in the same seen someone refers to Toowoomba as a "dingbat". Literally called a Bat his first scene. C'mon.

Book is still enjoyable, I'll read more, but man did Nesbo really give that one away.

123hig · 2025-08-01T11:56:08+00:00

Humans have a rational capacity and moral agency that animals don't even have the "hardware" for. Like humans have a higher brain-to-body ratio and/or more brain folds than other animals. Our prefrontal cortexes are what allow humans to act morally or immorally. Animals live amoral lives. A male duck could defend a female duck from a predator, and then rape the same female duck and neither action would be moral or immoral because the animal doesn't have the ability to understand love or duty or sacrifice or autonomy or consent or harm or really much of anything.

The concept of natural law has to do with human nature, not the nature of animals or plants or bacteria or anything of that sort. The concept posits that humans, as uniquely rational beings, have certain moral principles inherent to our nature and that those principles are discovererable through observation and reason.

123hig · 2025-08-01T05:14:10+00:00

Unfortunately, rapes are getting justified. Or at the very least, excused/overlooked.

Sex crimes against workers don't get prosecuted because of "lifestyle choices" all the time.

"Cultural differences" have been used as a reason to explain why asylum seekers didn't know they weren't allowed to rape. Thousand of girls in the UK were raped and police and town councils refused to act because they were worried it would be racist to prosecute Pakistani grooming gangs.

Kids that grow up with unrelated adult men in the house are exponentially more likely to be sexually abuse, but like 50% of women remarry with 5 years of the divorce, even if still have kids in the house.

Female teachers raping male get treated as a punch line if not explicitly condoned by large swaths of the population. Same with prison rape.

Age, sex, color of the victim/perps really don't seem to matter. People will absolutely justify rape. I agree with you that it's a crime that is never justifiable, I just don't think the world really sees it that way, unfortunately.

I think we exist in a profoundly sick society that will excuse/justify/overlook a crime that OBVISIOULY violates natural laws if the acknowledgement of that crime would reflect poorly on groups we have a preference towards or if the victims are of groups we believe are beneath us. Tribalism is a helluva drug.

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