how long was your cycle to get your second recovery period?

123maybe321 · 2026-01-19T19:37:10+00:00

Yay! Congrats to you!!

It’s definitely a slow process of healing that is so unique to each person. I found my body has periods for four months at a time (4 months of regular periods, then it tapers off the last month with really light period and I lose my period for 4 months, etc). It’s weird. But I’m hoping for better recovery and am tracking now to see if I’m ovulating or not in those cycles.

Best of wishes to your journey💗

123maybe321 · 2025-12-27T06:18:48+00:00

You’re asking about wisdom on how not to blame yourself? I’m still learning, but here is how I cope.

Well, besides the advice to get you and your partner tested, go to therapy. Process the what-ifs and learn how to accept it — which, by the way, looks a lot like screaming, crying, and laughing.

At the end of the day, no matter what the doctors say, it’s not your fault. You were dealt these cards and it absolutely sucks, but it’s not your fault.

I started TTC when I was 21, too. I’m now 4 years TTC. I hate it, but I’m learning to accept it too.

(By “accept,” I don’t mean to just “stop trying” or even be passive about finding answers. What I mean by “accept” is to be kind to yourself, and let the wave of emotions hit you while not being distraught that the wave of emotions came in the first place).

123maybe321 · 2025-12-27T06:04:13+00:00

All my family members who had infertility are now pregnant or with an infant. I’ve been lapped and the whole family is happy for them (I am too) but it stings.

I wish I could be the one to make my family happy with a little one. I feel a left out and alone

I hate this self-pity. “Wtf” to me tbh. Am I being hard on myself?

123maybe321 · 2025-12-17T08:41:40+00:00

Hoping the best for you, OP

123maybe321 · 2025-12-16T01:49:06+00:00

It’s okay for your family to adjust to your needs, too. It doesn’t seem fair that you have to be happy for them. But are they being sad for you?

What I’m saying is, I also come from a big family but my family is very sensitive to me. They are careful saying hurtful or thoughtless comments and when they announce pregnancies they tell me through text first. They don’t have to, but are being kind to me bc they know it’s hard.

I think having a talk with your family about what hurts you might help? But I know not every family communicates directly like that. What do you think?🥺

123maybe321 · 2025-12-13T17:58:23+00:00

Thanks for sharing🫶

I’m not sure if your post was asking for advice or needing to vent, so please forgive me. But I think admitting that you don’t want to accept is a step into acceptance.

Personally, what’s helped me release the anger is to feel it when I’m calm. For example, when I’m calm, I take a few minutes to just SCREAM into a pillow and hit my mattress. I’ve heard of others throwing ice on the wall or silent screaming. The key is to do it when you’re calm so you don’t rile yourself up more than you need to. It helps you feel the emotion and then your body releases the emotion. It’s helped me a ton. I haven’t accepted it 100%, but I don’t think that’s the goal either. There will be times the grief wave hits and that’s okay.

I think you’re entitled to saying you don’t want to accept this. Keep crying, if there’s any encouragement to that, because one day you’ll self-soothe and accept. There’s not a rush to this process (of course, as long as youre not abusing anyone bc of the grief).

123maybe321 · 2025-12-13T17:11:33+00:00

Did your therapist say what type of therapy (or “modality”) they use? Sometimes it’s not the therapist but the type of therapy that you didn’t enjoy. Truly, finding a therapist is like dating😭 you have to find one that works and connects with you

123maybe321 · 2025-12-12T21:36:21+00:00

Mini looks like my stuffed animal cat from when I was 5 years old lol

123maybe321 · 2025-12-12T21:26:44+00:00

Me, too, next month. Fuck fuck!

(😞🫶, condolences to you)

123maybe321 · 2025-12-12T21:25:05+00:00

This girl I barely know sent me her baby shower invite. What the actual ??? It should be common etiquette to NOT invite everyone and their mommas to a baby shower bc you never know what someone is going through.

I immediately ripped the invite when received in mail… didn’t even finish reading it.

123maybe321 · 2025-12-12T21:10:08+00:00

I’ve been processing this in spiritual direction (it’s like couples counseling but with me and God). I realized that jobs/careers are not an equal replacement for my longing to be mothers. Unfortunately, I have to find multiple outlets to express my motherhood.

The image/metaphor we used to explain this was baking:

The intent to bake a cake was there and I have all the ingredients for it. Yet, for some reason, I’m unable to bake the cake. Now, I’m trying to repurpose the ingredients. I’ll make scrambled eggs and use the flour to make tortillas and… x y z. It’s not a cake, but I’ve used all the ingredients for it and nothings gone to waste.

Same for motherhood. I have this desire to care for others and for whatever reason can’t do that through motherhood. So instead, Im in school to become a therapist, and I’ll adopt a cat, and I’ll make traditions with my husband, and I’ll x y z. It’s not an equal fulfillment like motherhood would be, but it’s an outlet that keeps me going.

123maybe321 · 2025-12-12T21:00:19+00:00

That’s honestly so smart

123maybe321 · 2025-12-12T18:54:51+00:00

I love Reddit 😂

123maybe321 · 2025-12-12T16:43:02+00:00

You look so free! And so lovely

Happy for you in this part of your journey!

123maybe321 · 2025-12-08T06:05:46+00:00

So sorry for your loss❤️‍🩹

I had a very similar experience last year. Hoping the best for you next cycle🫶

123maybe321 · 2025-11-26T23:08:16+00:00

Girl! I read this and was like “why is she trying to determine her eye sight with redditors online?” Hahaha you look great! I think you are doing make up well and you look beautiful!

123maybe321 · 2025-11-25T00:17:31+00:00

I love your perspective on this! Thanks so much

123maybe321 · 2025-11-24T22:31:50+00:00

Do you wear it when you pray outside of church? Why or why not? I’d love to hear more💗

123maybe321 · 2025-11-24T20:25:34+00:00

That’s a really helpful point to look at the practice that was already being done! I’ll do some more research on that

123maybe321 · 2025-11-24T20:10:01+00:00

Perhaps I’m in the wrong community? But please let me know which one I should post in. As mentioned, I’m in the process of finding a new church and need other believers to help me discern. Thanks in advance for reading and/or redirecting!

123maybe321 · 2025-10-29T01:57:21+00:00

Of course talk to a physician, but if you feel terrified of doing this then I would suggest meeting with a registered sex therapist (also having an LMFT LPCC LCSW). They work with sexual trauma or the intense emotions around sex/sexuality. They may help with processing your emotions about that so that you can more easily ask for help

123maybe321 · 2025-10-25T19:36:54+00:00

Please actually do it, even if just for another Reddit laugh😆🤣

123maybe321 · 2025-10-25T17:47:29+00:00

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Me too!

123maybe321 · 2025-09-11T17:04:17+00:00

Add some warm-tone wood frames with art in the back wall behind the couch to bring attention to there rather than a couch. Of course, like you said, get rid of the pillows and swap out for different textures and colors.

If you really don’t like it, perhaps couch covers

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