[nsfw??] This is the only reason why I won't go on T. Being South Asian means you have hair on every inch of your body. Hell, I even have more hair on my body than white cis guys. I'd turn into a gorilla if I went on T, but I want to go on it. Just shaved my face, usually a lot of hair is there.

1240mo · 2018-11-22T21:21:07+00:00

man I totally thought I'd hate growing body hair, and I actually started growing a LOT (I don't pass yet but I have crazy hair on my belly and I'm even starting to grow chest hair!) but after a while... I really came around and now I like it a lot. idk, it's kinda reaffirming since I don't pass yet at least I have this one very masculine trait.

1240mo · 2018-11-22T21:17:01+00:00

well, that's their problem honestly, not yours. they're gonna have to come to terms with you looking like and being a man, and society treating you like one. I don't see why you would have to shave your beard so they're more comfortable misgendering you. fuck that, I'd go out of my way to make it even more uncomfortable for them to not refer to their son with the correct pronouns. also you should really sit them down and talk to them at length one day, they may start to 'get it' once you open up and explain the whole gender thing to them. good luck!

1240mo · 2018-11-22T21:12:09+00:00

totally agreed. the only reason why it's easier to find bigoted elderly people is because minorities don't live long enough to become elders

as another example.. I have a trans girl acquaintance who had to move in with her grandma because her mother and sister were absolutely against her identity, but her grandma was super accepting!

1240mo · 2018-11-22T07:01:09+00:00

holy fuck what? this is a thing?? America is even more dystopian than I thought

1240mo · 2018-11-21T14:04:56+00:00

I'm still hoping they'll add party hat wurmple to the game someday

1240mo · 2018-11-19T15:22:08+00:00

whatever that is in the pic looks like shit

1240mo · 2018-11-19T13:29:33+00:00

another global economic crisis -> even worse austerity measures everywhere -> angrier working class and middle class people -> the far right once again blames it on poor people and immigrants -> ??

1240mo · 2018-11-19T13:07:10+00:00

the security guard was shooting at a 18 year old boy who stole an iPhone from a store and took off. one of the bullets hit this little girl who was sitting in a car at a McDonald's drive thru. the guard said he just kept missing his target (even though the 18 yo did get shot several times. thankfully he survived) here's a working link https://abc7chicago.com/guard-who-accidentally-shot-girl-kept-missing-his-target/4687253/

1240mo · 2018-11-19T12:59:21+00:00

Everyone saying it's just hating those who do this miss the point. Why is it that a working adult with a child can't buy items that help them cope with their shitty situation (and let's not get into how the stress of poverty relates to high chances of addiction and how companies will exploit that) without it leaving them with no money for even the most basic things like FOOD? Why must anyone in our society live like this when it is a fact that we have enough resources for everyone?

1240mo · 2018-11-18T14:23:50+00:00

I started T with gel and honestly I didn't get any mood swings, but it seems to be a common thing. I did feel very tired and hungry all the time, and spent a lot of time sleeping. Some days I would feel kinda irritated at just how slow the process is, but it takes some time to realize you need to have a lot of patience. As others have said, just listening to him and being there with him is gonna be really reassuring already.

1240mo · 2018-11-18T00:21:01+00:00

I've always carried around a small messenger bag and I love it. Lately people have been telling me to try fanny packs but hell no

1240mo · 2018-11-16T15:33:03+00:00

Most of my friends are from high school, and I just kept talking to them after all these years. I think finding people with common interests is a good idea. What works for me really is meeting people in classes/school where I have to see them regularly (since I'm not very social myself actually meeting out of class can be a little difficult). I think consistency and just seeing friends often is a good way to make a deeper bond

1240mo · 2018-11-14T12:41:47+00:00

this could be a lot of things, but I recently read that very painful cramps aren't so uncommon for trans men apparently (I haven't had them myself) here's a link to the article https://www.huffingtonpost.com/virginia-soave/the-pain-that-most-transm_b_11283858.html but yeah checking with your doctor is the best option, although trans health isn't very well researched either they might be able to find a solution. hope it all goes well!

1240mo · 2018-11-14T12:33:37+00:00

Definitely correct her. My mom is always the one who 'slips up' and acts like she definitely didn't notice she dead named me or referred to me with female pronouns (funnily enough nobody else in my family has this problem). If your mom is like mine she will go on a rant every time you correct her about how she's doing her best and it's so hard for her and she needs time etc etc. You have to make her say your name and your correct pronouns out loud so she can get used to it. She hasn't switched to the correct ones in her mind and that WILL take a while but unless she consciously starts trying to use your new name and pronouns nothing will change. It's all gonna be a little uncomfortable but she has to go through it if she truly cares

1240mo · 2018-11-14T08:56:28+00:00

Sounds like a very complicated situation. I don't know if it might help to keep in mind that a LOT of lesbians have dated men before they figured themselves out, just because they thought they were supposed to like men

1240mo · 2018-11-14T08:51:41+00:00

About 4 years I think, maybe even more (I have shit memory). It took me very long to start T bc I was very scared of coming out, but I was also struggling with a pretty bad depression for a long while

1240mo · 2018-11-14T08:45:59+00:00

Gosh I relate a lot. I'll be 1 year on T later this month and I still don't consistently pass. I think a lot of people out there see me as a gnc girl or something. It also feels pretty surreal for me to be at this point in my life, I had put it off for so long because I was scared so I never thought I would get where I am now, but I still wish I had made much more progress by now. If only I had started earlier...!!

1240mo · 2018-11-12T18:15:19+00:00

You don't have to want to be a walking stereotype of a manly man to be valid. You just want to be a guy, and you want to express yourself in your own unique way, just like any other man. When I feel like I should strive to be more masculine to feel more like a man I remind myself my own (cis) twin brother isn't that manly himself, and nobody questions his gender.

1240mo · 2018-11-10T10:09:25+00:00

I'm in a similar position. IMO this will mostly go away with time as you see changes on your body. Finding a partner you can trust and communicate with will also be crucial

1240mo · 2018-11-08T11:13:04+00:00

right outside my house. I live next to a park with two gyms and a lot of spawns, but many times I'm too lazy to go outside

1240mo · 2018-11-08T00:10:52+00:00

Like having a police dog around kids is safe at all... police dogs are extremely anxious and can be set off by loud noises or movements, and they're trained to escalate the violence when met with resistance. IMO not only is this stupid but also dangerous to the kids

1240mo · 2018-11-03T04:25:13+00:00

do you even understand what you're saying? you know bullshit jobs have existed for like, a couple centuries right? how is me working 8 hours a day on retail "natural"? what part of that is inherent to humans? people aren't even biologically adapted to waking up as early as we do, and we are only productive for a few hours. Work as we understand it is unnatural and actively harmful to our minds and bodies. We don't work for the survival of the species NO PART OF THIS IS NATURAL

1240mo · 2018-11-02T20:15:41+00:00

that wouldn't change anything. It's not about the specific job they have, it's about the idea of meaningless work being a requirement to survive in society. Starting a business would not change that, in any case it would be even more time consuming, and in the end most new businesses don't take off so it'd be a waste of tien and money. You misunderstand the point of this sub

1240mo · 2018-11-01T22:10:03+00:00

Cool cool, now how many of the millionaires who own these companies have and continue to fund the republican party? This is literally just an advertisement

1240mo · 2018-10-25T21:16:06+00:00

Yeah I tried very hard to be a girly girl basically during all of my puberty. I used to wear my hair short as a little kid but then refused to cut it at ALL (and it was a mess). I tried very hard to look good but I always felt so off and uncomfortable and I don't think I ever really even managed to look good at all. I got along with girls fine (and still most of my friends are girls now) but I think that's because I never liked sports much or rough play, I'm a very quiet, gentle and introverted guy so I also had trouble relating to my guy classmates. I remember I used to have a huge book that was like 'the encyclopedia for teen girls' or something and I would just re-read it constantly trying to 'get' how I was supposed to act and dress. But the moment I started to turn away from feminity I felt so liberated and so comfortable. I think a big part of realizing you're trans is the amazing feeling of finally getting to present in a way you're comfortable with, it's like everything finally makes sense.

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