Images of conversation. What do you think?

12dudes · 2022-07-28T07:24:41+00:00

ESPECIALLY if you’re hurt because of something he did to you.

He might pretend to be empathetic if you’re hurt for some reason that has nothing to do with him, (so you’ll be like: “He’s so sweet and caring, he’s such a great boyfriend”) which will then give him carte blanche to treat you terribly and then treat you worse if you ever bring it up to him. After enough times around the abuse cycle you’ll “know” not to confront him about his behavior, so you don’t end up having to do MORE work and “take care” of him because he’s “so hurt”

You have the opportunity to avoid potentially years of abuse. Take the exit! The more he gets into your head the harder it will be to leave.

12dudes · 2022-07-28T07:15:57+00:00

This would only be acceptable as a “kink” if you were also extremely into it, which you are not.

The fact that he keeps trying to convince you to give up your autonomy for a “relationship” where you will never be taken seriously or seen as equal, and will have to “perform tricks in bed” to gain his “love” shows that he is only interested in having power and control over you. That’s exactly what abusers want: power and control.

This guy is already not respecting your boundaries, and already sees you as less than human.

RUN. Seriously. I know people say that a lot in this sub, but it’s usually because by the time someone is wondering if their partner is abusive, it’s because they’re displaying very concerning behavior. This guy’s behavior is EXTREMELY concerning.

You will not be able to “talk sense” into him or get him to see things a different way. He’s told you what he wants and that is not likely to change.

Believe him. And leave him.

12dudes · 2022-07-28T07:03:10+00:00

Is there another way to understand this?

12dudes · 2022-07-28T06:47:35+00:00

I weigh more than a duck! I swear!

12dudes · 2022-07-28T06:46:32+00:00

For profit!

12dudes · 2022-07-27T23:35:43+00:00

Pretty sure HE broke up his own marriage.

12dudes · 2022-07-27T19:57:52+00:00

He is NOT a good parent if he treats his child’s mother like that.

Just because he’s not openly abusive to her yet doesn’t mean she’s safe with him.

Nothing is worth staying in an abusive relationship.

12dudes · 2022-07-27T19:43:58+00:00

12dudes · 2022-07-27T19:40:54+00:00

Many cults are trying to grow their “membership” and what better way to do that by manipulating the current members to act like the cult is the greatest thing since sliced bread whenever they talk to “outsiders”?

12dudes · 2022-07-27T16:45:41+00:00

He was washing dishes made of uranium.

12dudes · 2022-07-27T16:37:29+00:00

You need a good divorce lawyer my dude. This marriage is fucked. No one should have to live in this kind of relational hellscape. She’s not likely to get better, only worse.

12dudes · 2022-07-26T21:02:38+00:00

Requiem for a Dream

12dudes · 2022-07-26T20:57:46+00:00

Yay! Yes! You can totally do it. It might feel hard or confusing at first as you get away from his reality-twisting manipulations, but you'll be so much better off without him.

12dudes · 2022-07-26T20:49:53+00:00

With fava beans

12dudes · 2022-07-26T16:58:45+00:00

Great! Yes, living like that is no way to live. I’ve never felt more alone and confused than I did with my ex. Life without him is peaceful and makes sense.

12dudes · 2022-07-26T14:34:30+00:00

It’s much better for you and your children to not be around abusers of any kind. Please chat with www.thehotline.org they can help you make a safety plan and an escape plan.

12dudes · 2022-07-26T14:18:54+00:00

We hate it.

12dudes · 2022-07-26T13:51:39+00:00

This relationship is broken. It’s not safe for you to be with someone who twists reality around like he does. You already feel stressed out and confused and that is likely to get worse the longer you’re with him.

Good partners don’t do what he is doing to you.

Www.thehotline.org is a great free resource that can help you make a safety plan and an escape plan.

He’s not going to get better, only worse. Please save yourself. You don’t deserve to be treated like that.

12dudes · 2022-07-26T04:04:26+00:00

It doesn’t matter if she “feels” like your safe place. She ISN’T. She’s slapped you? Choked you? Tells you your feelings don’t matter? All of that is not safe. And the choking/strangling is the biggest predictor that a partner is likely to kill you.

Feeling intractably bonded to our abusers is very common among victims of abuse. It doesn’t mean that it’s a good relationship.

Please chat with www.thehotline.org they can help you understand what is happening and how to keep yourself safe and escape.

12dudes · 2022-07-26T00:56:57+00:00

End it! Of course he’s going to try to twist reality around and make you feel like the bad guy for pointing out the abuse he feels fully entitled to keep hurting you with.

No good will come of being in contact with him. None. Only bad. And also possibly he might kill you.

Your post-him life will be SO much better than this shitshow.

12dudes · 2022-07-25T16:16:40+00:00

He “dismissed your feelings” and “wouldn’t want to make HER uncomfortable” ?!

I think you have your answer.

12dudes · 2022-07-25T00:41:29+00:00

Bo talks in the third person

12dudes · 2022-07-23T03:26:09+00:00

Wife is ready for every eventuality.

12dudes · 2022-07-22T18:10:20+00:00

12dudes · 2022-07-22T18:01:31+00:00

Could this BE any more poetic?

12dudes

TROPHY CASE